Does love from a women exist for a man?

MoreAlfa · 2021-03-23T02:57:52+00:00

Women love how you make them feel. You make them feel feminine. You make them feel safe. You make them feel desired. Not thirsty desire, but desire from a strong man. The above man desiring them makes them feel valuable.

Women love how you make them feel about themselves.

Of course women will love you through hard times--as long as they can trust you. Trust your grit. Trust your determination. Trust your dedication. Trust your strength.

We talk about becoming a man of value because women want a man of value. All of the above things are controllable by you.

T-C96 · 2021-03-23T00:53:56+00:00

Yes. Not every couple hates each other. Just because some dude didn't read The Rational Male doesn't mean his wife is cheating on him.

Vet girls with qualities and personality traits you're interested in and make sure they're up to your standards. You'll have much better odds than the first attractive girl interested in touching your dick regularly.

Noodlesoupe2 · 2021-03-23T01:02:07+00:00

Would you love a girl who got fat and ugly and cheated on you? Unconditional romantic love comes from a scarcity mindset and is pretty much just saying you have no boundaries. Unconditional love isn’t healthy it’s codependent. But there are couples that are wholesome and love each other due to time and attraction and bonding.

319Skew · 2021-03-23T02:38:05+00:00

You're not going to like this answer...

Yes love exists. Yes, you can find the love you're looking for, but it's not real. Real love is circumstantial.

If I had to describe in a mechanical way then I'd say that it's a large series of variables that are imprinted into you from biology and social conditioning. It stems from a need to procreate and a desire to overlook the cruel indifference of nature.

It's also highly relative with people having all sorts of feelings for it. Your intensity may be higher or lower than mine and there's no real way to say that one is higher than the other. We just all kind of accept a general notion of it and go along for the ride.

However, it doesn't change that it's all in the mind and you can change that. Women are more prone to this then men with them discarding relationships if the net perceived loss to be greater than the current or potential gain.

Again, not an absolute but a general guideline.

Since it's a general guideline and it's circumstantial and people love differently then there's no real way to ensure that you'll get what you're looking for. People change. The variables adjust. Good couples go with the flow and compromise but these days there's less and less incentive for women to do that.

So you marry a woman that hits all the checkmarks. She's beautiful, hasn't been around the block, worships the ground you walk on, pleasures you in every way. Great. Does that woman change over time? Do you? How about the environment? Nothing is static.

Stretch any relationship and it always ends. No exception.

Kinda fucked up when you think about it. So, what's the point? Why bother? Why give a shit? It's all going to end, right? Yep.

But that doesn't mean that you can't accept that reality and still go along for the ride. Life doesn't give a shit about your feelings and just goes. Best to enjoy the moment. Take a calculated risk and if you want to start a family go for it.

It may work out or it may not. Who knows. Remember the past, live in the moment and prepare for the future. You'll find that you'll be happier then trying to control the infinite possibilities and outcomes.

NDN2004 · 2021-03-22T23:48:02+00:00

Ask yourself this instead... Is she worth me loving her?

Love exist, people catch feelings but most men will love a female no matter what she’s like, a female will only love a man that’s up to her standards if that makes sense

Infernir · 2021-03-23T03:51:08+00:00

Sure, but its extremely rare. A lot more rare than people will ever imagine. Probably less than 1% of people will ever find "true" love. Where 2 people enjoy talking to each other, holding hands, kissing, cuddling as much as they enjoy fucking each other or each other's bodies. Where two people enjoy spending time together doing anything and experiencing new things with each other. Where two people are willing to compromise and still fully love each other at the end of the day after all petty fights, disagreements, everything. Where 2 people love and would be loyal to each other regardless of an infinitely better option coming along & promising them everything. Even if you do find mutual "true love" that is so powerful it holds unconditional contracts too, even if they got sick & had cancer, lost all their hair, gained weight or w.e you would still feel a very powerful connection & bond to them, feel all kinds of emotions just being near them.

Most people find "true lust" and mistake this for "true love" especially if they're young under 25. We humans are not simple animals who only have lust, we're capable of building unique special bonds with others, family members, certain siblings, certain friends, certain mentors... and even pets/animals that we domesticated to love & be reliant on us, if we spend time/experiences with them they sort of have a strong sentimental connection to us that doesn't disappear. We know they're simply pets, animals but can grow to love & cherish them deeply anyway.

Just like most people will never contribute anything worth while or substantial to mankind, most people's lives will be insignificant and you should be okay with this. You can find a girl who "loves" and respects you. Just like you can find a girl you are in love with temporary, or infatuated with... but in the end only love her for the remaining years you spend together. Mostly everyone will have to settle for people they love, but are not in love with, and have to work through difficult harsh times together. Or they keep cheating forever and waste years of their life searching for someone to be "in love" with not understanding how difficult a task finding a perfect match actually is.

