Instantly losing interest.

frognads · 2020-03-11T12:30:15+00:00

Bragging about sex isn't exactly a feminine behaviour, so yeah it turns me off.

It basically screams insecurity and attention-seeking. That's a fuck em' and leave for me.

AloofusMaximus · 2020-03-11T13:37:01+00:00

This is a way they test how needy/jealous you are. If you get full on butthurt about her talking about another dude, you need to worry way fucking less about her and what she's doing. Also just cause SHE is talking about dudes, doesn't mean you should talk about other women (you shouldn't).

Most women (even just plain Jane types) have a ton of options. All she needs to do is post a selfie on FB/IG/SC and she'll have literally dozens (if not more) thirsty dudes trying to hit her up.

Non neediness and outcome independence are the most attractive things to most women.

muricanwerewolf1 · 2020-03-11T16:23:23+00:00

Dudes are mad when women are upfront about being hos.

Dudes are mad when women are secret hos and let them have their blue pill fantasies.

Stop being mad and just take these bitches as they are. AWALT.

LateralThinker13 · 2020-03-11T17:24:53+00:00

This is fairly normal. We all know that the toilets at amusement parks have seen literally millions of different arses, but we don't think about it or we could never sit on one, regardless of how many Clorox wipes you use before your turn.

Same thing here. You're not jealous of those other arses. You're just disgusted at being reminded of the traffic, is all.

WhatRemainsAfter · 2020-03-11T14:28:58+00:00

I lose interest when girls starts behaving all manly and yo yo type. Laughing like a lobster on first date and forgetting all manners.

I want a feminine energy. Media has given this illusion that women can behave like some hip hop artist and be 'cool'. No, it is not. You are forgetting your very basic nature, that is to be feminine.

Nothing makes me disgust a girl more than this type girl.

z2a1-9 · 2020-03-11T15:45:03+00:00

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2020-03-11T13:34:08+00:00

Shit test

Purplegetraenk · 2020-03-11T16:48:33+00:00

Yeah I don’t get jealous I just get completely turned off

DerekMorganBAU · 2020-03-11T12:48:16+00:00

Sometimes they do that shit in order to covertly say that they are still looking for something. I noticed most bitches talk about the not-so-good relationships for that reason - to let you know that they want something real.

Read: Something that feels real.

It ain't shit. Share your stories too, give her a good laugh and it'll make her feel good like "He's had crazy stuff happen too and maybe he's still looking" make that hamster spin

CDBaller · 2020-03-11T16:40:45+00:00

Women are vapid and uninteresting, by and large, when they speak. She's just telling you she's a slut and her mouth needs to be plugged so uninteresting/dull/stupid things don't fall out, because that's all she has to offer you. I don't find sluts attractive, but they're a good masturbation aid.

If you're looking for an LTR/marriage, you're not going to want to waste your time with that. You can get up and walk away.

Meloxian · 2020-03-11T17:29:15+00:00

Ams says check her on that, so check her on that; it’s not about her being special or not having abundance it’s about respecting you and your time; tell her you don’t wanna hear it.

And to all of you guys saying that shows a lack of confidence, y’all can keep listening to your wives talking about getting dicked down and licking some other dudes balls If you want but me I don’t got time for that disrespectful shit.

QuinlanBothese · 2020-03-11T12:22:49+00:00

Yes get the same. I want her to be exclusive and have no thoughts, words about other guys. And I get angry too. You must have disgust, fear, distrust or anger ma man. Be honest if it was just apathy you would still be interested, don't lie to yourself. I highly assure that you are jealous but logically know that you shouldn't be, you are repressing it. In reality you might feel like your ego has been violated and want to hurt,control,possess the girl herself or hurt the male she is talking about.
But maybe you are an anomaly who knows.

Conclusively all of this means that she is either really special ;) or you don't have the abundance of women you ought to have.

319Skew · 2020-03-11T17:01:38+00:00

I lose respect for them and put them in ONS, Plate, or FWB category but it's a great lead into sex.

