Creating attraction while in a car

this_one_that_one · 2014-05-07T14:44:10+00:00

You can use the time in the car to ask her personal shit. Stuff she would care about. When women share things like this, they feel like you 'get them' more, which plays into the emotional side of sex. It wont make her horny, but it will setup the groundwork for later on.

valltherian · 2014-05-07T16:28:35+00:00

Some other guys have commented this same thing kinda but I wanted to give more detail to what I think is a great way to build attraction in a manual car, if you're the one driving.

While waiting at a light or stop sign, turn towards them and make eye contact. Clutch in, then pretend you're racing and shifting through a million gears while making car noises. It comes off as funny/cute so long as you're not being over the top with it. This is the first step. You can skip it, but I think it helps show that you're just a fun person but to each his own.

Now when the light turns/you go, you're kind of already on the topic of cars/shifting because of what you just did. You ask her, "Can you drive a manual?" 90% of the time they'll say no.* You can then say, "here, I'll teach you." and offer up your hand. Then place their hand on the shift knob and place your hand on top. Casually explain what you're doing with your feet each time you shift. You don't have to go into detail, since the main point here is kino. Back to that. If you're just cruising now and no longer shifiting you can take her hand and yours off the shift knob and place both on her thigh area/whatever. Use this time to play with her hands and it's pretty self explanatory from there.

*If she does say yes, tell her to prove it. Offer your hand up and have her shift for you with your hand on top of hers.

recyclablebantha · 2014-05-07T18:41:41+00:00

We just spent the whole journey talking which is great for comfort but how would I build attraction in a situation like that?

First off, being able to have a good conversation is key for connecting (not just for "comfort"), which is necessary to have attraction, so let's not poo-poo the value of conversation in the car.

Secondly, there's no need to put so much pressure on "building attraction" during a car ride. If you're trying to rush something to happen during the length of a car ride, it could too easily turn needy. On the other hand, there's no need to rush anything if you're actually hanging with them and en route to some activity or venue.

So why not just ASK her to hang out after sussing out whether or not she's actually cool while riding in the car with her? If she's cool, then her to hang out and exchange contact info. It's going to be pretty damn easy since she's in the car with you.

powersurge27 · 2014-05-07T19:02:41+00:00

Take control and do a handbrake turn.

Where_is_dutchland · 2014-05-07T21:38:38+00:00

I love driving around with someone. There's a lot to talk about all the time. And flirting is easier when you're a but shy I guess (you know, no forces eye contact) You really get to know each other better, and you can use what you learn about her/him in the car for when you two are at the destination.

itsapieceofcake · 2014-05-08T03:09:24+00:00

I don't know if many guys know the power of pulling away.... If you are in a car and they are driving, you should ask her all about herself, but your body language should only give hints of interest, like looking out the window and making eye contact only in moments. You don't wanna make her feel like you're giving her the creeper staredown, then shes totally in control. She gets to wonder whether you are actually interested in her, that is going to drive her crazy. Ask her sexy questions like "whats the most spontaneous thing you've done lately?" You're getting into the adventurous/sexual area of her brain. Girls don't just immediately wanna have sex like guys do, that's why its call seduction.

SupALupRT · 2014-05-07T14:13:04+00:00

Overthinking. Just talk to her. When you're home ask her to come in with you.

lottosharks · 2014-05-07T20:34:59+00:00

I always just use the "stop short" move

leodoestheopposite · 2014-05-07T16:48:06+00:00

Just make conversation, and conversation about her, her job/schedule/life etc... (your mission here is to figure out when you can see her again) once you're closer to your place, thank her and tell her: let me make it up to you, how about coffee tomorrow (by now you should know her schedule), if no propose another day.

Unless you have unequivocal signs that she wants to come to your place and then some, do not invite her over, you're a busy guy, you schedule things.

WallStreetAtheist · 2014-05-07T20:53:13+00:00

Escalation is irrelevant if you communicate man-to-woman with your vocal tonality.

TheoreticalFunk · 2014-05-08T03:56:27+00:00

One thing I've noticed that works really well is if you're driving or the passenger and kino is cool... scratch/rub the top of her neck in the back right where the bottom of her hair is. Feels good on your end too. Drives them crazy... or if a girl has done that to you, it will drive you crazy.

simplisticallysimple · 2014-05-08T20:42:34+00:00

You're going against the flow when she drives you, because that makes you come across as beta and thus unattractive. Try driving her next time. If not, take note of the stops (traffic lights, etc.). Touch her like you would when the car isn't moving.

Afeni02 · 2014-05-07T14:05:21+00:00

Tell her to stop and chill out somewhere real quick like a park and chill out in a bench.

penismissle · 2014-05-07T16:38:35+00:00

You can do some kino. A light touch to the shoulder or arm is possible. Ive also touched their leg but that one shouldn't be used on someone you just met or barely know.

pspman354 · 2014-05-08T01:04:56+00:00

Well timed

5dollarcheezit · 2014-05-07T18:31:42+00:00

I don't know how this sub feels about this, but I've done this and it worked. While you're both in the car, I'd say about halfway to your destination, ask her "Do you want to have sex?" She will likely be surprised and might say yes on impulse. If she objects, it is circumstantial. In my case that exact time was inconvenient her so I gave her my number and she texted me the very next day and we sealed the deal. IF SHE REFUSES, (not to be confused with objection), you know, just keep your cool like it doesn't make a difference to you. A bold and straightforward approach can be very enticing to the opposite sex. You can't be afraid to be brave!

speerjr · 2014-05-07T14:39:01+00:00

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kenstar4 · 2014-05-07T13:54:18+00:00

Why is she driving you? You should be driving her if at all possible, especially in the beginning. Holding hands is common. But it is weird in doing so seeing how the male is the one normally driving and in control. Just saying. But, hey. if it works out for you, then do your thing.

Title	Creating attraction while in a car
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Date	May 7, 2014 1:27 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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