AMA - Chris Bale, Masculine Intent

vxStarkxv · 2015-05-05T19:04:03+00:00

First, I want to thank you for what you do. I will begin with lifestyle questions. I saw that you meditate and I would like to know what's your meditation schedule and how your meditate (there is a hell lot of various way to meditate) ? Also what's your Top3 more important habits that you have and why? Thanks, shortly the seduction questions ;)

Rakuen · 2015-05-06T22:31:58+00:00

Loved you in the Machinist

SecondThreat · 2015-05-05T19:34:22+00:00

Thanks for doing the AMA. I have a question about approaching. Every time I see a hot girl, I keep thinking to myself that she knows my intent the moment I approach her, and it ends up psyching me out. I feel like she is thinking "sigh here we go" and it messes me up. Do most girls think this when being approached? Do they typically get hit on a lot, or no (I've heard both)? Does what they think really matter? Thanks.

mermaidlyf · 2015-05-06T02:21:28+00:00

Hi chris, I'm not a man but I am a lady who is currently trying to get out of crippling depression, low self esteem and a dating rut. Do you think your ideas could be beneficial to women as well or are men and women to different?

gyutto · 2015-05-05T19:12:34+00:00

Hello,

I'm attracted to a 9, at our first meetup I got alpha'd by another dude, he asked her for her number and did basically everything right, while I failed big time ( Shy, low self confidence and so on ) I'm glad that I learned how not to love girls immediately when they seem perfect but since she is so perfect I'm on the edge of loving her currently. I have no way to contact her, my only chance is a party in a few weeks which we both will attend, can you give me some advice how I can approach her and maybe date her later and where? I'm pretty bad at choosing dating places and general dates.

richterisms · 2015-05-06T02:29:33+00:00

New to the whole seduction world! I've been trying to gradually push the edges of my comfort zone little by little each day. Yet, I've noticed I have sticking points when it comes to conversational kino! I've heard that it should be natural, yet I always freeze up or begin to freak out in my mind! I'm sure this is normal, yet I was wondering if you had any advice on this. Thanks man!

Jamie_Alexander_Trea · 2015-05-10T15:01:30+00:00

Is there any recommended articles or guide you can suggest about COLD APPROACH? if not , what are the basic things you can tell a guy about COLD APPROACH ?

pinkdawg99 · 2015-05-11T03:23:02+00:00

What do you think was key to developing that flirty fun attitude you have?

fitzzpleasure · 2015-05-05T20:02:10+00:00

Who's more handsomer? me or you?

vxStarkxv · 2015-05-05T19:53:14+00:00

So like I said, her ewe go with the seductions questions The most important for me is what colour socks are you wearing ? ;)

Beside of that very important question, I didn't really understood how you project your masculine energy. What are the traits that you see when a man project his masculine energy to a woman. The same question with polarization. How do you put sexual tension in the interaction ? I have difficulties to physically escalate and because it's not naturally to me, when I try it, women sees it. And finally how to you keep the interaction foward ? After the initials talks about what your life is about, what we like etc... I found it very difficult to find new subjects of conversation

Oh and I remember that you talk about a breathing technique in one of your articles. If you put your conscious in your breathing, you are not anymore fully present, am I wrong ? And if your have other techniques like this one ...

Thanks, that's all for the moment. If I have others question I will come back ;)

SerThrowalat · 2015-05-05T19:54:20+00:00

Long term watcher on this sub....

As a 20 year old who has never had a long term relationship. What would you recommend I do to break out of my rut, I am not bad at talking with girls and I end up finding out that alot of girls I know do in fact fancy me. Though I am awful at escalating things and breaking out my bubble, always flirting but never committing to anything more...

What can I do right now to help improve my game/ what could I do to improve it (gym, go out more etc.)?

2.With a view for the long term both in the arena of one-night stands and long term relationships, what can I do to make myself attractive and approachable to women.

Thanks!

LegitAnswers · 2015-05-05T19:55:50+00:00

Do people mistaken you for Christian Bale? lol

sedditz · 2015-05-05T20:06:34+00:00

Hi Christian,

Thanks for taking the time to do this AMA.

I have been day gaming for 2 months. I have made significant progress and had a lot of fun. My progress has consisted of fun interactions and a few number closes. No dates so far.

These past few weeks have been a little tough. I am finding that I am losing the ability to approach and AA is appearing again. Overall my skill has been very volatile these past few weeks. Its tough and I try my best to push through, but these days I feel I am at square one. Do you have any suggestions to get past this rut? It's very hard to keep pushing when you start to feel like youve lost all of your gains. Thanks again buddy.

vxStarkxv · 2015-05-05T20:48:45+00:00

I remember that you talk about a breathing technique in bed in one of your articles. If you put your conscious in your breathing, you are not anymore fully present, am I wrong ? And if your have other techniques like this one ... The same question when you think in your mind you are having sex with her. It's difficult to think that and be fully present at the same time.

santisabor29 · 2015-05-05T22:44:00+00:00

Hi Chris, I'm a big fan and I've been following your stuff for a while and I love them, so here goes the questions..

