I was never the girl that was sexually open as a teen and didnt explore. I now have been with my husband for 8 years and have become more sexually active especially in the past year after healing from trauma, but I still have know clue what im doing. He says I've gotten much better at bjs and different positions and exploring that but I suck at initiating. When i've asked my husband, i think he's just trying to be sweet and polite, But he just says doing the feminine girly things. Not really sure what it entails as he doesn't know how to describe it further. I've tried to watch porn but as we all know, it's staged and scripted/not real. I would rather learn from the advice of others. Women, what do you do to initiate/get your guy going? And men, what do you like for your woman to do to get you doing?