I never dated until I graduated high school at 17 and I feel really bad about myself because I missed out on teen dating and love and what not, is this normal

Droogas · 2018-07-09T11:58:00+00:00

Some of us are in our 20s bro, you ain't miss shit.

TheBiss · 2018-07-09T12:44:37+00:00

Teen dating is a waste of time. Better that you spent your efforts on academic results.

[deleted] · 2018-07-09T11:36:46+00:00

You didn't miss out on anything important at all.

VictxrSenpai · 2018-07-09T13:19:32+00:00

If anything I dodged 2 cases teenage pregnancy by the time I graduated high school. You dont know fear till you've experienced potential "new daddy" fear at the age of 16 and narrowly escaped to tell the tale...

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2018-07-09T15:09:03+00:00

Self-pity, big symptom of a Scarcity Mentality.

Living in the past, also a key component of a Scarcity Mentality.

It's a disease. Cut that crap completely out of your mental space.

You have your whole life ahead of you. Who gives a shit about what you did or didn't do in high school?

PurpleSweetz · 2018-07-09T14:32:18+00:00

"Teen dating and love" is just another false fantasy portrayed by all the movies and the like; just like how "true love and marriage" are another false fantasy portrayed for adults through Disney and movies and such.

FeralRed · 2018-07-09T14:30:05+00:00

You're looking in the wrong direction.

You're not even an adult yet and you're focused on what you "missed out on" as a child?

Turn around and concentrate on what you're doing. Make some goals. Head toward those goals.

Anything else is just absolutely useless mental masturbation.

Look to the future. You can't change the past. Stop obsessing over things you cannot change.

OneBrowUp · 2018-07-09T11:43:52+00:00

I missed the whole digital dating era and I live. IMO real fun for men starts after 30. Focus on improving yourself, it will pay off in spades later on.

LOLUSTUPID_OKAY · 2018-07-09T12:17:35+00:00

I'm 25 years old and I have never even held the hands of a girl because of bullsshit religious indoctrination. You're in a good age to begin. Go lift and expose yourself to a lot of social interaction.

AlwaysOnTheFence · 2018-07-09T13:19:19+00:00

In the same boat man. Didn't get into a proper relationship till I was around 18. I'm 21 now and I get really bothered by it sometimes. I love life atm but I find myself wishing I could go back to when I was 14 and stop playing cod and skyrim etc and buy some cool clothes and start talking to girls and not be such a shy goody two-shoes. I feel like I could have reaped some rewards now if I had put the work in during the formative years.

HOWEVER, when you look at what's actually bothering us you realise how much of a stupid first world problem it is. Definitely a sign of thinking too much imo. So many people don't get into relationships until they're around 20 or even older. That whole 'teen dating and love' is just a cliché in every teen movie and drama. I promise you you're way younger than you feel. And I've realised the formative years aren't over yet.

So it doesn't matter if you don't think you achieved what you should have achieved at 15, 16 or 17. What's important is that you start working on what you think you should achieve now. And be glad you found trp; you might have been a bit behind some of the other guys in your teens, but now you'll be miles ahead of everyone throughout your 20s (the years that matter).

BobSagetV2 · 2018-07-09T13:46:29+00:00

I started fucking around with the other gender in the second half of my sophomore year, and am now a senior. I’ve dated and hooked up and broken up, and none of it is anything like it is in the movies. Maybe it’s because I’m misogynistic but as long as you have close friends and feel sexually satiated you aren’t missing out on anything. Teen dating is nothing but awkwardness and an ego boost.

Trp2166 · 2018-07-09T15:16:40+00:00

Used to feel the exact same way until I met one of my college roommates. Good looking guy, big partier but pretty quiet until he got fucked up after which he became super hilarious and charismatic. Could always tell he had something mentally up with him, though.

One night we got really barred out and he broke down crying telling me about his girlfriend (who he'd dated for 5 years since freshman year of HS) cheating on him and how he felt like he'd thrown away a big part of his college experience by sticking by her. It was on his mind 24/7 and he began to withdraw socially and not give a fuck about school. He failed out soon after. A smart kid who had a lot to offer fucking up his life because of a highschool relationship. Seen it play out similarly a ton of times too.

