2 Great dates, then she flakes twice in a row

QuebecLibre · 2014-08-07T20:30:23+00:00

yeah, stop thinking SO MUCH about what to do, and roll with it. Be persistent, but NOT NEEDY

oh, and if she likes you, you will see her again. If she doesn't, you won't. No amount of texting or jokes over the phone will make change her mind. So yeah, just don't be needy thats all you can do.

This video made me realise the difference. Watch and learn... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8cqJziA86S8

DrewCruise · 2014-08-07T22:19:44+00:00

You are chasing this girl too much. You need to be less available. I would text her this and only this:

Hey, you seem really busy right now. I'd like to hang out and have fun with you again. So when you definitely have some free time, maybe next week, please let me know. Cheers.

And leave it at that. Back off and don't send any more texts or calls, give this girl some space. You should make plans to go out this weekend, have fun with your friends and find some new girls to flirt with.

omarm1984 · 2014-08-07T22:49:09+00:00

Whats up with this not making out on the second date shit? She must think youre this lameo who is scared to go after what he wants

ultrasuperthrowaway · 2014-08-08T00:02:23+00:00

You are like a virile potent male ready to unleash a huge stream of testosterone onto this poor woman!

swishandswallow · 2014-08-08T05:27:35+00:00

If she comes she comes, if she doesn't she doesn't. Don't put her on a pedestal. If you're putting her so high up right now while she's not yours, how are you going to be if you were actually dating her. She will text you when she's free, if she doesn't then there's a million other women available

BuyerOfCoins · 2014-08-08T16:11:22+00:00

So I met a girl on tinder, we had 2 really nice dates. I felt we had a pretty good connection, talking about some pretty personal things. She even invited me back to her house the first date where we made out for a bit. The second date we didnt kiss much only at the end when I had to leave. I asked her to come over the next day and she excitedly said "okay!"

Well good for you! I'm happy for you that these two dates worked out.

Next day I text her and she flakes but she says she will be free tomorrow.

Hmm okay thats cool. She doesn't have to be available to you whenever you wish for it.

I texted her the day after that and she flaked again. Now she is new here and told me she had lined up a few interviews and she babysits so she could actually be busy in which case I should not be worried?

It is weird and unstimulating of someone to first tell you that they are free and then tell you they have plans. Of course it could be something really important came up for her and she is not ready to tell you this yet.

What should I do next? Move on? Edit: she just texted me that she is free the next day (tomorrow) but is not sure when. What do seddit?

You set the date and time. Just because she is free doesn't mean that YOU are. If you are free tomorrow, fine, but my advice is to really set a date like: 'Alright, let's meet at blahblah at 8pm'. If she flakes on you for the third time, I'd say move on.

readonlyuser · 2014-08-07T20:26:21+00:00

A) You're fucking needy, so stop doing that. Stop doing so many days in a row and so much texting. Space it out.

B) Ask in /r/askseddit.

Title	2 Great dates, then she flakes twice in a row
Author	Babayaga20000
Upvotes	2
Comments	15
Date	August 7, 2014 8:11 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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