Im a teenager(17) who try to get his shit handled I started meditation, reading and doing exercise but I still need to handle the part of my life that involves womans , so what would be your advice for someone as young as me... also a good way to put it is what would be your advice to your younger self? What are the things that you wish that you know earlier?

Final question: I'm commit to this so what would be a good roadmap to start approaching womans? Could you give some task that increase the difficulty to desensitize myself of the fear of approaching?

Thanks for all the content you have already put out, take care.

artjimmerson1 · 2015-05-06T02:01:20+00:00

Anytime I try to use masculine intent I am called a "fuckboy" by girls (they only tell me in retrospect when I ask them why I was not given a second date)

"fuckboy" is a term used to denote a guy who is a player.

moonsidian · 2015-05-07T22:41:32+00:00

What's your opinion on /r/NoFap with regard to seduction?

ChrisBale1 · 2015-05-05T19:45:47+00:00

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TheSicilianDude · 2015-05-05T20:14:00+00:00

What do you think are some good (or even some unusual) places to meet women BESIDES nightspots? I still love meeting girls while out at the bars but I think it gets old sometimes. I'm not always trying to pull girls home for a ONS. I find it a bit overrated, honestly.

Also, do you take on a different approach to girls in different settings? Like meeting girls at coffee shops versus music festivals versus sporting events, etc.

Madafaka_Jones · 2015-05-05T20:51:50+00:00

Hey Chris, I've noticed you mention meditation a lot when you talk about changing your day to day and improving yourself. In what ways has meditation changed you, and how can I start to explore it?

ChrisBale1 · 2015-05-05T21:20:44+00:00

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vxStarkxv · 2015-05-05T21:35:11+00:00

Will you ever post some infield videos to show us how you interact with women ?

threwout12345 · 2015-05-05T21:49:08+00:00

I would like to thank you for taking the time to do this AMA. I would like to begin with questions regarding my height. I have found that as a 5'6, 22 years old male, I am a bit on the shorter side. I am not normally self-conscious about my height but I have found it does give me a significant disadvantage for my success with girls. I witnessed this the past couple of weeks the hard way (my taller friend who was in a relationship for years and never gamed girls at a party went out with me one night to a party and didn't even approach and managed to get a pretty cute girl to dance and make out with him first while I approached and got nothing out of it). This has made me think that there is no point in me going out to clubs and night life in general to meet girls, as these places are venues that are superficial by nature, places where girls size you up in 5 seconds and if they don't like what they see, you have no chance. That being said, I do think my strengths lie in day game and interactions requiring conversation as I think I can converse to the point where girls can get comfortable with me. Am I overthinking this height issue or are my concerns rational? It's not as if I am not displaying confident body language (I work out and I try to maintain great posture at all times), but going out to these loud clubs with my friends who seem to have better successes with girls has discouraged me. If my concerns are not rational, what can I do to improve my future interactions at these venues?

Second, I do not have too much experience with girls in my past and I think that has translated to my complete lack of knowledge of what to do when I want to attract a girl, particularly conversation. In the past, I have had problems interviewing girls and asking too many questions, but even knowing that this isn't optimal, I do not know how to carry conversations with girls now. How do I form that emotional connection with girls that make me more attractive to them? I thought it was all about getting girls to open up and making them feel comfortable. Yet, I talked to a random girl once for 40 minutes while smoking a cigarette with her and felt we were pretty comfortable with each other, but when it was time for me to go, she refused to give me her number to my surprise. Would you recommend using FORD to connect with girls on a more emotional level? What should I be thinking about when I talk to girls to get them to open up?

Finally, I tend to be one of those people who tend to overanalyze and overthink relationships in general. While this can be good at times, particularly when I give close friends and family advice, it is a game killer when I try to talk to girls. How can I stop thinking so much and being more confident in the things I do? Can I balance thinking about the things I do before I do them and just going for whatever my instinct tells me to go for at the time?

Thanks, I apologize if the post was a bit too long.

donutsilovedonuts · 2015-05-05T22:50:24+00:00

Hi Chris,

So I'm a senior in college, 22, and I'm still a virgin. It sucks and it has caused me a great deal of frustration and anger. It wasn't until the last month or two that this has come to the forefront of my mind as something I need to get through, since I'm five weeks from graduation. I've had two opportunities to get laid, once in high school but I didn't feel like I was ready for the girl, and then once this last summer but she was a pretty unattractive girl I met on Tinder and I didn't feel like wasting my virginity on her. At this point, I've built up so much pressure around losing my virginity that I don't know whether to just have sex and treat it like its not a big deal or to wait until I meet a girl I really like. And the latter doesn't really seem possible for a guy who's about to graduate. Anyway, any words of wisdom will help. For the record I'm in decent shape and I'm at least decent-looking. I'm pretty torn about what I want right now and I guess I wanted to hear your thoughts.

