Am I imagining this?...

acewing · 2011-09-13T03:58:23+00:00

don't complain, just go with it!

cody_au · 2011-09-13T10:54:43+00:00

It's your attitude, working out itself is meaningless. I'm a 10kg overweight shaved bald guy in my 30s and get plenty of AI; I even grew out a wickedly crap beard and balding crop circle hairstyle the past few months just to see how far I could go before I'd stop myself, and it made absolutely no difference. My housemate has been a 29yo gym buff for the better part of the last decade and doesn't often warrant a second look.

I remember my main realisation of this was a couple years ago in one of my fattest phases, walking down the nightclub strip to a restaurant in jeans and flip flops but a remotely interesting shirt and shitty beard with my friend, and having a car of teenage girls roll by screaming, "OMG WE WANT YOUUUU". (It might be worth noting that in that restaurant I get really good service too, because all the waitresses know and like me.)

I don't know the exact formula to reproduce all of this, but I know looks doesn't play much of a role. Unless, I'm just a really good looking guy and don't even realise it. My friends assure me I am not ;-) I do have small black earrings, which are scientifically proven (probably not) to increase your attractiveness by a 0.5. It might be that.

Question: Have you ever seen the Big Lebowski? I watched it a few days ago with my girlfriend to see what all the fuss is about, and honestly I think girls (and men too, I suppose!) like the main guy as a character despite being a complete bum. Why? Because he says what he thinks and doesn't give a shit about much except his favourite rug. I think that's highly relevant.

shogun21 · 2011-09-13T05:45:54+00:00

That cashier girl was checking you out!

sparklyteenvampire · 2011-09-13T04:02:18+00:00

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psyocal · 2011-09-13T08:08:50+00:00

Haha, that’s exactly what my friend said. He got back into the gym and felt good. He said some girls stopped him in the middle of the street and started hitting on him. They asked him what he was up to later in the evening.

Makes sense if you think about it: you go to the gym, you lift weights, check yourself out in the mirror a few times. You see an exaggerated image of yourself hyped up by your ego. You take the confidence outside of the gym. You radiate confidence and high self esteem wherever you go – and people notice.

People usually leave the gym pumped up physically and mentally. They leave thinking “Oh yeah, I’m the fucking man!” The feeling usually wears off after the sessions become a part of a routine. Once that happens, simply switch up your gym regiment. You’ll get the “Oh yeah, I’m the fucking man!” high again. Rinse and repeat.

throwawaypedobear · 2011-09-13T10:50:29+00:00

Always assume attraction with everyone (even girls YOU aren't interested in) until proven otherwise (in a very direct way). Trust me, it will do wonders for you if you incorporate this mentality into your life.

jingidy · 2011-09-13T06:15:44+00:00

Happens to me when I dress nicer, and I have the same "am I just imagining it?" doubt.

Who cares? It's awesome! If you interact with them as if they're paying more attention to you, they'll start paying attention even if they weren't! (That and I'm pretty sure it's not just your imagination)

WaywardPatriot · 2011-09-13T07:24:20+00:00

Yea, I get this feeling a lot too. I attend a campus with tons of really attractive girls, and I am a person who just makes eye contact a lot. Like a boss, even.

Then I have days when I don't dress my best or I'm rushed or into my own headspace, and I don't notice even 1/2 of the looks I would normally get.

Sure, a lot of it is just people being nice. But its an opener and a way to start off a conversation if the timing is right...just go with it.

Twatless · 2011-09-13T13:58:49+00:00

after a gym sesh I walk out with my head high and actually notice people looking at me because I'm looking up instead of staring at the footpath

faithplusone01 · 2011-09-13T14:18:56+00:00

Not gonna lie, I've noticed the same thing about myself recently.

It could be that you're now more aware of the looks you're receiving. You've lurked on seddit for long enough that your mind subconsciously is internalizing things like IOIs and eyefucking.

Thats what I attribute it to at least. But hey, you'd rather assume that they're all watching you than that they're not. I've maintained 150-155lbs and shed a ton of body fat (by adding a ton of upper body muscle). I'm a work in progress, but this fight is a marathon, not a sprint. The same can be said about your seduction techniques.

Remember, bitches smell fear. Now, you're not projecting any fear.

sturmeh · 2011-09-13T09:16:49+00:00

Doesn't matter, either they are or you're confident.

In which case they are. :P

WolfInTheField · 2011-09-13T12:43:04+00:00

You actually are getting checked out more, but even if it were just you imagining it, it'd mean you're doing it right. Furthermore, this is probably not because of the workouts, but because of the added confidence it gave you. That translates to how you carry yourself in the world, and tadaa! Chicks dig it. Awesome, anyway!

2011-09-13T14:49:33+00:00

testosterone has a very telling effect on women.

Milvolarsum · 2011-09-13T16:46:52+00:00

I would say that you´re actually getting checked out more. I think even small changes can make a huge difference. Actually I had a similiar experience yesterday but in my case it was after a fresh, new haircut . After I left the barber the first hour I walked through some shops I saw the lookes. At first I thought: "WTH, did you screw up? Does your hair really look that bad?" Then I noticed that the people showed a total different body language! Seems like my hair´s looking good :D

Rahms · 2011-09-13T12:39:34+00:00

Also a big factor is that you are just back at uni. When everyone comes back after the break they are fresh and happy and more open to meeting new people. Take advantage of it!

Obviously alot of people remain this way, but some seem to settle down and go back to their glum ways :<

PetiePal · 2011-09-13T13:46:31+00:00

The real point is...Does it matter? I think you're getting more confident in your skills, your body, your self-image and your self-esteem is boosting. Usually you can tell when you're over reading things but it sounds like the change is becoming more evident to others AND it's changing how you feel on the inside, which exudes as well!

iznou · 2011-09-13T19:28:24+00:00

OK here's the thing man. If you focus on this too much it will go away. Life just works like that.

I suggest you look at it like a bird that just learned how to fly. Are you going to get all self conscious, like "omg what do I do just keep flapping my wings?" or are you going to be proactive like "ok now I think I'll fly over there."

Title	Am I imagining this?...
Author	HyperByte27
Upvotes	18
Comments	20
Date	September 13, 2011 3:50 AM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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