Beta faggot trying to change

Aggressive_Beta · 2018-05-24T15:09:02+00:00

The second you realize you’re a beta faggot is the second you begin your process of permanently changing that.

kap1pa · 2018-05-24T16:24:36+00:00

First off, stop calling yourself a faggot.

X--Man · 2018-05-24T14:31:44+00:00

Lift, get bigger. People tend to talk less shit when it appears that you can rip their head and arms off with ease.

It also sounds like you might be 15-17 years old. This shit will pass in time. Surround yourself by people who arent jackasses.

Other than that, read the sidebar...everything you need is there.

snaptogrid · 2018-05-24T17:18:33+00:00

Get in shape. Get good at a few useful things -- and NOT videogames, stuff like math or cooking. Read some good books about how the world really works. Watch some good documentaries on the same topic. Start experimenting with girls and sex. Read Heartiste, especially his 16 Commandments of Poon. Before you know it, time will have passsed and you'll be away from the losers who are bugging you now.

https://heartiste.wordpress.com/the-sixteen-commandments-of-poon/

idontknowmeanymore7 · 2018-05-24T14:51:12+00:00

https://youtu.be/zvtUrjfnSnA Accept the pain. Gather strength. Get broken and reborn.

Thunderfin · 2018-05-24T17:54:31+00:00

Sidebar. Books. Lifting.

CaragorRider · 2018-05-24T19:02:46+00:00

Just my two cents, you evidently do not have any respect for yourself. Monk mode for at least 3 months : NoFap, No videogames, no shitty tv shows (might as well go noTV, beside news channel and dedicated history/science channels there's really nothing worth watching in monk mode), go to bed at 10pm max, your goal is to wake up before your alarm clock, do as much productive work as you can:I meditate, do some cardio and abs/glutes bodyweight circuits, read a good self-help book or something related to my major. Read Cal Newport's books ASAP, listen/watch CollegeInfoGeek videos while you're doing chores/working out (Yes, you will be able to lift without Rob Bailey & The Hustle Standard)make crushing it in school your #2 priority,just after your physical and mental health : you should also consider taking a multivitamin, drink 2 glasses of water after every meal and keep your crib spotless (does wonders for your mental state). Once you've internalized these habits and pimp-slapped your teachers opinion on you move on to your social needs: Become a charming and sexy motherfucker : Read the ''Charisma Myth'' by Olivia Cabane and ''How to win friends and influence people'' (No, if your frame is strong being charming won't make you look beta, think James Bond or Pierce Brosnan in ''The Thomas Crown affair'') as for being alpha/building frame/become confident and assertive you can find plenty of resources online. Moving on to grooming I can't recommend enough ''The handsome factor'' if you want a book but you can find plenty of resources online too. Once people respond well to you do shit with them, it is really not that hard a simple ''What are you doing this weekend?'' will suffice. Your goal is not just to enjoy yourself with some cool people (even though it should be your priority)but to get ''vetted'' into their social circle. Once you've done that repeat with other dudes/ social circles, your goals is to become the guy everyone knows (MASSIVE boost to your SMV as well). As for your esteem needs, you're already in the top 20% of your class (and aiming to move up) if you've got other hobbies beside Working out consistently( even if being knowledgeable about the various theories of bodybuilding, simple anatomy and if you really aim for the bonus points a brief history of bodybuilding at least 'untill Schwarzenegger, I personally can't see the point in what happened to it later) you should aim to become a master at them too : Read, schedule,apply,repeat, that's it. Trust me, nobody, not even yourself would dare to call you a faggot after 3 months of doing that. Let us know how you're faring three months from now. Good luck bro.

RisenFromBelow · 2018-05-24T16:24:12+00:00

Why are you being depressed about it? If anything, I would love the criticism. Why do I love it? Because you are your own project. There'll be people that will want to help/work with you and there are people in the backseat that will give criticism. Sometimes the criticism part is either out of jealously, making fun of you or constructive criticism.

