Approaching ladies as a brown man

seduction-ModTeam · 2025-02-11T21:19:00+00:00

This post/comment has been removed because it violates Rule #5: The topic is too broad, has been covered a lot already, or involves the assumption overly limited by race, age, physical limitations/appearance, and/or other inborn external qualities.

Put in some reading & work before asking questions that have been addressed, like: * How do I approach? * How do I get a number? * How do I talk to girls at college? * How/When do I kiss a girl? * Does this really work?

As for the last one, it is an answered question. There have been many posts on physical limitations over the years, including this one. No need to re-ask it.

Bin2Good · 2025-02-11T17:12:43+00:00

Looks like a confidence thing. Brown guy getting matches on dating app means you present well, but can’t follow through in person.

BashX82 · 2025-02-11T16:59:23+00:00

How well versed are you with the language ? Scandinavian people generally come off as cold so knowing the language could help

peanut-britle-latte · 2025-02-11T17:03:48+00:00

If you're well groomed and well kept I'd lean into it. As weird as it sounds there is an advantage to being the exotic options

norwegiandoggo · 2025-02-11T17:04:33+00:00

dating apps don't seem to work. I get matches and dates.

So.. that means they 100% work. That is what dating apps are meant to do. Not sure why you claim they don't work when you're getting dates from them? This doesn't make any sense.

If you get rejected after first or second dates, and women tell you they don't feel any chemistry - that could hint at you having an unattractive personality. It could also just be a mismatch on some level - that is completely normal when dating. Not every woman will like you. But you have to reflect a bit on "why did she reject me?" after dates. Was it because of valid differences? Or was because you did or said something that was generally unattractive and a turnoff to most women?

If she went on a date with you from a dating app - knowing your skin color beforhand, it is extremely unlikely that skin color was the reason she lost interest. She chose to go out with you knowing the color of your skin. So how can you so confidently blame the color of your skin? Again, it doesn't make logical sense.

dromance · 2025-02-11T17:06:56+00:00

Shoot, I’d say being obviously different would be a benefit in todays age. You instantly stand out for better or for worse. I say it has nothing to do with being brown and everything to do with your confidence.

Jay-Ames · 2025-02-11T19:06:54+00:00

Brown man here that dated mostly white women. I dont live there but i dated some Swedish women. I usually like them in looks and personality.

The thing is that I never think as myself as a brown man. And I never see women from any race. Doesn't matter if they are white, brown, asian, Latino or whatever. I simply see it as a man being interested in a woman.

What I am trying to say is that you already start to create a distance between you and her. So don't go that route.

*The next thing i say will trigger some people but is the truth.*

You cannot escape being a creep. If she doesn't find you attractive you are a creep and it is harassment. But if you do and say the exact same stuff but she finds you attractive you are the next Brad Pitt and if you say anything offensive it is still great. In other words, she will form an opinion about you no matter what so why worry about it.

Maybe you need to approach things differently. Befriend some Swedish women and make it goal not to date them. Otherwise you will screw this up, so keep them in the friendzone. They will become your wing girls because girls like doing that. They will introduce you to other girls. And just because they introduced you to those girls there is very little chance they find you a creep. Women like to see men being approved by other women. It gives them a signal that he is a save guy.

Try that.

Sandvicheater · 2025-02-11T17:44:12+00:00

The issue brown guys have in White Europe is the mass tidal waves of immigrants "refugees" just flooding the country and all the negatives that come with it: destroying the social net, skyrocketing the crimes rates, etc. Its safe to assume brown man are at a disadvantage at the starting line.

That being said I've seen hundreds of these rich "oil" arabs just slaying it with supermodel snow bunnies in Europe so you gotta act like you have both money and social status and even the brownest of brown dudes can get white tail.

FuckLeHabs · 2025-02-11T16:49:52+00:00

Read or listen to models by mark Manson.

You being brown has nothing to do with it .

