GF adding guys on Facebook

limem · 2014-07-18T14:06:23+00:00

"I happen to be 6'3 240lbs and do MMA guys don't dare mess with me"

Lolo dude you sound like a meme

robesta · 2014-07-18T12:24:20+00:00

You sound like you're desperately afraid of losing her. You keylogged her for Christ's sake. She will be able to sense that and your SMV will suffer. You need to reframe the relationship to her. She should be the one trying to keep you, not vice versa. Dread game is your friend.

MrEiffel · 2014-07-18T13:27:37+00:00

Become even more controlling and install video camera's if she looks at a male customer in a shop...

[deleted] · 2014-07-18T14:55:14+00:00

Not to echo the other posts here, but a few things:

If you are key logging and following her friends and a concern about their SMV, you probably arent secure enough in either yourself or the relationship.
Women are all hypergamic (and in many ways men are too just over different things), understand how hypergamy works and use it to your advantage (like a backboard on a basketball hoop).
Ultimately you cannot control her actions only your own, and you should be focused are bettering every aspect of your own life can control (like lifting, finances, etc).
Never go on her FB, and if possible, lose you FB. This is a good way of making yourself more scarce and separating yourself form the pack - and no, you will never be big and tough enough to scare people out of FB adding your girl, it is the internet for fuck's sake.
If you are worried about her flocking to cheat with these guys, she has the power and you need to take it back. Dread game, leave her, or put yourself in positions for girl to hit on you.

Your time is valuable and your trust is hard to earn and keep. You are the ultimate prize and are hers to lose, not the other way around. This should be your frame, always.

GrandCzarOfRedPill · 2014-07-18T16:00:56+00:00

she adds these guys on days where we are at a 'low point' in the relationship, like just last night when I ignored her

If she isn't insecure then she is either using dread to get your attention or she looks for validation from others because she's not getting enough from you.

If she is insecure then she is doing these things as a way to manipulate you and gain control.

this-is-my-work-acct · 2014-07-18T14:09:40+00:00

Keylogging? Damn you're paranoid.

Moh7 · 2014-07-18T14:14:55+00:00

It's called insecurity and it's what you have.

God damn people here are clueless, OP why do you care?

If you're doing everything right then who gives a shit if she's adding guys on Facebook?

What are you afraid of? In true redpill you shouldn't give a flying fuck how many guys she talks to as long as at the end of the day she's loyal to you.

For a 6'3 220lb "MMA" fighter you sure have a huge pussy.

Jesus Christ

vandaalen · 2014-07-18T20:23:12+00:00

Plate her. A girl looking for validation from other men isn't LTR worthy.

Haptic_Affinity · 2014-07-18T14:25:18+00:00

Reading two words tell us all we need to know about your feelings towards her - fear of loss.

Her feelings toward you may be ideal as you describe, but you need to control your own. Try to accept that everything is temporary, and realize that you WANT her but don't NEED her.

KyfhoMyoba · 2014-07-18T17:11:44+00:00

Could she just be looking to increase her SMV by friending them?

That's easy: no. Not as such. She isn't adding to her SMV, because men and women do not place the same importance on preselection. When men are preselected by hot women their SMV increases. But when women are surrounded by hot guys their SMV does not increase.

Her actions are, of course, totally feelings-based. She feels rejected by you and so looks for acceptance from other hot guys to feel better about herself. It's not unusual for girls to do this, but your GF has a bad behaviour pattern here and one that will likely lead to her cheating on you at some point.

It's also possible that you even need to increase your beta strategies. Hear me out. She is at the point where, when she feels rejected by you she and immediately looks for another guy—just like that. It's automatic. What this means is that when she thinks of you rejecting her, she doesn't want to improve her relationship with you, her instinctive reaction is to move on. So, she is not really afraid of losing you, or she'd increase her actions to keep you, rather than going behind your back to find other guys. So, "dread game" is not going to work, because it will push her into this behaviour even more. What will work is for her to feel like you are the only guy for her.

NahDudeFkThat · 2014-07-18T21:17:12+00:00

What is she doing on social media in the first place? Set that boundary from the jump.

"If you want commitment from me, get off the voids that are social media. Otherwise I'm just gonna continue using your for your pussy since a girl stuck on social media constantly is most likely an attention whore who doesn't deserve my time and resources beyond the bedroom."

