Confidence is higher but still rejection is high

lmaoleorii · 2025-02-08T21:19:06+00:00

Keep shooting your shot. Having genuine conversations. People clearly are comfortable around you.

cashincheeeqs · 2025-02-08T22:07:47+00:00

Only thing I could guess is that you’re making it too obvious that you want to smash.

That’s why she asked if you were an ally. The saying usually goes “Friend or foe? State your business”

Try doing a soft rejection before asking for the number.

Find a girl, dance with her for a few songs and then walk away.

Say “thank you for the dance, I had a great time. Hopefully I see you again.” Walk away. Go find another woman.

She’s either going to exchange contact info right then and there, or your chances of succeeding are going to skyrocket when you ask her later in the night.

Chances go even higher if you dance with other women before asking for her number. I promise you, she will notice.

Small-Acanthaceae567 · 2025-02-08T22:08:46+00:00

It's not just being confident, it's looking Competent.

If you act or talk like you can't do things, girls won't respect you.

I'd start by looking at how in the past you have had success, and then trying to think about how you can do that.

Also, even if you feel confident you might slip into old habits. I'm in that area now where, even though I'm confident and can talk well online. In person I'm still being to rigid. It's all about self reflection, improvement and iteration.

Betyouwonthehehaha · 2025-02-08T23:14:49+00:00

It sounds like you’re doing great tbh

Loud_Contract_689 · 2025-02-09T04:43:34+00:00

Empathy is more important than confidence.

zebekias · 2025-02-09T01:59:54+00:00

Continue to push beyond your comfort zone. Eventually discomfort becomes comfort. This applies to everything, not just pickup. View disrespect and rudeness as a natural filter that weeds out the bad apples. Don't take anything personal, such behavior is on them not you. Keep approaching the girls you find attractive, and don't hide your intentions. As you get better and more calibrated, rejection goes down, but at the beginning it's normal to be high. Keep at it.

Chicagoj1563 · 2025-02-09T03:37:03+00:00

Consider small chunking what you need to learn. Don’t focus on brining the girl home yet. Put your focus on whatever your sticking point is.

It sounds like you can open. How good do you feel about approaching groups and opening?

If you can open, what happens next? Are you generating attraction, or just having the same boring conversation 99% of the other guys have with those same girls?

What’s your current sticking point? Where do your interactions need to improve?

Dandys3107 · 2025-02-09T07:32:20+00:00

It feels like you still may be lacking in reading the room, escalating properly and handling different type of situations. It's very normal in the beginning. You can read some seduction theory and test different mindsets and methods in practice, or maybe simply take your interactions little slower and work with good odds. It's common thing to fumble when you are inexperienced, but don't get discouraged, you should get there pretty soon.

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-02-08T22:13:12+00:00

You know when a person learns how to play a guitar, he or she will develop callus on their fingertips. Or when someone starts doing pushup, similar calluses will appear on the knuckles.

I see rejection is pretty much like that. There will be pushbacks and that’s totally normal. Don’t get discouraged and still keep doing it. Once it becomes less painful or even you no longer feel it, you’re getting much closer.

Title	Confidence is higher but still rejection is high
Author	HotReality3225
Upvotes	17
Comments	30
Date	February 8, 2025 9:13 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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