Almost never close the same night. What am I missing?

Siyuen_Tea · 2026-06-19T16:22:27+00:00

It's not hard and true but have you ever heard the 8 hour rule? You need to spend a cumulative 8 hours with her to generally get her. So if you meet her, hang out for like an hour , then bounce somewhere to eat and hang out for like another hour, thats 2 cumulative hours.

Generally, if you're going to bang her on the first day, you want to meet her early. Knock out practically a weeks worth of dating in one day and then end the night with her.

Again, not a hard rule. If she's drunk, horny and maybe a little insecure. If on top of that, you've been laying it on thick what this is about, you'll definitely see more results. Play from a lust angle not a love angle. A little dread game after the kiss too might help. The problem with this way is more rejection and more resistance at the end. If you've been getting good results so far though, I'd recommend pushing it a little bit.

joggingjunkie · 2026-06-19T14:42:00+00:00

My philosophy has changed when it comes to this particular strategy..

Why are you so eager to close 1st night and are you ready for the potential issues on the "backend" if/when you do??

norwegiandoggo · 2026-06-19T17:17:29+00:00

You need to invite them home.

SolidWriter356 · 2026-06-19T18:23:02+00:00

They dont trust you You a guy that they not really know "He is sexy and funny but...i have no trust what if he is a rapist a killer" You need to build trust And if they trust youre more in my experience the sex is 600% better

United-Implement-382 · 2026-06-19T15:09:55+00:00

What does your escalation routine look like?

BounceThatShit · 2026-06-19T15:48:38+00:00

Women need some “convincing” to come back on the first night. Not exactly convincing but almost validation or reassurance that you wont think of them differently for doing so. I always put out feelers throughout the date about how society views women as sluts for doing things like that etc. not even to necessarily try to get them that night just because I actually believe that and its nice fir them to feel comfortable. I’m not sure if what i said makes sense but it works. A lot of societal pressure makes women not do what they actually want to do if you know what I mean.

Prestigious_Water336 · 2026-06-19T18:07:32+00:00

Most women won't go back to your or her place after the first date

It makes them seem too easy

Sometimes after the second or usually third date they're down for sex

shittybillz · 2026-06-19T18:38:41+00:00

In my experience it’s almost impossible to bring a girl home unless you’re physically escalating first.

Ask yourself this; do you wait until the end of the date to try and kiss her, or do you kiss her throughout the date? Hold hands? Anything? You won’t bring a girl home if you haven’t touched her.

If you’re kissing on the street or in a bar, you can say “let’s get out of here” and there is a good chance she will follow. If you kiss her as she’s getting into the car, you’re banking on insane chemistry and a make out session to get her to change plans and come home with you.

ethicalhooping · 2026-06-19T23:25:30+00:00

all the answers I've seen are pretty bad. you don't need to bring her home you just need to be alone together somewhere. You don't need 8 hours with her either. Have you initiated a makeout in the backseat of your car? That can be escalated into more

appmanga · 2026-06-19T23:14:58+00:00

Getting any woman in bed requires trust and connection?

You're talking here about closing on the same night. Do you "close" when it's the second date or beyond, or does it not happen at all?

No_Treacle8835 · 2026-06-20T12:54:46+00:00

Don’t obsess over closing on the first meet.

that being said, a lot of it comes down to logistics. You either have to close near where you are, or progressively bring them near where you want to close. For example, ending the night in a bar near your place (or her place). keep her moving.

also be flexible in your thinking. What you need is a secluded space where se feels comfortable, not necessarily “home”.

Realwoujo · 2026-06-20T19:57:11+00:00

Not every girl is gonna want to fuck you the first night. In fact, I would say its pretty rare. Also, you are probably coming on too strong.

Dramatic_Hearing_714 · 2026-06-21T03:30:51+00:00

Once you stop trying to “close” women like a sale and start living your best life, investing in yourself, career maxing, women will allow you to “close” them as soon as you meet them as a byproduct of being one of the sexiest and most successful men they’ve ever met

MineDesperate2920 · 2026-06-26T04:09:34+00:00

Hard to close on the first date if you’re doing dates. I wouldn’t even be trying to be honest. 2 or 3 dates yes but don’t bother on the first you’ll kill more opportunities than is worth it

Title	Almost never close the same night. What am I missing?
Author	Daniel-sp
Upvotes	6
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Date	June 19, 2026 2:30 PM UTC (1 month ago)
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