It's only jealousy if you start to think about what they do together.

Wrath_of_Trump · 2020-03-11T14:20:54+00:00

she's taking away that feeling of being special, and apparently that's what you're subconsciously looking for when you lose interest. evaluate if what she is saying is actually bad or if you are harboring ideas about women that aren't healthy or reflective of reality. can you realistically expect to have someone make you feel special? is she at the level where you could expect that from her in some capacity? maybe she's telling you that she doesn't want to be a big special prize so don't treat her that way. there's a dozen different ways you can read it, but it's best if you don't get invested in it. if it bothers you that much, then leave.

rangat42 · 2020-03-11T15:39:06+00:00

I think your reaction is totally normal. Talking about other guys is trashy slutty behavior. Huge turn off. I do not think it is jealousy at all, it is just unattractive behavior.

BusterVadge · 2020-03-11T17:00:23+00:00

This is super normal. They do it all the time in order to illustrate what they want and don't want out of you.

Over time you're going to learn that women communicate covertly rather than directly like us dudes do.

alphakari · 2020-03-11T15:23:42+00:00

Possessive is a better word. You don't like when people play with your toys. Ego thing

Dimenzije90 · 2020-03-11T16:00:56+00:00

Men are designed to look for a women who is a vrigin or low n count. Its in our nature to secure offsprings. Thats why when a girl cheats on you it hurts your inner beeing and hurts much more then when a guy cheats on a women. But when you cheat on a women it just hearts her ego because she feels she isnt beautiful enough or something like that.

diggyigy · 2020-03-11T12:30:02+00:00

As long as you aren't interested in a LTR with her it shouldn't affect you.

Act disinterested , don't ask her for details and just follow your gameplan.

MagnumBurrito · 2020-03-11T16:37:26+00:00

Since she's more attracted to a man with options, she might think men are that way too. She doesn't realize we don't want to hear about all the men she could have.

MonkMode2019 · 2020-03-11T17:32:22+00:00

They do this for two reasons, DOI or a shit test.

Generally, yes I lose interest because it's either fuck yes or fuck no (IOD).

The shit test is either they are insecure or they are questioning you, which their tactic means later down the road they will cheat on you if they have the opportunity.

Zanford · 2020-03-11T18:51:50+00:00

Yep. It's a turnoff.

And it doesn't necessarily mean you're insecure. It's just as much of a turnoff when you're slumming it and you can tell that the girl (and the guys she's mentioning) are beneath your league.

In fact I think I've noticed more of this from 'meh' girls, like they are trying hard to reassure themselves (or me) that they are a catch.

Lots of girls 'gender project' and they think that b/c preselection is attractive to them, it will be attractive to guys. (An example of bad gender projection in reverse is when guys send dick pics...they want nudies so they assume the girl does too, right!?)

ev214 · 2020-03-11T12:14:42+00:00

I forgot to add: is this your girlfriend? Or a plate? If it is a plate, why the fuck do you care? She doesn’t belong to you or the other Chad she is talking to, so why the fuck do you care? As long as she keeps interest in you who cares. She doesn’t belong to you

PrettyBarbiePerson · 2020-03-11T17:58:14+00:00

When you’re picking them and they try to shit test by talking about other dudes it’s totally off putting and makes me totally rethink my decision and most the time I just usually withdraw all attention and ignore her.

This will make them upset but I ain’t about that they know I’m more attractive than these other guys so idk why they try to make me butt hurt

Like girls always have options on their phones, I always have options when I go out, i just don’t go out as much as they are on their phones so they think I can’t get pussy for some reason

MrWisdom39 · 2020-03-11T18:13:13+00:00

I don't know about you, but often times if I bring up a girl to a friend who is also a girl it's usually to let her know that I have my interest elsewhere. either she likes you enough to groom into an orbiter or she is trying to let you down easy.

