Date has plans for after date.

vandaalen · 2018-01-10T22:58:41+00:00

She might not be sure about her feelings for you and this is her easy way out. I'd go for it, but have plans as well, but don't tell her.

Be the sexiest motherfucker you can and give her the best time she ever had, while escalating hard. Then, when the time comes, just say. "K. Thanks for the time. Have to leave now." as if it's completely normal. and actually leave. The harder the break, the better.

Then let her bake for two days or so, before you set up a third date. This time at either of your places. You can imagine the rest.

pandfour · 2018-01-10T22:25:25+00:00

Proceed as normal. She can always cancel plans with her "girlfriends" if you seem like more fun.

Just make sure it ends on a good note. Not you being butthurt she is choosing to leave early.

walawalawa · 2018-01-11T00:14:23+00:00

Make plans of your own and meet her for a quick drink. Game her, move in for the k-close. At the moment her buying temperature is high look at your watch and say "I have to go..."

When she protests "Whyyyyy?"

Say, "I have plans, i'll be in touch.."

She set this up as a way of getting out of things if they don't go according to her plans.

Be cool, maintain frame.

SoakMyBigCork · 2018-01-10T22:25:33+00:00

Did you know about these plans before you set the date or did she spring it on you after? There’s a huge difference between the two scenarios.

Ivabighairy1 · 2018-01-11T01:42:08+00:00

Don't spend a dime on her. She'll be fucking Chad later.

Rollo_Mayhem3 · 2018-01-11T00:36:12+00:00

As others have said, she "made plans" to give herself an exit strategy if she doesn't dig you. The fact that this is now the second date is troublesome. She should know if she wants to fuck you or not (attraction). She may be giving you a second look. How did the first date pay out, did she bail early?

The day date is a tough one imo because naturally their is a progression to a date that is more conducive to sex. Earlier dates cab be more problematic because of work the next day, people drink less when they have to get up...etc...

I always date between 7 and 8 o'clock Friday or Saturday and they always involve drinks logistically near my place or where I intend to be should my kino attempt fail. Unless the girl is approaching 8-9 status, I may loosen up those requirements because I have confidence in my ability to generate attraction. However, I hate to goto work late or feel hungover or have to drive home to change in the morning etc..

Anyway, you almost have to be the one to pull out early then her stated time and she what she says...but either she will join you at the next bar or club or party or not...but you'll say ok, cool..kiss her again and move on..stoic AF and go out and get another girl, that's it. .be normal but a bit flirty and touchy...try to think about any thing she might have done or said that cause her to pause...and calibrate appropriately. Either you didn't esculated enough or she didn't feel you had enough SMV, get a haircut, use gel, cologne, and make a little more effort. The fact you are getting a second look means whatever it is..is likely a minor tweak.

1Pink1Stink · 2018-01-10T22:10:01+00:00

If I liked her i'd go. If all I wanted was sex, then I wouldn't go.

htbf · 2018-01-10T22:33:06+00:00

Just go.

phuckyothots · 2018-01-11T02:04:57+00:00

Who gives a fuck about her time constraint. Just go there and do you, and who knows, you might end up doing her if you feel like it.

Seriously though you give too much of a fuck that it's disgraceful. I pity you.

Good luck.

AnjaJutta · 2018-01-10T22:57:30+00:00

As another poster said, if you are good enough she will cancel those extra plans. It may even be one of those good old comfort tests y'all talk about. "Does he care about me or my vajayjay? Will he show up if there's no promise of the sex?"

360_no_scope_upvote · 2018-01-10T22:59:10+00:00

You should have a time constraint on your regular dates anyway. Leaving and being apart creates attraction. Treat this as any old shit test and power through it. Have fun and part ways, she's more than likely made up in her mind she's not going to fuck you on the second date. But you can then go fuck one of your other plates or do whatever you want with your time.

huge_gap · 2018-01-11T00:57:10+00:00

Day dates usually suck. Meet at a bar and take her home afterwards. Best strategy ive worked with.

[deleted] · 2018-01-11T01:03:43+00:00

You can go but she's basically setting up a contingency to flake.

If you were Chad she would cancel her plans to spend more time with you.

TakeEverything · 2018-01-11T02:07:26+00:00

now I'm gonna feel under pressure the whole time.

That's unnecessary. There's no pressure.

GunnarX · 2018-01-11T04:38:49+00:00

This happened with the last girl I was seeing, but she didn’t tell me until we were on the date together. I ended up joining her to the plans and all was well.

As others have said, she is probably just covering her ass and having an out (do women ever NOT do this? Think of how 50% or them have a back-up man). Don’t take it personally, be yourself and I even think you could end up getting the f-close while she cancels those plans.

jay_jay_man · 2018-01-10T23:46:37+00:00

The purpose of a date is to have sex. If sex is impossible, then the date is a waste of your time.

WolfenSatyr · 2018-01-13T01:01:18+00:00

And? You should have the same attitude.

Her: I'm meeting with a girlfriend later

Me: Cool. Me too.

mrbfs · 2018-01-10T22:23:44+00:00

Cancel date and say you made other plans for the WHOLE night. Your time is worth more than being slotted in to her schedule. Keep your frame.

Title	Date has plans for after date.
Author	Sittingonabigbluebox
Upvotes	13
Comments	28
Date	January 10, 2018 10:08 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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