Finally lost my virginity, what I learned...

throw162534 · 2017-05-10T02:55:40+00:00

Congrats man, but... what's your question? This is asktrp.

trainwithlino · 2017-05-10T03:13:41+00:00

Get better head bro.

SkorchZang · 2017-05-10T06:17:05+00:00

Find the "Sex God Method" PDF. It will explain a lot about what you're seeing, and give you that "knows exactly what he's doing" confidence to really blow girls' minds (without having to lap up lube from their pussy nearly as much).

BH40 · 2017-05-10T20:08:10+00:00

How is it you young bucks can't cum? Porn is ruining the men on this planet into a bunch of limp sissies.

intradasting350 · 2017-05-10T15:16:59+00:00

loses virginity

..."gonna keep her on the side"

I can't stop laughing at how cringeworthy some people are on this sub.

nevertheless congratulations

stumje · 2017-05-10T03:42:54+00:00

how old are you

99darius · 2017-05-10T07:23:19+00:00

Keep fuckin bro, limit alcohol intake, and stop watching porn. Don't overtheorize it.... the only way to get better at sex is, like all things, to have more of it. No one is naturally a sex god. It takes practice!!

Naebany · 2017-05-10T10:17:52+00:00

Stop fapping, then you will come too easily with girl :D

awalt_cupcake · 2017-05-10T08:17:54+00:00

Good blowjobs will change your attitude about them. You'll want to find a girl who can do it like she was born for it.

mabden · 2017-05-10T13:54:17+00:00

Your first experience was a lot better than mine. At 17 yo. this chick pursued me for over a month, when we finally hooked up, she was hot, soaking wet and ready to go.

As soon as I slid my dick in her, I came. I was like wait, what??? The worst part was my dick was done with no indication that it was getting back up. Here was this chick hot to fuck, begging me to fuck her and all I could do was finger and eat her out. Man was she flustered, frustrated and fuddled.

As far as this chick was concerned I was a one pump chump and she would have nothing to do with me from that point on.

P1mpyP1mp · 2017-05-10T19:52:27+00:00

Blowjobs aren't as amazing as I thought. Still fun, but not as mind-blowing as I imagined.

That's because she gave you a bad one.

Cunt_Robber · 2017-05-10T03:34:34+00:00

Fuck yea dude.

I came the third time i had sex with my first gf. Nerves. I remember i was also being very "soft" and restrained with my movements cause i didnt want to break her vagina, but i soon found out they like that hardcore cunt robbing. Keep fucking and you'll figure more and more of this stuff out. Its a rather steep learning curve, esp since it sounds like you made a plate for netflix and chill.

Alternatively you could take the condom off when youre close and tell her to open her mouth for daddy, then masturbate yourself off and try to get her in the eye.

TheIslander829 · 2017-05-10T08:42:36+00:00

I knew I was a little more on the dominant side, but damn I didn't know how much fun it is.

Yep.

Lube tastes fucking awful

Why did you taste it?

Blowjobs aren't as amazing as I thought.

Try getting one while driving.

Girls are REALLY sensitive... was not expecting that...

That one was. Not all of them are equally sensitive, or have the same sensitivity in the same areas of their bodies.

As for my question: I never managed to finish.

I never finished my first time either. Don't worry, you'll be fine. Jerk off less, and try and see that same girl again. Also, don't be high or drunk.

ronsoness · 2017-05-10T10:20:57+00:00

I might recommend trying r/nofap. If you're a virgin and you've been jacking it to porn this whole time w/o actual PIV, you may be conditioned to enjoy porn and the deathgrip. But, if you've only boned once, it's hard to tell... could be the girl, could be bad bj skills, you could be nervous, you could have been drinking... many variables. Just wanted to give you a heads up on this.

Willkuer_ · 2017-05-10T10:36:05+00:00

Some lube is fine though. Depends on the brand.

IMO your own immersion is the most important thing about having a nice orgasm. If you are not immersed into the act you are going to become limb or not having an orgasm as you described. The problem is that if you recognize your missing immersion during the act you are becoming less and less immersed. It's really some annoying stuff.