It’s your mindset . The book will teach you to be more comfortable with yourself, allowing ladies your attracting to be more comfortable in the whole situation

HungDaddyNYC · 2025-02-11T17:27:47+00:00

It’s in your mind.

bmcapers · 2025-02-11T18:21:39+00:00

I can offer a suggestion as it relates to approaching.

Your instincts are correct, power structures and intersectionality are at play. That said, women also face systemic barriers and may connect with you through this shared experience. Simply approaching a woman and admitting you’re nervous but wanted to say hello acknowledges this common ground. It shows awareness of these dynamics and a willingness to navigate them with humanity, which can also help ease the pressure on you.

MindsetsForDating · 2025-02-11T17:00:22+00:00

If you're living in a country where few people look like you, you won't see too many couples that look like they have the relationship you want. It reinforces your beliefs that you can't go up and talk to women there.

Were you sexually escalating on the dates at all? Going for a hug, kiss, or anything of that nature?

I see that you said that you have a constant fear of brown men approaching, but what happened when you tried to approach them?

MineDesperate2920 · 2025-02-11T18:05:44+00:00

Try to ‘white wash’ yourself as much as you can if you have the fear. Likely doesn’t matter as much as your thinking it does but this may help your confidence and help you fit in with the culture. Make sure you know the language well.

Keep in mind it’s always more about the vibe and feeling of the interaction. If you have a great vibe the little logical things you think matter don’t

Competitive-Pop6530 · 2025-02-11T18:24:38+00:00

Confidence, cleanliness and the ability to effectively communicate achieves results regardless of race, creed or color.

DaygameCode · 2025-02-11T19:18:14+00:00

Race does not make someone a creep, it’s their disrespect of boundaries and social ineptitude that makes them a creep. And dating women has to do with emotional and sexual connection, if one of the two is missing, that is not because of race, but because you simply do not understand each other and don’t click.

You only see a couple of mix races partners because the majority of people from one country tend to date people that live in the same environment as them woth the same culture as them. It’s not because it’s impossible; it’s because people usually have more options around them that look like them.

Your dates are unsuccessful because they feel no solid connection, all your topics are either surface level leading to disconnect, or lack in the sexual tension leading to platonic vibe. When there is lack of sexual tension (pretty commun among needy and tech guys) you could be connecting, but lacking in the sexual tension.

Guys who avoid making the girl uncomfortable at all costs, who go out of their way to make sure there is so much comfort and playing it so safe to make sure the girl doesn’t react badly to any insinuations or things he may say tend to be boring and thus cause no spark. They are predictable and unexciting.

This is probably you considering you are afraid of freeing them out if you cold approach them. You simply don’t create contrasts between comfort and tension leading to a dull and stale vibe with no ups and downs.

CarlitosSurferWay · 2025-02-11T19:50:21+00:00

Get a local wingman to show you around town !

Efficient_Parsley852 · 2025-02-11T21:11:29+00:00

Also a brown man in Nordics. Can say, it's a skill issue.

LeopoldPaulister · 2025-02-11T17:34:06+00:00

You must be quite exotic for scandinavians so just the fact that you made it there means you already are an interesting guy. I would also recommend models by mark manson.

You are already able to get dates, so you must simply work on making a stronger impression when you get to meet them.

AssistTemporary8422 · 2025-02-11T17:35:54+00:00

Being brown means you will have challenges dating where you live. But women don't have uniform preferences and its best to view yourself as niche and you will attract a certain type of women who are into guys from a different culture. I suggest you work on getting better at talking to women which will set you apart from the reserved white guys and help you on those dates. Take approaching women gradually so you can best find the approach that doesn't get you in any trouble. Look your best and improve your looks. Have one foot in the culture of your birth and Europe so these women can both relate to you and you can show them something different.

ApricotBig929 · 2025-02-11T19:48:49+00:00

Invite to eat the brownie No one dislikes brownies

Title	Approaching ladies as a brown man
Author	lkspade
Upvotes	25
Comments	24
Date	February 11, 2025 4:39 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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