How do i stop feeling terrible about wasting my youth?

Throwaway22247q · 2020-04-25T04:45:48+00:00

Hit the gym. Get fucking shredded. Your life gets better in your 30s cause that’s when you hit your peak as a man.

TheRedApprentice · 2020-04-25T04:42:31+00:00

The past is nothing but time you'll never get back so does it really matter at this point? You didn't do what you didn't do and that shouldn't stop you from changing your lifestyle so that you don't have the same kind of future. You said it yourself,

i know exactly what to do and what i'm capable of

Cool. Now, go forth and do the damn thing.

0ggles · 2020-04-25T05:38:10+00:00

It isn't where you came from, its where you're going that counts.

JaydXThomas · 2020-04-25T05:32:12+00:00

You're young dude. Forget the past 6 years but take lessons from it. Introspect and ask yourself what exactly held you back? Find the insecurity, embrace it and overcome it as best you can. If you lack social skills, make a point to go out with your friends once a week (after the pandemic, that is). Dress better. Stop watching porn. Lift. Eat better. Do something every day that makes you feel great about yourself. Being on your grind is great, and well done, but do you love doing what you're doing? Does it invigorate you and fill you with drive and confidence? You need to do something for yourself that validates you and builds your self esteem. Lifting does that for me, and educating myself. When I start looking good and I improve my knowledge and career, I feel that women should be lucky to have me, and that I'm the catch. This makes it easy for me to approach women whom I like and that show interest in me. I don't need to cold approach. I feel entitled and that gives me confidence to escalate things further with those that I like.

Sort your confidence out, stop doubting everything and just do it. They should be lucky to be with you, not the other way around.

I was there. I was stuck just like you until I started to doing the things that made me whole. Everything flowed from there. Now I couldn't give a damn. I don't feel pressured and I do everything at my own pace. I don't have an answer for you, but you need to find that something that makes you tick. Also, stop pedastalising women. Ask them out, go on dates, get to know them, and have sex often. If they reject you, so what? Move on to the next. They are just like you and I and we're not special. Get to know all types of people and enjoy the process.

fakeaccount687 · 2020-04-25T04:49:47+00:00

I feel the same way but I just turned 22. The only time I'm not in full regret mode is when I think about how badass my future will be.

If the present is badass who cares about what was?

VasiliyZaitzev · 2020-04-25T20:54:19+00:00

26 is prime time. Don't waste your time NOW crying little beta tears about shit you can't change. Harden the fuck up.

Batman-von-Pepe · 2020-04-25T05:41:05+00:00

Is there any possible way for you to go back in time and change the past? No, get over it.

The past is the past your focus should be on the present and the future. Take that first baby step, the first step is the hardest, but you'll be surprised how quickly and easily you gain momentum once you start.

H_Crush · 2020-04-25T06:11:38+00:00

you stop feeling terrible by not waisting now

jamescastillo76 · 2020-04-25T07:44:21+00:00

Stop wasting time now

ValorElite · 2020-04-25T21:33:13+00:00

I feel terrible about spending most of my youth without having sex, wasting a lot of chances women gave me, not being "out there"

Please trust me when I say: you are not missing out on anything. One great relationship was worth more than every fling in the world.

Also, you can't be happy until you are happy with yourself. Work on that first before you give these girls a hard time

BombasticBobby · 2020-04-25T08:33:17+00:00

I think I read this in the side bar. The quickest way to raise you're value is to join many hobbies. Don't raise your value to fuck bitches; do it for yourself and a goal you care about. You seem like you'd raise your value to get some plates and although that's the point of TRP, it'll leave you feeling just as terrible.

2020-04-25T14:55:51+00:00

The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.”

trele_morele · 2020-04-25T14:59:42+00:00

By living life in the now

Greek-God-Brody · 2020-04-25T15:01:22+00:00

Get bitter or get better. 2 roads. Ain't going back to the past

thrwy75479 · 2020-04-26T00:20:10+00:00

How do i stop feeling terrible about wasting my youth?

Im 26 years old

You're not a kid, but you're not old. Don't waste time though.

i've just been depressed and anxious

i had a gf a couple months ago but didnt end up having sex with her

Jealousy, and envy are stronger forces in terms of motivation to change. It's human nature.

This is why a lot of guys go through transformations after break-ups. Seeing who was your girl with another guy would piss anyone off, and, hopefully, lead to a path of self-improvement.

Get angry. Find something, or someone to hate. Let it flow through you. Use the anger as fuel to ignite the fire to become better.

2020-04-26T09:00:37+00:00

And 19 is the best part. I'm of the sound opinion that pussy only gets worse after 17 .

JaydXThomas · 2020-04-25T04:17:37+00:00

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SIR_SKINNYPENIS69 · 2020-04-25T12:27:16+00:00

26 haha bro

Life ain't even started yet. Trust me.

Your 30s and 40s are the best decades of your life. 20s is just the most socially active, that's all.

But you gotta start building good habits now. 26 is a good age to start getting things in order.

mikalepkoslika · 2020-04-25T09:24:11+00:00

It’s over, you’re not in your prime anymore and you missed out on the crucial validation experiences you should have received in your prime years. The ladies have ridden the carousel and you were not invited, because you lack the genetic elite physique and athleticism. It’s not your fault, now it’s time to man up and become a good beta provider. You are not alone - the access to casual sex is reserved only for the genetically superior males, the best 1 - 2 %.

Title	How do i stop feeling terrible about wasting my youth?
Author	Justtosayitsperfect
Upvotes	17
Comments	76
Date	April 25, 2020 4:14 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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