Tbh I don't necessarily believe anymore in dead grip although I did before. I believe you just steal all the fun from sex if you masturbate heavily. Then during the actual act you start to become too much focused on your brain and less about your lust and that's the point where the fun ends.

Currently I am using thicker than normal condoms (condoms broke in the past after having rough sex for some longer time and I don't want to play risky games) and basically and objectively they make me rather numb. During sex however everything feels the same. I am completely immersed in the act and enjoy it with my entire body. The fun happens in my hormonal system not in my dick.

For me the dominance is an important fact. As for you it was much more important than I believed for years. My dominance and her submission alone can make me cum. If she starts to have orgasms shivering and shaking, becoming red on her whole body, starting to scream it puts me over the edge.

tl;dr: Just enjoy the sex with your whole body, not only physically but also mentally. Fully immerse in the process itself. Fulfill all of your own desires to become fully immersed. The condom thing plays only a minor role.

RedEyesBlueShades · 2017-05-10T11:30:44+00:00

You're over thinking this... Just stop porn NOW, reduce fap to a fraction, and have more sex. Stick with the current girl, she seems cool, and practice. You'll make mistakes, but you'll mostly learn. Stop reading bullshit around that gives you some presumed confidence and skills... Just keep fucking.

Oh, and blowjobs are much better when death grip is not a thing, when your dick is all natural.

KumonRoguing · 2017-05-10T11:45:12+00:00

Hearing all these stories about guys not being to cum amazes me. I jerked off death grip, dry all my young life and still never had a problem. Maybe I need to use clamps.

TheStumblingWolf · 2017-05-10T11:55:33+00:00

You did good. Don't be disappointed. As long as you improve it doesn't matter how much. There's always a next time. Keep doing what you're doing.

TheRedStoic · 2017-05-10T13:11:56+00:00

Actually not finishing the first time with someone new is pretty common, even for some of the experienced.

Try:

working on that death grip
condoms that fit well. Measure yourself and hit bigdickproblems, their sidebar has a very exhaustive way to find condoms that fit you, not just for well endowed people. "They're also quite friendly"
no porn
getting a lot more experience "eventually sex will be very casual to you. Which I find healthy personally. Kind of like a game night between 2 friends.
concentrating more on you and your primal urges than her. (Adults are responsible for their own pleasure, you're not here to please her after all.)

You'll be fine bro. Congrats on your first, it won't be the last.

global_sak · 2017-05-10T13:33:13+00:00

Why is this in askredpill? The fuck you think this is ? R/sex? Congrats but we dont give a shit. Seek social validation on some other virtual space

shr3dthegnarbrah · 2017-05-10T14:56:53+00:00

But my nerves killed me. Is that something will get better over time? Or are there any tricks that will help get over it?

Did you "hold it back" at any point? I personally find that if I resist a moment where I'm ready to finish, I often can't finish later.

But your gut is right; get your mind past the nerves and things will operate more naturally.

ThePwnter · 2017-05-10T15:51:31+00:00

Just going to put this out there since you haven't done it yet, but find a girl on birth control and disease free. Then have sex with no condom. You can't really appreciate how huge of a difference there is until you go unrestricted. That I feel would be a huge first step for you in going to completion. Also stop all masturbation, so that your sensitivity will go back up. Plus it will give you more of a sexual charge.

EntitledChadJThunder · 2017-05-10T18:08:22+00:00

Do no fap! Try 3 days, then 7 days, then 10 day, and then 15 days. It'll drastically improve that issue. You're lucky you had that problem. I literally busted with in 5-10 pumps my first time lol

Pitchfork51 · 2017-05-10T21:57:29+00:00

Jerk it as much as you want.

Just actually be into the sex not thinking "what should I do next"

It's just nerves. You'll get over it.

boscoist · 2017-05-10T04:53:15+00:00

Just buy lube and use that to keep off, it's cheap enough.

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