Thanks for what you do. Also, good to hear you are meditating. I started practicing a few years ago but I gotta say it hasn't really helped me with the lady stuff thus far.

edit: I should also say that I'm most interested in the long-term, cause-rather-than-symptom approach, but it doesn't seem possible to accomplish all that in my limited time left here.

Elfclan30 · 2015-05-06T13:57:13+00:00

So you are from spain I guess. What do you about the spanish ¨player¨ Mario Luna?

zserjk · 2015-05-06T16:25:39+00:00

Hi there, not sure if i am late, but i am guessing you are traveling a lot in new places.

How do you set up new social circles around there, aside from the ones you work with. I have found my self in a reseted enviroment lately, and i am pushing myself into going out solo etc. I 've met some people others i find they have value others dont, how do you befriend them even more without being annoying.

Also second question. I find approaching easier if i have a good "trickjoke" to tell, cause immediately it sets a positive vibe in the interaction. I 've been using the one with the "93% masturbate at bath the other 7% sings a particular song" joke. But after many repetitions it getting boring for me, are you aware of others?

Thanks in advance.

moonsidian · 2015-05-06T19:07:54+00:00

I just read your "French Hostel Beauty" article on your site. What does "wanna come beat up some midgets?" mean? Haha

Kevinthepillow · 2015-05-09T21:15:28+00:00

What was the lowest point of your life? How did you get out of it?

Elfclan30 · 2015-05-10T19:33:15+00:00

Hey, hello I have finally found a way to ask you the question without sounding creepy. I read that atracction has limited time, but what about those girls that actually fall in love with a guy(and and most of the time the guy has never talked to them) for YEARS! and feel nervous and all of those stuff when the guy is around. Basically how to make a girl fall in love with you(is different of: how to attract them, becuase the atracttion will fade away quite easily if you do not make a move).

hippoontoast · 2015-05-15T00:23:19+00:00

Hey chris, not sure if you are still reading these but boy could i use your help.

i am 22, pretty tall, naturally have wide shoulders and work out a bit, so my physique is decent (not great). my face is not great, but i have received compliments on occasion from women. i live in germany in a college town with a large amount of women. i am ok at opening women and i can usually make them laugh. i was horrific at game up until last year when i figured out how to kiss girls and sometimes take them home (basically i would just grab their waist and then go for the kiss, allthough i have also been rejected doing this a few times) i have an additional problem which is that since i was 18 i have suffered from back pain and then when i was twenty even worse, pelvic pain. it took me a long time to figure out that these pains were psychosomatic (or mindbody) pains, they were life destroying but caused by my thoughts. there was nothing wrong with me physically. i still get these pains sometimes when i am nervous, mainly in night clubs. if you don't know what i am talking about, google dr sarno, a doctor who specialises in these things and whose books saved my life.

at the start of the year this was supposed to be the year i finally figured shit out with women. i have (maybe had) the ability to get women interested and my phone is full of beautiful women who i have flirted with. here is the problem: i can not fuck them. and if i really like them i can also not kiss them.

my problem is i can not build sexual tension and i can not pull the trigger. i can't dance with them, i can't touch them and i can not mask the fact that i am often uncomfortable. people keep telling me to smile when i am at a club. it is not really that i don't know how to do it, it is that i literally can't. i can not bring myself to do it.

this is a bit of a ramble, and i am a bit drunk after a night out with some friends (where agian, i attracted a girl, got her to come with us to the club in a bar beforehand, before doing nothing and my friend danced and made out with her).

i really need your coaching but i am skint. i guess my question is what can i do to a) get out of my head (meditation?) b) learn to really build sexual tension and c) pull the trigger?

i feel like i have wasted and am wasting my life, i need a change quickly.

hope you read this, love your stuff.

ChrisBale1 · 2015-05-05T23:34:29+00:00

Ok gentlemen...It is 1:30am here in Barcelona, Spain. I will continue this tomorrow for a period of time so keep your questions coming and i will answer as soon as I log on tomorrow!

Chris

Elfclan30 · 2015-05-05T23:38:54+00:00

How do you make a girl ¨emotional-dependient¨for you. Like connect in a deep way that she basically cannot live without you.

P.S. just interested in the theory I do not want to do that.

Title	AMA - Chris Bale, Masculine Intent
Author	ChrisBale1
Upvotes	70
Comments	90
Date	May 5, 2015 7:02 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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