Is doing drugs a red flag?

good-afternoon · 2020-04-04T17:14:27+00:00

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_nein_danke · 2020-04-04T17:10:46+00:00

This seems culturally relativistic to me. If you live in the US outside of NYC or LA, I’d say kind of a red flag. If you live in Europe in somewhere like Berlin you would be hard pressed to find someone who hasn’t tried drugs, or somewhere like London.

Most people who see it as a major red flag are probably American and originate from small - medium sized towns. But that’s just my opinion, could be wrong.

good-afternoon · 2020-04-04T17:10:44+00:00

These responses are ludicrous. People try drugs, it doesn't make them bad people. Unless she's a Coke addict you have nothing to worry about. Sounds like the people in this thread need to be willing to explore a bit more in that realm

Sin-Silver · 2020-04-04T17:22:11+00:00

Is she still doing them? Does she have an addictive personality?

I did MDMA and cocaince once with a friend in Uni who is now a surgeon, don’t consider a one time use an automatic red flag.

Foolishoe · 2020-04-04T17:16:41+00:00

can you explain 'dating' a little better? How long have you known her?

I have a feeling you have never done cocaine or mdma. Sounds like her 'working' holiday included some people with cocaine and mdma. Maybe you should understand how close she is with whoever that is, how often they talk.

Would you try it? How old is she? How old are you?

It's a red flag if she's 14. It's not if she's 19.

Just depends if you do drugs. I don't think the red pill has a stance on drug use. Addiction and obsession are bad, but casual use with months of sobriety [or casual weed smoking] isn't a big deal to me.

I've done both drugs a few times to see what they were like. I don't see what the big deal is with cocaine. I think I had some bunk shit, I got more of a high from NOS energy drinks.

Mdma on the other hand, is a whole other bag of shit. Lots of it is cut with meth. Lots of people that have ready access to it do it most weekends. It puts your emotions through a rollercoaster which is great for a day, then shit for a day [like you want to kill yourself or others or whatever] and it depletes important chemicals in your brain.

Addictive use of anything is a red flag. Do you beat off 4 times a day? That would be a red flag. Does she inject drugs? Red flag. Does she party sometimes when she can but doesn't party often?

Fucking fine. Totally fine.

If YOU don't do drugs EVER maybe you shouldn't take this woman seriously as a long term relationship but YOU are just here to FUCK as long as you want to fuck her before moving onto something BETTER so WHO THE FUCK CARES ABOUT RED FLAGS?

You aren't preparing to commit anything serious to this woman right? WHO THE FUCK CARES THEN? Unless you feel like she's going to rip you off or dump a shit ton of drama at your feet and trap you in some fucked way ITS FINE JUST FUCK HER AND LIVE YOUR LIFE.

djhiggo · 2020-04-04T17:18:43+00:00

It's all a matter of opinion. If you don't like that she's done that, then there's your answer.

cumberger · 2020-04-04T17:39:42+00:00

business opportunity

Huntbutt · 2020-04-04T17:50:53+00:00

No. Neither is blue hair and daddy issues ;)

LaponaCrypto · 2020-04-04T18:02:02+00:00

Red flag bigger than Mars.

W4T3V3R · 2020-04-04T16:32:53+00:00

Wife her up ;)

Obviously jts a fucking red flag.

Whats next? "Is being a cam model a red flag"

mrrooftops · 2020-04-04T17:28:06+00:00

Yeah, this sub has gone full retard.

warthundersfw · 2020-04-04T18:15:31+00:00

Yes. Hell yes. Cocaine sluts is a thi Nd. They will always say yes to a drunken party with more cocaine. It’s addicting and they will fuck for it. Plate

Her one time means she would frequent a place where it was available. Shits expensive, never given out for free

WhatRemainsAfter · 2020-04-04T17:09:39+00:00

Depends on your standards.

Do you do drugs? If yes, then probably she is your kind.

I personally smoke and keeping going on a drug binge time to time. So, I prefer that kind girls to date.

For an LTR - My standards are bit high as it requires lots of investment on my part. Bitch needs to earn it.

Doing drugs, automatically makes me assume she is trashy and has seen too many things in life that has taken away the innocence. What's a lady without an innocence - A bitch.

Also, having a drug background means a traumatic past. So, consider this as well. Drugs are an escape at the end of the day. You don't want damaged goods afterall.

Be wise. Cheers!

Winduzrael · 2020-04-04T16:31:15+00:00

It not necessarily a red flag. Girls are allowed to do the same things as men. Trying is fine.

ZosoWicca · 2020-04-04T16:55:33+00:00

And are you believing that it was just one or two times?? Dont be naive.

Its a red Flag Obviously. Not LTR material.

Well, its IMO. As said above, you must make your own standars. Its up to you finally.

antariusz · 2020-04-04T17:01:14+00:00

sounds like a classic example of trickle truth to lock down a beta or other potential high-prospect LTR for her.

I mean it was only a couple gang-bangs, and it was a long time ago while I was on spring break, so it doesn't count, right?

ProgmusicHans · 2020-04-04T19:53:08+00:00

"Wanted to try" ---> regular part of her party lifestyle
"working holiday in Australia" ---> "I made a holiday out of work" ---> fucked around on drugs
She was a party slut on drugs, that's not only a red flag, but a crimson flag. Disqualified for any long-term relationship.

