Do girls really get that offended over small stuff

IANAPUA_Yet · 2017-01-18T01:25:25+00:00

A dude whipping his dick out is funny to us, but a woman on that train would have been worried that the dude might cross other boundaries and assault them. When you told the story in a light-hearted manner, she probably began to worry about whether you knew where the proper boundaries are.

Dating is an inherently dangerous thing for women and since there was very little investment at that point, she decided it was safer to blow you off and spend her time on one of the thousand other guys that were filling up her inbox.

Next time save that story for the third date. Or at the very least, make sure you tell it in a way that indicates you understand that the flasher was a complete jackass.

446595252e · 2017-01-18T00:42:39+00:00

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Ziddy · 2017-01-18T03:39:44+00:00

That is definitely not light hearted. Funny, yeah but that's a situation you can tell someone who trusts you a bit more than a stranger.

halorecon32 · 2017-01-18T00:56:37+00:00

In short, it depends. There's no rules with interacting with people.

sorcererbro · 2017-01-18T02:37:05+00:00

They're not guys. They don't find humor in all the same things we do, and vice versa.

They also don't tell stories the same way, and the way they tell stories is the way they best understand stories. Have you ever listened to a woman tell a story? 50-75% of the story is telling you how she felt about what happened, and whatever remains is the actual factual account of events that transpired.

When you tell a woman a story, you have to tell her how to feel about it. Otherwise, she fills it in with whatever is most available to her, and, frankly, it tends to be negative. Choose what you want her to feel, and build the story around that.

It should be clear to you at this point that this is straightforward to do in person or on the phone, and unnecessarily difficult over text.

AssJustice · 2017-01-18T05:44:40+00:00

Dude, this is generalization at its finest. There will be girls who think its funny or even worthy of response, and then those who don't.

A million different factors could be playing part in why she didn't respond, all of which are out of your control. Also the media(texting in this case) can affect the message, for instance sarcasm really doesn't translate too well through text.

What you should really be asking is: are you worth more than a girl who is going to block you for having a light-hearted conversation, regardless of what she thought you meant?

2017-01-18T05:42:39+00:00

Sex talk over texting turns women off almost immediately if they don't know you, and even when they do know you they usually think its gross. Realize they're used to getting unwanted dick pics all the time thanks to social media, and scary sounding messages from strange guys wanting to hold them down and fill them with baby batter while they're being throttled.

PUA_Mobius · 2017-01-18T12:28:58+00:00

You need to understand that women put up with beating/verbal abuse and all sorts of shit for a guy they WANT to be with (hence so many abusive relationships which I'm sure you know a few). Meaning if a girl wants you enough she's willing to put up with almost anything.

As for girls putting up with almost anything, one small lighthearted joke will 100% not make a girl who is interested in you block you. Sometimes girls are too nice, and be looking for an excuse to block you/end the conversation but don't want it to be their choice or fault - instead they wait for you to say something that allows them to do that and pin it on you so that they don't feel like a bitch.

muirnoire · 2017-01-18T15:34:11+00:00

Girls are tired of it always being about dick, dick, dick. Dicks are figuratively waved in their faces day in and day out. Can you imagine how refreshing it would be to finally meet a guy whose every action isn't a thinly veiled desperate plea to "please, please, please let me fuck you."

There are three billion other things to talk about besides dick. Be one of those guys. She knows you have a dick and she knows you want to put it inside her. I guarantee when you finally get to fuck her, it won't be because of your cocky dick stories or your "yeah I want to fuck you - please let me fuck you" attitude.

It will be because you had a thousand other cool qualities about you that make you stand out from the dicks that don't know how to finesse a woman. Finesse. There's a seduction word guys need to learn. Women of quality are looking for a man with finesse. The ability to handle all situations skillfully.

Never say anything to a girl that you wouldn't want a guy saying to your own little grown up sister. Never lose sight of the fact that a woman you are seducing is deserving of basic human respect, whether she is attracted to you or not. After you've fucked a girl and she's shown the inclination, you can be a rude boy, but not so much before, unless you're into street ho's who like to get down like that. Conduct yourself like a man of the world, whether you're into street ho's or Victoria Secret models.

Funny thing is if you comport yourself with the right bearing, she'll find it irresistible. Comportment. There's another word to add to your seduction vocabulary. Never having once brought up the subject of sex, and then sex will happen.

If you don't feel electricity immediately from a woman, you are unlikely to create it later - at least in your short game. The attraction that young bucks are looking for is instantaneous attraction. Too many guys getting short game and long game mixed up. Savor, search for, and learn to duplicate instant attraction and blow on the sparks til they ignite, cuz you already got her and now she's just watching to see if you are real. To see if you are solid or some unsure fluffy boy whose read some tricks how to 'act' on a seduction forum and then crashes and burns. So many guys blowing on something that is not there to begin with. Don't waste your time. Mutual attraction hits like an electric shock. Once you learn how to CREATE that, learn how to leave the door open for that, it never gets old and you can replicate it over and over.

That's why you do all the prep work, (meaningful work, healthy food, fitness, grooming, hobbies, clothes, hair, sillage, crib, ride, accessories.) Don't fake being an interesting person - BE an interesting person. To have heart pounding IMPACT on a woman that first impression. Instant attraction. Once you learn to replicate that and recognize it, you'll have seduction figured out. Seduction can't begin until you learn how to create attraction.

Ask yourself, what makes a man attractive. It's not about fairy tale looks. It is about all those thousands of details that distinguish a man of the world whose got his shit TOGETHER as opposed to some guy who thinks his stinky ass sneakers don't matter.

llamallamaduckk · 2017-01-18T00:23:39+00:00

Everyone reacts differently, and how we react is because of our own values, thoughts, and experiences. Since she blocked you there's no point on dwelling. Women are more in touch with their emotions, this can lead us to feel very passionately about certain topics. Personally I don't think your story was that serious, and in fact humorous! Next time maybe you'll try seeing the other persons opinion on the topic, just so you don't accidentally offend anyone. I'm not saying you did wrong, I'm just saying you guys were different and she decided to be childish. Don't sweat the small stuff. :)

DaygameCoach · 2017-01-18T00:22:56+00:00

That is NOT small stuff. She acted normally. You showed her that you don't know how to appropriately speak to a woman. It's a social intelligence thing. I could tell my GF that story (shes exceptional)...but I wouldn't just tell any woman that story. Honestly, work on social intelligence...and the easy way to to have thousands of interactions with women until you catch up.

Title	Do girls really get that offended over small stuff
Author	johnnysway
Upvotes	11
Comments	29
Date	January 17, 2017 11:59 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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