So far every single one of my LTRs have agreed 100% and have ditched social media for the most part.

dai_xinyi_boxer · 2014-07-18T14:37:33+00:00

for most chicks its not a question of her cheating as much as GETTING CAUGHT cheating... its their nature to slut around and cheat. Yes, trust her...trust her she will cheat and you should not be this insecure. If your SMV is as high as you are trying to imply then you should not be afraid of her cheating or break up, she should be the one afraid of YOU cheating... fuck, add some hot chicks as friends on YOUR facebook just to fuck with her... know any attractive women at the gym?

The-Pussy-Whisperer · 2014-07-18T21:26:51+00:00

Why do you care this much? Next her.

wakka54 · 2014-07-19T05:39:06+00:00

Next that whore.

ben0wn4g3 · 2014-07-18T14:32:26+00:00

According to people in this thread, ignorance is bliss. THAT is bluepill.

I have checked the phones /computers of every girl I have ever been with. Sometimes just cause I'm bored, maybe even drunk. Sometimes because I had reason to be suspicious. IMO there is nothing insecure about it. I'm just a nosey mother fucker.

Knowledge is power.

I have always found -something-.

limem · 2014-07-18T12:23:58+00:00

Get rid of her.

You won't be able to change her. She will cheat on you sooner or later. Do you want to stick around until she does?

What are you going to say? "I want you to stop having interest in other guys when we argue"? She can't help that. If I said to you, I want you to stop wanting to fuck women, are you going to magically stop?

You seemed to be banging bitches before her, so why have a gf if she's not wife material?

AfterC · 2014-07-18T12:21:30+00:00

She wants validation from a high friend #. If you're keylogging and nothing's happened then relax. Be wary of her cell phone usage, though.

boydeer · 2014-07-18T13:13:28+00:00

she's not a good long term option, in my opinion.

asd1100 · 2014-07-18T13:17:51+00:00

She only wants emotional comfort, you are her alpha relax, she won't find something better trough facebook.(this is true for OP, not you blue ball lurkers)

Facebook is used to find comfort, which she laks with you. Never be afraid of orbiters, if she is highly social getting social validation is a way of life you can't take those ego boosters away and expect her to be fine with it.

If you want to be her soul mate, you need to beta it up, but that would increase hypergamy and the next time she looks for some strange she'll look for a sympathetic dick not a shoulder. This depends higly on the type of chick, some simply can't live with only one mans attention(despite wanting to). Emotions are drugs, and she can't live just on how much you make her feel.

[deleted] · 2014-07-18T15:38:44+00:00

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jobs33ker · 2014-07-18T18:26:02+00:00

What keylogger did you use?

FG_SF · 2014-07-19T02:28:11+00:00

Keylogging is way over the line. That's legitimately creepy.

LegitIceCreamVan · 2014-07-18T14:48:09+00:00

It's ok to be dominant in the relationship but not overly aggressive.

varrr · 2014-07-18T20:17:56+00:00

Come on guys... Seriously? I understand all trp bullshit and I'm subscribed and I also post sometimes so I'm not here to criticize and make fun of you but guys... Seriously? You are here telling me that you have a gf that does everything you want whenever you want. What is the problem? She's a fucking human being, isn't she allowed to have how many frends she likes on facebook? Wtf, how many good looking girls do you have for friend in facebook?

People add friends on facebook. Is what facebook is all about. Every human being interact with other human beings. Married people interact with other people. You can't have a human being for yourself only, that's slavery. If she's loyal to you with her body everythong else is ok. You can control how she think and who she is speaking to.

TL;DR if she's loyal and you are satisfied, stop creating unexisting problems. If and when she'll cheat on you then we have something to talk about

kingofpoplives · 2014-07-18T12:45:28+00:00

Clearly you are not jacked and scary enough yet. You need to hit the gym harder and act more aggro until these doods are so scared they unfriend her and new ones are too afraid to accept the request in the first place.

pro_skub · 2014-07-18T15:43:54+00:00

No reason for her to add random guys. She is disrespecting you by casting her net and wait. Call her on her bullshit immediately or don't consider her your gf.

pupplenupple · 2014-07-18T17:17:59+00:00

So what if she is trying to increase her SMV? You're a guy, if you aren't lazy you should be able to increase yours faster and for longer.

Title	GF adding guys on Facebook
Author	throwingaway124124
Upvotes	11
Comments	76
Date	July 18, 2014 11:58 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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