Midlife crisis

Aaren_Augustine · 2018-01-24T09:05:59+00:00

Dear TRP, I've made all the millions and fucked all the chicks, why don't I love me when everyone else loves me?

Easy. You want others to do it for you. To be responsible for your emotions. So this suicide is just the open wound of a destroyed oneitis. Like, I'll show you people that chose not to love me and that I'm not responsible for me! DEATH!

This is the cost of not being your own man. Not developing your own mission in life. Not learning how to be the source of your own emotional well being. Why Rollo talks about being your mental point of origin.

So now you have the time to figure that out. And the money. However, thoughts of death seem to be far more appealing than actually taking responsibility over your own damn life.

How does one get over their own ego?

Work to have a positive mindset. Can't do that without lowering your ego to the point of flat lining it. You can't do that by feeding your victim mindset.

I have had sex with some amazing women... Even women who are kind of famous

Cant lower your ego by feeding your ego. That's fucking stupid. Like your still trying to convince someone your worth it because you don't think you're worth it. So you feed the beast of suicide with a side of external validating pussy and perfectionist behavior hoping someone will notice and someone will accept you.

But you still can't learn to care about yourself. Like a boy in limbo, cut off from adulthood.

daymi · 2018-01-24T12:19:25+00:00

Truly I am a perfectionist and to some extent I hate my genetics...

Former perfectionist here. Good enough is good enough. What you're doing is hiding your insecurity by wanting everyone else admire how good you are able to do stuff. As someone who used to do that, did they ever admire you? Or only the stuff that you gave them?

How does one get over their own ego?

Be humble. See how much your ego hurts your life. Then vow to let go. Also, meditation.

And don't beat yourself up. If it works, fine. If it doesn't, try something else. And again. And again.

fnordsnord · 2018-01-24T16:17:12+00:00

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redd_reality · 2018-01-24T18:20:48+00:00

Yet I still have this horrible feeling inside like I want to just jump off a bridge.

Relish in this feeling, sink into it and embrace it fully. This is perhaps the single biggest opportunity you've ever had in your life to experience real growth and development. Imagine who you want to become in body, mind and spirit. This pain and uncertainty is the fuel which you will use to make this image a reality. Understand that the pain and discomfort is your psyches resistance to incoming change. This is why I say accept and relish this pain. It is the boat to greatness. You can either jump aboard, throw on your captains hat and steer that fucker where you want, or sit on the dock, focus on the pain and let it destroy you.

If you take up the challenge, you might just figure out who the fuck you are in process. and one day, years from now, when you're an old man waiting to take your last breath, you'll be able to smile and rest easy knowing you lived a life worth living. For the gods tested you, you rose to their challenge and now you sit among them.

Truly I am a perfectionist and to some extent I hate my genetics

Life is a game of poker. You don't choose your hand. But the winner of the game isn't determined by which cards you're dealt, but by how you play your hand. The point -> self control and power of will are the only values and skills one needs to embrace in order to devastate his opponents and forge his own path.

Anon-112233 · 2018-01-24T15:21:28+00:00

This hit's home for me (not suicidal tho). I'm also a multi millionaire and feel lost, I go to the gym and am in good shape.

I'm 32, with an LTR of 9 years, I'm thinking about breaking up because she (31) wants kids now, which i'm not sure about yet. However i'm afraid I will not find a trustworthy girl like her (also she has a good carreer and savings).

Dr9 · 2018-01-24T21:16:33+00:00

You went through something traumatic. No shame in taking some time to get back to your old self. Just keep putting effort in (which is sounds like you are), and don't just run down the clock.

TRPalexmehr · 2018-01-24T19:45:56+00:00

Sent you a PM.

Title	Midlife crisis
Author	bluepillcarl
Upvotes	4
Comments	14
Date	January 24, 2018 8:41 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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