GF cheated on me

SemperPrimus · 2019-03-05T13:41:06+00:00

You are too emotionally attached to plate. You have to go no contact.

lukee-z · 2019-03-05T13:40:35+00:00

Ditch her bro! There is no questioning that. If she cheats, she's worthless and not worth your time.

bluefingerblue · 2019-03-05T13:52:55+00:00

You need to break up with her. Now. This is for your own mental health. You’ll be much better off in the long run if you end things now.

That said, based on the language in your post, I have a feeling you’re not going to break up with her. She will either leave you or cheat again, and you’ll have to learn the hard way.

Remember this comment if you decide against breaking up with her.

MindlessCalendar · 2019-03-05T14:21:13+00:00

I know that forgiving her is not an option but I also don't want to break up

You don't want to break up, but you also want to keep her as a plate only? A plate isn't a LTR so you are already broken up in that case. You have oneitis and scarcity mentality.

Iron Rule of Tomassi #7:

"It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was."

Break up and get MULTIPLE women.

rpsheepdog · 2019-03-05T13:49:51+00:00

I can't remember which EC said it, but having 1 plate is not really a plate... its like a half-ass relationship

If you don't have other girls in rotation "plating" your ex that you're still in love with is just stringing yourself along.

5 months isn't really much of an investment, sure you get the warm fuzzy feeling inside, but you shouldn't be getting validation from her anyways

MattyAnon · 2019-03-05T15:41:23+00:00

Could i demote her to a plate and find a better girl or is it better to cut all ties and try to forget her?

Demoting to plate won't work. You'll stay attached and she already knows she has the upper hand.

I just don't want to continue being emotionally attached to her, it hurts me too much.

Break up. Deal with it.

Sorry. I know it's tough. But you know what you have to do.

ElCidCampeon93 · 2019-03-05T18:42:39+00:00

No contact, clean break. You're too into her to keep going with it. Shit, you're trying to keep her as a plate because you refuse to let her go.

Let her go and pull yourself together. I know it hurts, and you didn't deserve that, but she isn't worth it if she breaks your trust. You can get a better woman than her, but right now, you need to get it together and stay strong. You can do it, man. Pain is temporary.

lorde_dingus · 2019-03-05T13:53:02+00:00

She wont ever truly respect you if you stay with her, cold contact is the only way to go. Ghost her!

HumptyDumptyFellHard · 2019-03-05T15:25:46+00:00

No contact and game other bitches

mushroom_overlord · 2019-03-05T21:56:11+00:00

No contact. Better off without her.

Buchloe · 2019-03-05T16:08:01+00:00

Dump her ass, bro. Do it for you. You need a sense of self worth. Dumping her is MANDATORY. It's the only way to end the emotional attachment and not be a little bitch. Currently you can not see her straight.

LopsidedLemon · 2019-03-05T13:41:07+00:00

Demoting to plate won't work in your situation. You're already too emotionally invested. I would hard next in your situation. Block her number and on social media. It's time to move on.

syn1us · 2019-03-05T13:44:57+00:00

Kick her out of your life.

RedSkeller · 2019-03-05T16:20:48+00:00

it hurts me too much

Wounds heal faster when the source is eliminated, removed. The faster you ditch her, the quicker your mind will heal. If you let her stick around, it will fester in your mind like a sickness. The best time to start was yesterday, the second best day is today.

CharlesChadworth · 2019-03-05T20:59:28+00:00

Seeing as you are attached this will be hard to do. Try and be as indifferent as you can. Don't show any feelings of hurt. Break up with her and refuse a friendship when she brings it up. Think of humpty dumpty. That mofo is never going to be put back together again. Neither is your relationship.

excent · 2019-03-05T23:12:35+00:00

You forgot to add "ex" in front of gf on the title.

RPAlternate42 · 2019-03-05T15:42:27+00:00

What GF?

Break contact.

Be polite be professional and have a plan to fuck everyone you meet.

CahiersDuVidya · 2019-03-05T16:47:47+00:00

I know that forgiving her is not an option but I also don't want to break up. Could i demote her to a plate and find a better girl

Honestly, you're coming off as waaaaaay too much of a pussy to be able to pull that off. Just separate from her entirely.

Plus, if a girl cheats on you it means she has no respect for you, and you're unlikely to get it back. So you couldn't get her to be a plate.

patacsiipse · 2019-03-05T17:29:39+00:00

Hard next.

BuckNekkid18 · 2019-03-05T19:00:32+00:00

You're not going to listen to anyone here so why bother even making this thread when you already know what you have to do but won't do it? A clean break with no contact is the obvious course of action but you'll probably just beta the fuck up and eat her pussy recently filled up by Chad.

BusterVadge · 2019-03-05T19:04:59+00:00

Could i demote her to a plate

No, you are clearly not ready for that. You still have the oneitis.

Popeman79 · 2019-03-05T20:07:44+00:00

If you don't want to break up with her, you should test to see how sorry she is. I would ask for the following:

you can fuck another girl on your own, without having to tell her
she obviously can't fuck anybody else and it's her responsibility to clear any doubt ever (i.e. she should text you where she is etc)
on top of it she owes you a threesome, she has to find a girl for you and the three of you bang

Tell her she's on probation for one year and that maybe, if she complies, she's back in your good papers.

That or just ditch her.

AstuteBlackMan · 2019-03-05T20:08:45+00:00

Leave her Go no contact on social media Lift Post pics with new chicks Watch and laugh as she ends up a single mother

barn3r · 2019-03-05T20:46:39+00:00

Why are you guys giving out commitment to these girls you’ve never properly vetted? This is why you end up cucked.

I can tell you’re not older than 25 probably not even 21, because what dude falls in love in 5 months? Wtf.

First and foremost, this chick is trash. Delete and block on everything. Don’t even waste anymore time on her. Go improve yourself and start plating other girls... for atleast several months before giving any of them exclusivity.

embracingtheredpill · 2019-03-05T22:40:12+00:00

Cut her out of your life.

I feel for you, however this too shall pass.

bestsparkyalive · 2019-03-05T23:58:19+00:00

You either have dignity or you don’t. Pick one.

wobbleelbbow · 2019-03-05T13:41:23+00:00

You sound like a woman or a boy. How can you fall in love in just 5 months??? You can do whatever you want, question is what's best for you? Continuing to be needy beta with no options that you even consider "demoting" her (which always do not work out unless you had options in a first place which you don't) or getting your balls back and forgetting about her?

A man's power is ability of walking away. Use it.

thetriangularbox · 2019-03-06T03:46:48+00:00

You just gotta do it. Don’t turn yourself into a beta. It’s very very hard to turn that situation to a legit plate for you

LondonChad1999 · 2019-03-05T17:56:31+00:00

Tell the story OP

Bedtimeshine · 2019-03-05T19:15:04+00:00

Give her nothing but dick and indifference. No need to break up, plate her. Focus on meeting other women, and improving yourself physically, financially, and socially.

positiveredpill · 2019-03-05T23:55:42+00:00

Keep her on the team, just demote her to "girl you fuck sometimes" ranking.

Title	GF cheated on me
Author	Raxacory
Upvotes	5
Comments	40
Date	March 5, 2019 1:37 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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