On the other hand, if you guys re talking about sex, sex is probably what you're both thinking =)

MeansToABenz · 2020-03-11T18:40:29+00:00

I have found that women in the past didn’t do this as much. I almost think it has to do with the flexing for the gram culture. I also agree with the notion that I run for the hills when they have this kind of behaviour; I know you can’t be picky when it comes to hoes but c’mon

SoA_MC · 2020-03-11T13:31:34+00:00

Yes, you are jealous and you’re on here asking this hoping someone tells you it’s normal.

You’ve caught feelings, your apparent loss of interest is an illusion. You want her more than she wants you.

sopademaruchan · 2020-03-11T15:29:48+00:00

Yeah I'm kind of in the same boat, I'm really good friends with this girl and play video games together and shit but she started mentioning that she has a boyfriend now, I'm not jealous or anything, but i just dont feel like talking to her that much anymore. I dont even like her like that but im noticing that im just distancing myself away from her

i-am-the-prize · 2020-03-11T17:56:33+00:00

let her talk about her numbers, show her insecurities and covertly tell you she's ignorant of the differences in what arouses and motivates men and woman, you're winning here. note the red flags, prevent oneitis, intel galore.

then ask her a question:

you: "what do you NOT want from a guy?"

(then listen, she'll blab for a bit and share more intel on her expected ASD type behavior)

they will then ask: "so /u/Alcatraz-12 what don't you want from a girl?"

you: "pressure to commit" (then stfu, as in that your ONLY thing, even after she listed 10 things she doesn't want from a guy)

After her sex talk and BS this will shake her and have her wondering "wtf does this guy know that that's his biggest worry, not me no longer talking about past dicks". caffeinate the hamster. be OI/NGAF. Watch the arousal shift.

badass_monk · 2020-03-11T19:41:17+00:00

If she talk about other guys that means she doesnt have high interest for you.Better let that one go.The girl who like you very much doesn’t even bring up this subject at all.

MrAnderzon · 2020-03-11T19:46:23+00:00

So what you’re saying is that you like women to act like women. Women will teach you about patience.

TRP Principal #xx Listen to her actions not her words

Merica911 · 2020-03-11T19:50:37+00:00

It's in you DNA to feel this way

bilabrin · 2020-03-11T20:17:20+00:00

Try guiding the conversation. There are literally a million directions. You can find a way to relate and engage without following her lead in determining the direction of the conversation.

liquorbaron · 2020-03-11T20:18:39+00:00

Depends on the girl. If it's a girl I'm meh about anyhow then it just makes me want to tune them out more. If it was someone I was dating and they start talking about a specific guy then it's a red flag because the guy is obviously on her mind.

mickenrorty · 2020-03-11T21:30:00+00:00

https://youtu.be/eC7t3pRStrw

SpiderAlpha33 · 2020-03-11T21:39:39+00:00

It's just a shit test. Ignore.

BlackMonkey14 · 2020-03-11T22:08:05+00:00

“Anyone else loose interest when a girl is ugly? Is it just me?” Lolno

AssholeFucked · 2020-03-11T23:43:03+00:00

What made you become attracted to this girl in the first place?

Is this girl mentioning other guys during your conversations with her?

Have you overheard any conversations that this girl has been having with other people during which other guys have been mentioned?

Are you and this girl already in a relationship?

Are you intending to establish a relationship with this girl if you have not already done so?

Do you want to take your relationship with this girl to the next level if she and you are already in a relationship?

Do the positives outweigh the negatives?

What do you think you should do about the emotions that you have described?

amwfhunter · 2020-03-11T12:27:40+00:00

No, I'm the same way because there are plenty of other chicks. I'm assuming these are chicks you're fucking right? I feel it is disrespectful to me to mention other dudes. I never talk about other chicks to my plates.

Foolishoe · 2020-03-11T12:43:24+00:00

Tell her not to talk about it. Tell her you dont want to know and that she has girlfriends for that.

Inspectah_Chill · 2020-03-11T12:06:37+00:00

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Title	Instantly losing interest.
Author	Alcatraz-12
Upvotes	127
Comments	69
Date	March 11, 2020 11:54 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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