Work on your project. Plan and design to achieve a particular aim. You can't get any worse than you are now. You can only get better. Fix your appearance. The confidence and frame will come with it.

Aralant · 2018-05-24T16:44:47+00:00

Don't let it get to you. As you get older, I'm talking like 20 years old the crowds you hang around become more mature your appearance will seldom come up in conversation.

As previously mentioned exercise, if you're overweight this will give you a stronger jawline and if you're skinny this will fill you out.

As for maintaining frame when insulted, ask yourself "is this person important enough to warrant a response?" Most likely the answer is no. In which case you should give a slight glance maybe 2 seconds long then continue your conversation with someone else. This makes the bully feel irrelevant, but more important this makes them look irrelevant to the rest of the people there.

If the person is important then chances are they are looking for self validation by putting you down which imo is worse that just trying to be mean to you. If you absolutely must gain rapport with this individual I recommend you amplify to the point of absurdity. Example "Dude your face is really ugly." "I know right I should act in movies lol" Then quickly move on with the conversation.

MattyAnon · 2018-05-24T20:26:25+00:00

People have zero respect to me and im looking forward to changing that but can you even regain frame to people that know you are a beta?

yes but it's hard work and even if you do you should start again with others

What do i do when someone insults my look?

not care

I use to just ignore that or ask him " why do you say that"

ask no questions, even rhetorically

What are some essential tips regarding confidence and a good frame?

built yourself, stop needing anything from others that you can't easily get.

How to not give a fuck?

prioritise YOU.

Like i let stuff get into my head and make me depressed pretty easily

stop needing anything from other people. if you need nothing from them, you won't care what they say and do. and then you won't get into your head worrying about it

RedPillAlphaBigCock · 2018-05-24T20:43:50+00:00

Step #1 Lift NOW

Step #2 Lift NOW

Step #3 Read a bit of the side bar and top posts on here every day

Step #4 About the insults - It dosn't matter what you say - It only matters if you REACT - So if you get insulted laugh it off and fire back WITHOUT EMOTIONALLY REACTING - Baciscally this post here but for guys: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/5fihmu/how_to_get_laid_like_a_warlord_37_rules_of/

bosshawg502 · 2018-05-24T22:21:11+00:00

Probably one of the better things to do would be DO very little to begin with. Don't go in and read Red Pill theory and try to change yourself completely all at once. For starters, it doesn't work that way, and also you'll end up looking like some try hard wannabe to everyone you know. Take it one step at a time and ease into it that way the transition isn't so abrupt and people look at you like who the hell is this guy supposed to be now? Like these guys said start lifting. Do it quietly and at your own pace. No Instagram selfies from the gym, no "body positivity" posts etc. let the gains come and people will notice on their own. From there, keep reading the sidebar, applying theory pieces at a time to your daily life and it will slowly start to come together and work in your favor. Before you know it, you'll be top dog in your social circle and the people that used to shut you down will now be looking at YOU for validation, YOU to lead the group activities etc. take it in your stride be collected and you'll be just fine

claptilley · 2018-05-24T22:33:43+00:00

First step is to stop putting yourself down. So you got some shit wrong. We all do. Constantly. Learn from it. Learn why it happened. Learn what was in your control. Read. Read. Read. Gym. Gym. Gym. Confidence grows from discipline. This is not a light switch. It is a lifestyle change. You got questions. Ask them. Dont preface them by calling yourself beta or faggot. Nothing of value happened when you did this. Not for us. Not for you.

kyzen142 · 2018-05-24T23:25:09+00:00

It takes courage bro. You already know what to do you are just afraid to do it. Decide to live your life courageously and start working out and doing things that get you closer to ur goals cuz that will help give you the energy to have the courage. It is a mindset and the mindset is that you are ready to take/handle any negative reaction that might come from practising courage. And yes you can establish respect with people that already think you are beta but be warned they will react very strongly cuz it will shatter their reality of you but hold your ground whatever happens.