Do you want to be one of those stupid people? Or enjoy having fun with a ton of different beautiful, quality women, settling down with one who respects you & is loyal/submissive enough to never even think about cheating ever and who at least loves you though she might never be in love with you?

Besides... are you even a true romantic? The truth is most men simply aren't. Do you want this idea of true love because that's what you value most and what's most important to you? Wouldn't a women respecting & being loyal to you in the fullest & most earnest level be more enjoyable to you than a women being "in love"? You can have sex with 100 women that admire you, love you or whatever because you're higher value. But in the end you women even remember all of their names, all of the experiences you've had with them 5 years from now. Only that temporary lust & your urges being satisfied mattered. In the end they won't remember you too unless you alpha widowed them & they never had many partners before you.

The truth is it happens a lot faster women then even us redpilled men believe. I would argue after a women loses her virginity and has sex with just one man at 16 her pair bonding ability decreases DRAMATICALLY. Under 5 its not completely gone and the right man can connect & vibe with her, spend enough time and experiences with her in a way that allows her to be in love with him, stick with him even if he fails in life, makes mistakes, gets sick, better options come along & they aren't even married or anything etc. The truth is most men after they succeed in life will fuck around with any sexy girl that throws themselves at them rather than stick with the women who's been supporting him endlessly before he gained any fame, success, wealth or anything, this is reality. So expecting the same from women? For you to just find a women to fall in love & stay in love with you for decades is ridiculous. Its easy enough to find a quality one who loves you though so you should be content with that rather than torture yourself about it.

TheChocolateBarsGuy · 2021-03-23T00:35:15+00:00

You don't need love from a women.

You need loyalty , respect and admiration !

mrsmiley831 · 2021-03-23T06:09:04+00:00

Women love differently than men. They will only love you for how you make them feel and what you can provide.

i-am-the-prize · 2021-03-23T12:13:27+00:00

once the NRE (new relationship energy) wears off, it comes down to:

women love what you can do for them
women love how you make them feel

to both those statements add "for now" to the end to truly understand the dynamic at play.

so build the life you want, if that includes a family - so be it - but do not put your woman nor her feels at the top of your pyramid, put your own welfare, strength, mission and boundaries at the top. it's what you need to stay sane; and corollary: it helps keep your relationships properly balanced.

Musicgoon · 2021-03-23T02:26:44+00:00

Yeah it exists. It isn't the fairytale bullshit you've been fed. Love is usually forged in turmoil. It's easy to say someone loves you. When the shit hits the fan, you'll see who shows you love and who bails.

Enjoyitbeforeitsover · 2021-03-23T06:15:42+00:00

some relatives i guess vetted properly, because theyre soulmate type of stuff, married and kids lol but im happy for them. It exists and it happens and im sure you'll know.

For me, I can't ever let my guard down and fall into that, just cuz I think its so easy for a woman to fake everything. I can't truly ever externalize self-love and self respect...

MGTOW was what I did for a long time... I focused on career and not an empty sex pursuit... kudos to those who can bang 150 females every few months and embody that lifestyle, fuck that...

serpentcharmer22 · 2021-03-23T17:18:50+00:00

No, it is impossible. As soon as you say you love her you will be a beta male in her eyes and she will leave you to get fucked by an alpha.

Never tell a woman you love her.

Never construct your life so that you need a woman's affection. It will only destroy you.

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daproest1 · 2021-03-22T23:37:48+00:00

They love you the only way they can. Which is not the way we love them. If you can get one young, when you’re young, keep frame, and be Indispensable in her life, you might be ok. Meet her, if she submits to you and treats you like you’re a goddamn super hero, marry her and MOVE HER AWAY.

jjj2576 · 2021-03-22T23:45:39+00:00

Women love high value men more.

Review the Warbrides piece from TRM.

SuperSpicySpice · 2021-03-23T07:16:32+00:00

There’s a reason roughly half of all marriages today end in divorce. The other half are simply fooling themselves.

jhx264 · 2021-03-23T15:09:15+00:00

The short answer: no.

The long answer: noooooooo.

KriIIincel · 2021-03-23T17:19:52+00:00

tetrachromancy · 2021-03-24T03:29:16+00:00

No it doesn’t.

Men love women, women love children, children love dogs.

Get used to it. We are loved conditionally based on our utility for a women’s reproductive and survival goals. They’re leeches, ultimately.

That void has to be filled through other productive and healthy things in life.

Frank24601 · 2021-03-22T23:48:29+00:00

Remember every woman can but not every woman does. Also it's your value in her eyes it's not an objective measurement of stats it's what she thinks of you.

TVans14 · 2021-03-23T00:50:17+00:00

Women love men who are alpha males.

Title	Does love from a women exist for a man?
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Date	March 22, 2021 11:26 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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