Nevertheless there are subtitles based on how she told you this:

"I did party drugs x once, didn't like it. I only want someone who isn't into it" is different than
"I tell you what drugs I like and hope and tell me that you want to take them with me"

Tambamwham · 2020-04-04T20:05:48+00:00

There’s a difference between “did” and “doing”

DerekMorganBAU · 2020-04-04T20:51:25+00:00

Y'all niggas are squares boi I swear.

That shit don't matter. Don't marry no hoe, they all hoes, just fuck them and string them along forever.

There are no rules to this shit. Remember that.

LeEbinConchShell · 2020-04-04T20:57:33+00:00

"working holiday" probably means getting gangbanged by chads on 5 grams of molly. :^)

EddTheEdducator · 2020-04-04T22:16:40+00:00

Well i live in the 305, you would be hard pressed to find women who haven’t at least TRIED drugs. Id say 90% of people down here have tried drugs, what really matters is whats drugs and how often.

Im a pothead with a good amount of experience with shrooms and ill tell you right now, avoid any woman who does any drugs regularly if you’re looking for a LTR. If you just want sex go ahead, they’re usually great for that but for a serious relationship avoid it. Trust me,you don’t even want pothead women for an ltr, just avoid it.

You’re the one with insight into her life, if she just tried them out during a phase thats cool. If she does any drugs with some regularity i would avoid it, you don’t want to deal with another persons addictions.

mr4kino · 2020-04-05T00:23:57+00:00

Gigantic red flag.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2020-04-05T02:12:35+00:00

Possible Party girl.

I'd ask her for a little more context on this one.

DatRiggz · 2020-04-05T03:30:35+00:00

Abusing drugs and trying them once or twice are two different things. I haven't touched any drugs for ten years, but when I was younger I'd try shit on occasion.

MisterRoid · 2020-04-05T08:54:52+00:00

Not any worse than alcohol in my opinion... That said, alcohol is really bad and it's better to have a girl who does not drink. But it's a waste of time trying to find a girl like that in the west.

Standgrounding · 2020-04-05T08:59:55+00:00

Yes.

IsaacShSe · 2020-04-05T09:26:16+00:00

Once or twice means she fucking loves it and will fuck dudes just to get cocaine.

If a person has done it once or twice, that person will not talk about it.

LSDparade · 2020-04-04T17:42:31+00:00

since when was drugs a red flag? Why brand 'drugs' under one huge bracket?

sounds like this sub needs some education about drugs

superomar13 · 2020-04-04T17:20:47+00:00

heres a real and straight forward answer: Any girl that mentions that she’s done drugs once or twice before ON HER OWN ACCORD has probably done them much more. Hence shes more of a party girl, and party girls NEVER make good LTR material, even if they were in the past. If she says yeah ive tried them, after you ask her about it, it means shes definitely more on the liberal side. She likes travel, and adventure and if you’re more about liberal chicks then go for it. You’ll learn a lesson either way, good or bad. Judging by what she said “its in the past” and being someone who just got back from a working holiday in australia themselves, GUARANTEED she partied her ass off a few times. Probably went to sash in sydney, ask her about that hahahaha. Shes covering up bro. I wouldnt ltr her.

For reference, I was in an ltr with a girl that i met in australia on my working holiday. Shes never done any drugs before i met her, but she was curious, so i let her try mdma with me under my supervision. I never said no, bc shes a chick and shes obv going to do the exact opposite of thing i tell her no about lol. But my girl was an inexperienced girl, she au paired her way through australia and i met her at the first hostel she stayed ar. I basically caught her before she hopped on the cock carousel and got into the party life which is the working holiday visa in australia.

Bro trust me for your own sanity, I would not LTR that girl, but im sure she’ll be a great lay.

DubbleFUPAwitCheez · 2020-04-04T17:59:02+00:00

Loose morally, loose vaginally.

alienreps · 2020-04-04T16:49:35+00:00

Giant red flag and in case it’s true you should fuck her always with the rubber,toxic girls in percentage carry more Stds

And it may be a shit test,if she sees that you’re accepting that without any problem you become automatically a low value man in her eyes. Never agree with things she says: 80% you disagree and 20% you agree,that’s how you build respect and show her your authority

cumberger · 2020-04-04T17:29:51+00:00

it depends on who you are. if you’re into that shit then you’re fine. if you’re more straight edge then i’d pull off. my girl got her first bump from me

sleep24x7 · 2020-04-04T17:39:28+00:00

I’d say you aren’t thinking at all if you’re relying on a bunch of internet strangers for advice based on very limited information.

You’re in the best position to make a judgement, so make your own decisions.

Since you already went through the effort of posting this, I’ll answer your question anyway:

No, it’s not really if big deal if that’s all there is to it. If you see things going further downhill, cut and run. Otherwise, I personally, don’t have an issue with a little experimenting. Might be a good idea to let her know if you have strong boundaries vis-a-vis experimenting with drugs.

Good luck.

PCM97 · 2020-04-04T17:44:34+00:00

Ehh it depends. Those are party drugs, and I wouldn’t personally want to date a girl who party’s too much. That’s just my take

2020-04-04T18:15:52+00:00

I'm suspicious of anyone who hasn't tried any drug

antoniofelicemunro · 2020-04-04T18:34:34+00:00

Bro, not even close. She tried some drugs, and? Stop being a cuck.

Title	Is doing drugs a red flag?
Author	throwwjustice
Upvotes	9
Comments	86
Date	April 4, 2020 4:27 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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