chadjugo · 2018-05-24T18:29:03+00:00

Do you approach?

itiswr1tten · 2018-05-24T18:50:43+00:00

I wrote this for someone else but it'll help you too

This is a classic example of what is termed a "victim puke". You're barfing out self loathing without a discernible purpose or lesson learned. Let me help:

• Hating yourself is not self improvement

• Recognizing that you are a loser is step zero, not step one

• Acknowledging failure without attempting to learn from it is as useless as coming here to cry about it

So, if you want to fill this giant emotional black hole and stop repulsing sexual prospects, figure out these things:

• What are you good at, and how can you maximize it?

• What do you not like about yourself, and how can you break the cycle of obsessing about it?

• Understand what your actual mission in life is RIGHT NOW (I.e. What's the next thing you must accomplish, not "do it immediately")

With less self loathing you'll free up head space. With more head space you can reflect. With reflection you can create a plan. With a plan your actions will be congruent with your mission. Congratulations, you'll be much less of a loser at this point. Good luck

shadowfuse8 · 2018-05-24T19:03:02+00:00

Being aware is the first step towards changing! Stop giving a fuck about everyone's opinions and just keep trying with everything. Mistakes = Experience = Results. Go to the gym instead of hanging around those haters. Sleep on the floor for better posture. Go out at night by yourself and see who you actually are. All of these have helped me and I hope they do the same for you!

Wrath_of_Trump · 2018-05-24T19:27:56+00:00

It's less complicated than you think. Stop doing the things you are currently doing, and start doing the things you aren't.

redd_reality · 2018-05-24T20:18:31+00:00

So i realized im a pathetic beta faggot just recently. I've been seeking for validation,

We all do this to some degree. It'll never go away totally and you wouldn't want it to. Just scale it back to a healthy level.

I am trying very hard to gain confidence but its a hard and long process after so many years of low self esteem. People have zero respect to me and im looking forward to changing that but can you even regain frame to people that know you are a beta?

Often people who know you won't align with your new level of self respect. Those people were never friends. Axe them and move on.

Also, building frame and self esteem takes years of consistent effort and actually raising your smv until your environment respects you at the level you respect you. Don't worry if you're not there, just keep working st it and trust it will get there eventually.

What do i do when someone insults my look? Like some faggot tends to laugh from time to time saying my hair is shit my face looks dumb and my posture is retarded. I use to just ignore that or ask him " why do you say that" which i know is beta as fuck but i didnt realize it untill recently. What are some essential tips regarding confidence and a good frame? How to not give a fuck? Like i let stuff get into my head and make me depressed pretty easily

You sound like you're in grade school, so what I would recommend is either stand your ground 110% as in, call him out directly and make him apologize. If he does anything less than that, square up with him and throw down.

Alternatively, walk away. You don't need to be hanging in the same peer group as people who disrespect you. Hint: those aren't "friends" but very real enemies. They would hurt you severely given the chance. Cut em lose. It's better to be alone than surrounded by fagget scum.

And btw, you're not the beta fagget, they are. You're reaching out for real advice on how to become better and more valuable - they choose to reinforce their incompetence and low value by calling others down. I already respect you more than I respect them.

ADeadDawg · 2018-05-24T21:02:00+00:00

everybody is a beta faggot at that age bro.. you will grow into your masculinity with time. Men age like wine, so long as you take the proper steps. Make sure you're physically active, eat healthy, and wear clothes that are simple yet stylish that fit properly.

MikeAlphaGolf · 2018-05-24T22:53:10+00:00

Good advice here.

18 is a very hard time in your life if you are not one of the cool kids. So much hot pussy around that you can’t touch. People going to college. All the good shit.

You can improve your lot faster than you think though. As everyone says, start with the lifting. Get a good haircut and do what you can to improve your style. In a few months you will soo improvements. By 20 you could be a whole different man.

