Anyone having the "immediate drop in Interest" Issue?

DavidGolani11 · 2017-09-05T01:36:29+00:00

A number is not a close, repeat after me. You have to establish a real communication with her for her to call you. Girls want to find that memorable guy, the one they talk about with their friends the next day. If you get a number and then just walk away, you will get a lot of blocks and ignores because you're just another guy.

Kenic_In_MD · 2017-09-05T01:22:00+00:00

Ever hear of "striking while the iron is hot"? This is all you need to work on really. It's also my problem, girls do a memory wipe after the weekend or a night out. Rarely do you get a number that you can use like a week later. Unless your phone game is on point.

Try to close that night, then if the logistics don't work out go for the number. Getting a number is like playing the lottery. Sometimes it hits, most of the time you lose.

ForeignInUsA · 2017-09-05T08:07:14+00:00

Night time girls will flake a lot. She can meet other guys, she could have been drunk, etc. I would go for the pull and almost forget about numbers unless it's a girl you almost fucked or had an amazing connection and terrible logisticks.

Daytime you can have a lot more solid numbers, especially after an instant date.

Also trust me attractiveness has nothing to do with fucking the girl. This one chick showed me a picture of a dude in the friendzone, he was a good looking dude, maybe more than me. But her opinion of that dude is that he is not attractive at all and after finding out how he is needy and shit it makes sense.

Be a good looking dude with attractive qualities. Side note girls will probably assume a lot you are a player which can get in the way of getting day 2's so I would say learn to be more relatable and build more comfort.

Luis_McLovin · 2017-09-05T09:47:23+00:00

You're at a nightclub, not fucking Sunday church. YES, they're wanting Mr. Tonight.

/thread

damfrenchy · 2017-09-05T11:07:20+00:00

What you're doing is pumping attraction only, which doesn't get you a next date.

Male to female interest only : creepy, needy
Female to male interest only : you're not picking up on her signals (or you're not interested)
Female to male, then male to female interest : attraction only
Connection/Comfort only : LJBF
Attraction + Connection/Comfort : date, no flake

Once you've got attraction and buying temperature up, isolate (or better yet venue change) and go for connection and comfort.

You need to create that "us" vibe so when she wakes up tomorrow she thinks about the two of you together.

future adventures [1] / adventure projection : you're my new girlfriend (then false disqualifier), let's get married (then false disq), this is true love (then false disq), romantic date projection (then false disq), picture us 8 years from now (then, you've guessed it, false disq)
signal recognition process (and visual anchoring [2])
anchoring positive feelings and emotions to yourself, perfect boyfriend routine
sharing dreams and hopes (anchor those)

[1] https://www.seductionscience.com/2011/adventure-projection/

[2] http://coverthypnosis.academy/self-anchoring-visualization/

spanking_walrus · 2017-09-05T12:13:54+00:00

Yeah dude I have exactly the same problem, I'm 6'3 and athletic as well. I'll have girls dance around me and rub up against me if I'm dancing or sometimes just even posted up chilling not doing anything. I don't think that dancing pulls mean anything other than she wants to dance with you, it's completely different than other aspects of game like a conversation pull.

gregormikh · 2017-09-05T09:44:23+00:00

Maybe you come off too needy with overtexting? Maybe you waited too long so they lost interest? Thing is texting is just validation for girls. You should set up a physical date via text, not get to know her. Good luck mate

Cocky_Douchebag · 2017-09-05T04:00:12+00:00

Not making a strong enough impact or gaming them enough, being tall and handsome is just a price of the puzzle

iuliua · 2017-09-05T12:42:33+00:00

I don't think that even girls know how to answer that question. They're just weird.

peakpua · 2017-09-05T04:04:28+00:00

Don't ask for a number- Set a time, location, and activity to meet up on. Then get the number so u can find each other. This reduces flakiness by 50%. (Hope it doesn't bother people if I try to market on here- I just started coaching in San Diego and am doing online video chat coaching for less than 15$/hr- msg me if u'd like 2 free half hour chats for more advice).

Hnikud · 2017-09-11T22:39:22+00:00

It's quite more complicated than that haha. See, a lot of it has to do with where you are meeting these girls. I'd say about 70% for example if you are hitting clubs up I don't see a reason why your looks and the way you are approaching would be detrimental to your game, because club girls are probably looking for a one night stand. Read Models by Mark Manson, that coupled with intelligence is all you need. Maybe you are using too many lines or acting like the average fuckboy. You must show more vulnerability and that is covered in Models. If you don't want to buy it for whatever reason just DM me and I'll upload it to MEGA and send you a link.

Title	Anyone having the "immediate drop in Interest" Issue?
Author	xtelfonx
Upvotes	52
Comments	36
Date	September 5, 2017 1:20 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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