Should have I reacted differently?

900_year_old_vampire · 2019-06-01T18:13:21+00:00

no
no

Ponder3277 · 2019-06-01T19:54:44+00:00

I think it’s kind of weird that a psychiatrist is telling his patient that someone HAS to meet him so he can feel better. I mean, isn’t the point of seeing a shrink to help you realize you can’t control some people? I’d be very very cautious. It doesn’t seem like shrink behavior. She may be lying about the situation fully.

hatethiscity · 2019-06-01T21:42:05+00:00

This is straight out of the playbook of another user here faced with a similar situation. The best advice I've seen/used in this situation is to say something along these lines:

"Sure it's no problem at all, but just so you know, I don't typically date girls who go on dates with other guys."

Then just leave it at that. If she still goes, hard next or ghost.

Then again this is only if you have an actual issue with this situation. Personally I wouldn't mind if someone I'm seeing wants to meet an ex (for most cases).

SoulRedemption · 2019-06-01T21:37:55+00:00

First determine what she is to you. A plate? Potential LTR?

Once this is determined your next steps will be clearer.

If plate, it shouldnt bother you what she does.

If potential LTR, re-evaluatr your projectory.

Emerald__Faith · 2019-06-01T22:42:23+00:00

Shes lying, Psychs wouldn't recommend that
Girls go back to their ex's, not for "food/chats" lol, she sucked him off atleast
Next, due to disrespecting

furcryingoutloud · 2019-06-01T21:43:11+00:00

Aside from the fact that I'm calling bullshit on the psychiatrist saying they should meet, I'm calling bullshit on the breakfast meeting, but I get it, they sleep together, then go have breakfast. But just so you know, I've never met anyone for breakfast in my entire life. Just sayin.

Also, I'm calling bullshit on your statement that you don't care because when ever I don't care about something, I tend to forget about and don't ask people about it and I certainly don't have to tell anyone that I don't care. Usually evidenced by the fact that I forgot about it.

deejayapster · 2019-06-01T21:11:49+00:00

I wouldn't put up with that shit for a milisecond. If she said she was meeting up with an ex for i dont care WHAT reason.. means shes disrespecting yours. Simple as that. Tell her she can do whatever she wants, but there will be consequences, and if she still goes, ghost, delete, move on.

0io- · 2019-06-01T21:51:50+00:00

You take her out to lunch and she treats you like this?

Unless you guys are "declared open" like you know she has a boyfriend and she knows you have a girlfriend but you guys are fucking each other on the side for fun, I would instantly demote for even considering such bullshit, along with the goofy story to go along with it.

She's basically asking whether or not you consent to being cucked.

"A doctor suggested I go see a guy I used to fuck". It's bullshit.

VigilantSmartbomb · 2019-06-01T22:31:25+00:00

I think you did well, anything else would have been mate guarding maybe

thewobblywelder · 2019-06-01T23:11:03+00:00

You are being manipulated sir. She’s had her fun, now she wants to get back to finding beta bux. In this case her ex is displaying that sentiment by reaching out to her about his mental health, therefore she sees that she can use that as a tool to further her agenda for becoming a wifey with kids. So if you don’t care that much, then next her. If you do care about her. Then good luck. But she isn’t going to stick around if you don’t start acting more beta towards her. It’s the way of the woman. So care or don’t care. That’s your choice brother.

Red_Pill_Brotherhood · 2019-06-02T05:14:27+00:00

Plate: who cares. Maybe soft next for a couple days if it caused drama or you think she is trying to fuck with you a bit.

LTR: Tell her calmly once "I'm not cool with that." If she goes, dump her. If not, fine. She shouldn't be considering this. Seeing an ex in any way is crossing the line.

adeptintact · 2019-06-02T05:36:33+00:00

Doesn't seem like LTR potential if she's still dating her ex. That's your answer.

vandaalen · 2019-06-01T21:12:36+00:00

Why would you care? She is a plate. Three fleshlights in a meat sack and there are millions more where that came from.

It sounds like a bullshit story to manipulate into something anyways. Probably looking to make you jealous or some kind of bullshit.

If this kind of horseshit annoys you. just next for a couple of days.

tbarwaifu · 2019-06-01T21:04:24+00:00

As a married woman, the whole situation seems fishy to me. I knew I was into my husband from basically day one, even before we were dating. I got interest from ex’s and other men as per usual when we were dating and just ignored or blocked them. If you don’t care and if she doesn’t care why are you together? Or are y’all just the type where monogamy isn’t a big deal in early stages? Just seems weird.

boardrider73 · 2019-06-01T23:17:29+00:00

You don't care?! That's why you're posting in an online forum full of strangers. Ok man. At least be honest.

uptimex · 2019-06-02T06:30:01+00:00

"Keeping things casual" what do you mean? And you consider her as an LTR or a Plate? Are you ready to next her if things go wrong?

SeasonedRP · 2019-06-02T10:04:52+00:00

I don't believe her story. I'd avoid her and see how hard she tries to meet up with you, then decide how you want to go from there.

MeditatingParadise · 2019-06-01T19:51:11+00:00

You're overthinking the whole situation. It is clear as daylight. This girl is disrespecting your masculinity. How dare she even think about putting any effort into any ex and not into you. She has also manipulated you into believing that she must be the hero in order to ''save'' him from himself via therapy.

Are you really that gullible? Women are master manipulators from birth ( Red Pill- Females babies literally flirt from day one in order to extract attention from caregivers). If her attraction levels were extremely high, she wouldn't even go near any ''ex''. Being cool about everything she does is not the answer, my brother. This is a massive shit test and you're about to fail it. Demand that she shows you respect immediately and that it is not her responsibility to cater to his feelings. Your word is law and that is final. Order her to cut all contact with him right now and walk away and find another female if she refuses to obey your command. Trust me, this is total disrespect from my point of view.

Title	Should have I reacted differently?
Author	runninthrutha6
Upvotes	30
Comments	46
Date	June 1, 2019 6:08 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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