Watch how you carry yourself. Talk less. But walk into every room like you own the place. Don’t wallow in pity. Work your way out of it.

Ill_Will7 · 2018-05-24T22:59:19+00:00

Lift. Gives you energy confidence and raises smv.

kick6 · 2018-05-24T15:55:10+00:00

You let someone tell you that your hair looks shit without unhinging their jaw?

Thethrowawayoption · 2018-05-24T19:11:07+00:00

can you even regain frame to people that know you are a beta?

Only after you spend years improving yourself and the dramatic change finally shocks them. It's not something to pursue directly in the short term (like, a year or two) because realizing you're a beta doesn't change anything instantly. Basically all you can do instantly is focus on improving yourself. Losing beta tendencies is not a fast or easy process. Thankfully this is what you need to be doing anyway to get to a point where you are different enough others will eventually be forced to see it.

What do i do when someone insults my look? Like some faggot tends to laugh from time to time saying my hair is shit my face looks dumb and my posture is retarded.

If you don't have comebacks, you don't have comebacks. That's the way life is. Use insults as motivational fuel for self improvement. Fuck those guys you're going to work even harder.

First, lift. Research and make sure you're wearing the best haircut for your face. Research and make sure your posture is strong. None of this will stop stupid teenagers from saying dumb shit, but if you know internally that you look great, then your reaction to their teasing will be to immediately laugh at them because they obviously don't know shit about what's fashionable or handsome.

What are some essential tips regarding confidence and a good frame? How to not give a fuck? Like i let stuff get into my head and make me depressed pretty easily

Unshakable confidence comes either from genetic predisposition, or from the experience of using your skills. You don't have the first, so you need the second two things: skills, and experience using them. When you've faced challenges so many times that you know you can handle things well even when you lose, then you won't be uncertain going into the situation anymore. Aim for skills first. Experience will come as you train them.

In the meantime, while you're not yet internally confident, you should outwardly emulate the postures and behaviors of people who do seem confident. This will go some distance towards making you feel actually more confident as your behavior can affect thinking--not just the other way around. Stand up straight with your shoulders back. As a bonus strangers will perceive it as real confidence too, which will help feed back into your growing confidence. How would you stand or walk if you were the most confident, attractive man in the world?

i let stuff get into my head and make me depressed pretty easily

Any time you notice a negative thought like this repeating, refocus on positive stuff. Mentally take time to remember and congratulate yourself for doing stuff right even if it seems small. Finished your homework for the week? Got in a trip to the gym today? Good job! Don't minimize that because it's exactly what you needed to be doing and you're entitled to be proud of yourself for at least a few seconds.

If you really haven't done anything in the last day or week, focus on the immediate future. Choose what you're going to do, set a time you can do it, and then follow through. Keep a calendar if you have to. Even if you don't finish the task or succeed, congratulate yourself for putting in effort. All positive action needs to be rewarded and reinforced. All negative thoughts and actions should be learned from and then set aside.

Scholes_SC2 · 2018-05-24T22:30:29+00:00

Hey man. I've been the same all my life, I'm 30 and still a beta loser. I've known this for very long but I haven't been able to change.

My goal is not to discourage you, on the contrary, as an experienced loser (lol) I want to tell you the things I wish someone had told me when I was your age.

First of, lift. Get better, faster and stronger physically. I can't even begin to tell you how much this could help you.

Improve yourself every day by learning practicing a skill.

Surround yourself with good people and remember that balance is super important. Every relationship, be it a gf or just friends need to be balanced. If someone in a relationship is benefiting more from the relationship It's not healthy.

And of course if someone is making fun of you or disrespecting you in some way, make it stop no matter what. The more you wait the worst it gets.

Good luck my friend, I hope you don't fail as I have.

Title	Beta faggot trying to change
Author	imadruid
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Date	May 24, 2018 2:13 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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