TheLanternFlame · 2018-07-09T15:36:24+00:00

Is this those I wish I can go back in time? Tell me when a time machine is invented, maybe most of us will be dead by then. Trp taught me not to give a fuck about the past, and live forwardly onto the future. Past could be worse for you, but you have to read thru those who were zeroed out and you'll find you life was much luckier than them for finding trp earlier.

Bear-With-Bit · 2018-07-09T16:11:17+00:00

A lot of us have missed out in our teens and 20s, and a lot of guys your age are in the same boat, I'm sure.

Time really flies. I'm 20 years ahead of you but I can clearly recall when I just grad'd HS.

Start working on yourself now.

JamesTakingNames · 2018-07-09T16:51:04+00:00

Teen dating is puppy love. You should be happy because you didn't waste time, money, or dealt with drama. Now life really begins

chaseexcellence · 2018-07-09T12:47:18+00:00

I feel your pain buddy. It is normal. It is perfectly normal. You are trying which is a good thing. We are here for you and support you.

TFWnoLTR · 2018-07-09T15:58:28+00:00

You missed out on nothing worth giving two shits about.

WalkingProduct · 2018-07-09T17:08:35+00:00

Relationships in highschool caused me a fake rape accusation, a near pregnancy, and ruined a couple friendships. Dont feel bad, they usually suck and end horrible.

seedster5 · 2018-07-09T17:15:43+00:00

Lol. You missed out on getting honey dicked and pretend sluts that kiss on the 10000th date

waynebradysworld · 2018-07-09T17:16:54+00:00

I didn't even lose my virginity or talk to women until 19, now my count is like 60ish.

Everyone blossoms differently, just be the best you possible, every day

rogankid88 · 2018-07-09T17:34:01+00:00

LMAO you ain't missed shit trust me fam

MattyAnon · 2018-07-09T17:49:42+00:00

All straight men miss out on love because there is no female love available. So no loss there.

I judt feel like shit and feel like I've missed out on a lot

Quit whining about the past and start building your future.

trpppp123 · 2018-07-09T17:49:43+00:00

I was a kissless hugless virgin until 25... I cared about that stuff when I was a virgin, doesn't bother me the slightest anymore.

ApwoperMuser · 2018-07-09T19:58:25+00:00

Don't be ridiculous. 17 is a reasonable time to start dating. Many guys haven't had their first kiss until their late 20s, so you're good. Also, most of the girls who are 16 and under are virgins or very inexpirienced, so the "dating" would consist of only kissing, touching, dry humping and you going home with blue balls.

clavabot · 2018-07-09T20:04:52+00:00

Bro Same

Zanford · 2018-07-09T21:27:55+00:00

17? lol you have tons of time dude. All those cheesy quotes about 'the best time to start is NOW' apply here, just get out there, flirt, lift, work on social circle game, etc.

Driadek · 2018-07-09T22:00:39+00:00

I lost my virginity on my 19th birthday. I turn 29 in 3 days and my pussy count is in the high teens / low 20s and I just got out of a 6 year LTR. You didn't miss out on anything yet

Osprey8768777 · 2018-07-09T23:56:47+00:00

dude I missed out until 24...

You are just starting out. You haven't missed ANYTHING

Throwaway-242424 · 2018-07-10T00:36:03+00:00

Move to a state where the AOC is 16 and make up for lost time.

[deleted] · 2018-07-10T06:53:11+00:00

Have no fear, you can still fuck 18 year olds for the rest of your life.

UnpluggedNigga · 2018-07-10T07:25:32+00:00

Stop comparing yourself to others, stop obsessing over the past, and focus on what really fucking matters.

Conquer everything. Or don’t, less competition for me.

ENTPunisher · 2018-07-09T16:44:45+00:00

Just found out the girl I'm dating lied about her age and is 19, so I guess I got to experience teen dating after all 😂

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