Breaking up and the Dog

VasiliyZaitzev · 2020-12-22T22:27:15+00:00

Did I fuck that up?

How would you have fucked it up? The two of you are breaking up, who gives a shit what she thinks?

I legit know a guy who started dating a single mom (strike one) let her move in (strike two) and then when she dumped him and moved out he let her have their dog because her son "loved it so much".

A month later when the kid lost interest, she took it to a shelter.

Didn't call him, didn't ask if he would take the dog back, just dropped it off, and he found out about it months later, too late to get it back. So no, fuck bitches, never let them keep a pet that they didn't bring into the relationship.

themostgianthorse · 2020-12-22T20:22:19+00:00

If you can get the dog and raise him in a good environment, do it. Not exactly sure what your situation is but all things being equal, you have just as much of a right to him as she does.

If not, you’re just gonna have to let him go. It’ll definitely suck.

And as you seem to be aware, none of this “you can see him sometimes” shit.

I gave up several grand in my divorce so my ex wife could stay in our house so that our dog wouldn’t have to give up the yard she loved so much. I feel for you on this one man. In hindsight, that wasn’t the most pragmatic move for me and Id do it t differently if given the chance today.

Herdsengineers · 2020-12-22T22:42:35+00:00

Gonna be a hard hearted guy here but if you break up, move out, take the dog. Just do it. There won't be any rules about who gets the dog other than possession is 9/10th's of the law. You don't need to tell her about it ahead of time. Just find a place and move out, and take the dog, without warning to her. You don't owe a woman that has devolved like that the courtesy of prior notice. And giving it to her can actually lead to things that are bad for you, like false allegations and court orders to keep paying her rent while you're tossed out of the place. Be smart for you, don't warn her she's about to have to find another provider. Hell, if you can, find a couch, take the dog, and just leave with your stuff. Put it in storage until you find yourself a new permanent place. Break the lease, pay the extra cost, and be done with it. She can sort herself out as she sees fit while she smokes as much weed as she can.

By the way, liking her parents and her brother are no basis for maintaining a relationship with her at all. If she wants to be lazy like that, let her but on someone else's couch. Nothing wrong with deciding that her current evolution is not acceptable and moving on from it. The sooner the better.

Reasonable-Sense-377 · 2020-12-22T20:31:40+00:00

Having different political ideologies is like cheering for two opposing sports team.

Neither of you is ever going to make any real political difference in the world and so its a stupid reason to break up.

Own-Twist1970 · 2020-12-22T20:52:48+00:00

Had this exact situation happen to me at the start of UK lockdown in March.

Saw the dog a few times in the beginning, but cut all contact and it was undoubtedly the right decision, but I miss that dawg.

bumbandit999 · 2020-12-22T21:22:45+00:00

Let her keep it. Problem solved

kclanton80 · 2020-12-23T01:12:32+00:00

Let the dog go....it will be painful but it will help you learn a lesson. She will likely give him to you in a few months anyway as women are extremely lazy, and dont know how to train or care for an animal. Mostly dont care to.

She is keeping him out of spite but I bet that won't last long. Cut ties clean with her. Delete nu ber, block social media, no contact with her family. Just get started on the process of moving on

RPU_mike · 2020-12-23T04:02:03+00:00

Leave the girl, take the dog.

trpppp123 · 2020-12-22T21:58:50+00:00

Who paid for the dog and who has ownership of the dog?

Rodent9 · 2020-12-22T23:12:29+00:00

You could offer $ for the dog, or vice versa. I’ve heard of divorcees offering $300k for the family dog.

shittyfuckdick · 2020-12-23T00:57:14+00:00

Don’t have an answer but I was in a similar situation except with a cat. Had that for 4 years with her and loved it. Now she left and I let her keep it since she pretty much took care of it. She also promised she’d send me pics and we could setup visits so I can see her again.

It’s been 4 months and I haven’t spoken to her since she left. It sucks but her and my cat are basically just dead to me. Time to get a dog or something.

Bear-With-Bit · 2020-12-23T07:09:47+00:00

I had a harder time getting over the dog than my ex wife. It really does suck but you'll only make it worse for the dog if you see him only occasionally. Focus on your own life and get your own pup.

Mr_Badass · 2020-12-24T12:33:30+00:00

Adopt a new dog. You can have a new strong dog instead of a "little guy" who is always sick. Make a viking grave with his toys and dog stuff. Say your goodbyes and move on. It's a cruel cold world out there but that's life.

DatRiggz · 2020-12-24T23:10:23+00:00

Take the dog wtf

itiswr1tten · 2020-12-23T06:05:12+00:00

If your name is on the papers just take it when you move out. No compromise goes both ways

throw-away-1709 · 2020-12-22T20:30:33+00:00

This is askTRP here. What was your precise question regarding RP?

Title	Breaking up and the Dog
Author	DaTacularHB
Upvotes	16
Comments	40
Date	December 22, 2020 8:09 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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