Been approaching for a year with no luck need advice

nonsass · 2016-09-28T20:17:28+00:00

How many numbers did you get? And were these cold approaches on strangers? day game?

I think from cold approach, you should expect that lots of the numbers will flake on you. Maybe expect to hear from like 1 in 8 or something at a guess? (from my research over at various pickup forums)

On the goodlookingloser forum, people seem to get laid from like 1 every 150 approaches or so! (but some of them guys make about 50 per day!)

Bland-Username · 2016-09-28T23:40:28+00:00

Are you noticing any patterns from these approaches? It sounds to me like you're doing this very concretely, without focusing on how each of these outcomes went. You're too grounded, you need to explore your mind a little bit. You're young, so this can be difficult... but still possible.

I'm talking about dissecting every interaction you have with girls, even if you don't get their numbers. Find out what you did wrong, the "turning point" of attraction (where she started to lose interest), and see how you can fix that in your next approach. Pickup is all about trial and error over and over again. The world is your experimental lab.

Just remember that trying the same thing over and over again won't get you anywhere. You need to constantly adapt and change your game to the environment around you - don't ever stagnate. Like one of the commenters here said, start throwing everything and the kitchen sink at it.

Woujo · 2016-09-29T03:58:46+00:00

So I text them and I say hey (girls name) it's (my name) great meeting you today. And no response, never here from them again.

It's about 50/50 girls responding to this text. The next text you send is to ask them out. If they ignore THAT then you next them.

MobPsycho300 · 2016-09-29T14:51:15+00:00

You're not being proactive. Its as simple as that. Start breaking down your reference experiences. Ask yourself what went well/wrong and why?

Overnight_Delivery · 2016-09-28T21:02:29+00:00

try different venues and girl types. also start throwing everything and the kitchen sink at it. No more just "hey ... it's ...", try "hey sexy" if that's what you want to do. And when the sink doesn't work throw the tub, then the tiling and the door.

Conotocaurious85 · 2016-09-29T03:13:05+00:00

I would bet $100 you aren't being perceived as confident as perhaps you indeed are.

If you aren't improving get scientific. Take metris.

Throwaway_d · 2016-09-29T13:27:27+00:00

Firstly, it's pretty normal for girls not to text back - even after a great interaction. But you should be getting some responses at least.

Sounds like you really need to work on your text game. You need to make your texts, fun, playful and a little mysterious. The example text you mentioned is boring as fuck. Try referring to some joke you made when you were with her, give her a nickname and use it in the text, all the classic flirty stuff.

Secondly, maybe they're not getting attracted to you enough during the approach. You should be getting some IOI's, for example-

She asks you questions (e.g where are you from)
She crosses her legs, bites her lip or puts her fingers up to her mouth (signs of nervousness due to attraction)
She flirts with you and says things that are sexual, or responds well when you say things that are sexual
When you leave a gap in conversation and go silent, she re-initiates conversation
She makes hints about meeting up again

If you're not getting some of these, you need to work on your approaches some more.

Title	Been approaching for a year with no luck need advice
Author	johnnysway
Upvotes	8
Comments	13
Date	September 28, 2016 8:11 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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