Why You Must STOP Explaining Yourself To Women

Byizo · 2015-10-05T16:37:24+00:00

What's more is that women don't care. They don't care why you're approaching them. All they care about is how you are making them feel, and coming at them like a timid little rabbit isn't going to make them feel good.

RAMzuiv · 2015-10-05T23:44:42+00:00

While I am not saying that Models should be treated like the holy bible, in this case, I am inclined to agree with what Manson says - any approach is going to be at least a little bit awkward, not just for the guy, but also for the woman he is trying to talk to.

What OP is advocating is, just let it be awkward, but I'm not sure that I agree with that - it is much more honest to acknowledge the awkwardness, but go ahead and prove you are a boss despite the awkwardness, as opposed to (awkwardly) ignoring the awkwardness is a very self-defeating, awkward way. Because it's awkward.

CrushHazard · 2015-10-05T14:40:22+00:00

Great point.

SenorPuff · 2015-10-05T18:55:31+00:00

Seems to fly in the face of part of Models if I recall correctly.

twitch1982 · 2015-10-05T18:57:11+00:00

This is good solid sound advice, thank you for posting it, It's a nice contrast to the massive piles of beginner questions and absolutely horrible advice that was posted all weekend.

4pocrypha · 2015-10-05T21:04:26+00:00

Wow, this was an amazing read. I've been browsing Seddit for about 6 months now, and nothing has been as profound as this.

Thanks for sharing!

Not2original · 2015-10-05T18:05:56+00:00

Good read. few points were off for me in in all it's a good read with solid tips.

LUClEN · 2015-10-05T22:53:38+00:00

I needed to hear that. I think it's applicable to everyone too, not just ladies

Alpha_Centurion · 2015-10-06T13:49:45+00:00

Pick-up content in a nutshell:

-Oh, you have to do X! -X? Hell, no! Never do X, do Y! -Y is too robotic, you have to be more natural and do Z. -Z? How can you say this? Stop doing that, do G!

And the list goes on.

tanagoBG · 2015-10-05T15:46:07+00:00

"Women will not take you seriously. life wont take you seriously. You dont even take yourself seriously"

can't disagree more. People taking things too seriously are boring, at least for me. Dating must be fun, meeting people must be fun, life must be fun.

im the kind of guy to do crazy stuff not only alone, but with friends and even in public. if you are going to take me seriously, hit the road.

MrTinklebottom · 2015-10-05T22:10:27+00:00

He's assuming that the reason a guy frames their intro line that was is because theyre not okay with what theyre saying. I basically agree but I think there's more to the explanation. I think theres a feeling that its not socially okay to just go right up to a girl and be be straightforward because youre giving the idea that you only are talking to her out of sexual interest which might be perceived as offensive, as if youre trying as much as you can to avoid coming off as saying "hey bb want sum fuk??". Ive personally had this issue I think because Ive had the idea that the best way to make a cold approach should ideally be as casual as possible, as if rather than simply trying to say hi to her because you find her attractive, you find some common ground you can strike up a conversation over, and once you make that connection then you guage her interest and shoot for her number or something. Problem is, youre trying not to give off the appearance that you simply talked to her out of a sexual attraction when really thats exactly what youre doing.

nolotusnotes · 2015-10-05T22:17:35+00:00

You keep pimping the same website in every post and comment.

RWDMARS · 2015-10-05T23:55:15+00:00

This is on the verge of spirituality.

RespondsWithImprov · 2015-10-06T01:25:59+00:00

This is reasonable yeah.

I do the opposite and often make it awkward or out of context so I can filter out the regular folks.

iedaiw · 2015-10-06T01:40:38+00:00

One thing I've stopped is I reduced the let's hang out grab a meal, and just directly ask them, hey would you like to go for a coffee date/ movie date/ drinks(this one I leave out the date) .

ireditloud · 2015-10-06T03:14:33+00:00

I also was thinking about what Manson said when it came to approaching and thinking that it conflicted with what was said by him. I think what we need to realize is that there is a difference between acknowledging social conventions and trying to explain yourself to point that you'be become too timid and scared of talking to the girl.

Ragas · 2015-10-06T06:32:54+00:00

I also see this kind of behaviour in many contexts. For example if someone won't come to your party, they don't just tell you: "Hey I won't be there tomorrow." They serve you a lengthy story about why they can't come and how complicated their lives are right now. I don't care! Even if you wanted to stay home and masturbate to rabbit porn, it would be the same to me.

caesarfecit · 2015-10-06T07:14:25+00:00

When it comes to game, less words is always better. More impact and less neediness.

Which would you rather be, a newspaper column, or lyrics to a kickass song?

youlovethisish · 2015-10-05T21:52:37+00:00

This reminds me of a post made on here referring to "thick, meaningful sentences."

Cut all the bullshit fluff out of the things you say. Make your questions pointed - instead of "So I'm wondering, what exactly are your thoughts on the taco joints in this city?" --> "What's your favorite taco joint?" If she responds without explanation (which is rare, because we know women love to talk), follow up with a real simple "Why?"

Apply this to every facet of your life.

ChrisBale1 · 2015-10-05T12:23:01+00:00

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Title	Why You Must STOP Explaining Yourself To Women
Author	ChrisBale1
Upvotes	314
Comments	41
Date	October 5, 2015 12:22 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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