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sidbunch6 · 2022-10-28T15:51:26+00:00

is this cold approach?

If it feels like you're pulling teeth, it's best to just move on too a new girl who might actually be into you. When a girl is into you, it's always fairly effortless because she is pulling her weight in the convo. It's not supposed to be a one-way thing. It can't be. Some PAU's advocate 'plowing' where you are making cold reads and statemetns adn routines and trying to 'stick in' the interaction like an Alabama tick, but it's not worth it. YOu are only delaying the rejection and wasting time

ashwheee · 2022-10-28T16:53:25+00:00

Do this : Ask something about her and follow up with your perception about it, or stories about it. Don't wait for her to ask. Do this 2-3 times. 4th time ask something about her and don't say anything about it yourself, wait for her to ask and leave it a bit silent. See what happens. If she doesn't ask, dump her on the spot, too self involved

CobblerConfident5012 · 2022-10-28T18:47:38+00:00

Something that helped me with general shyness in life when I was younger both platonically and romantically was learning the difference between asking people about themselves and ELICITING things from people. Instead of saying “what do you like about studying chemistry ?” (Which can come off as kind of interviewy and not casual enough) I would say “I bet you dig getting to mix up all kinds of potions “ etc.

Instead of asking a person “how much do you make working here?” And getting a “why? That’s a weird/rude question to ask…” Try “I heard you guys get paid 3 grand a month , that must be nice” “Whoa I don’t know who told ya that we barely make 2 after taxes…”

It leaves more room for people to respond and follow up after the point.

server3noreply · 2022-10-28T16:22:42+00:00

I would say that you need to lay out topics that are relatable and trigger emotions. Pass on all generic questions. Ask her how she feels about something. Many girls crave talking about relationships, sociology, psychology, daily life. Make your conversations easy-going and topics pleasurable. You don't have to hurry to get to know things about her, they will get uncovered naturally with time. Focus on finding connection between you and get that energy high.

As it comes strictly to texting, I feel that the latest trend among girls concerns questions that catch them off-guard. These are simple, unusual, relatable, little silly, but still open up a gate for funny and emotional conversation.

HHaTTmasTer · 2022-10-28T19:54:43+00:00

There is a reason people call it "game", get to know the common strategies and start applying, read her signals, react to them, don't worry about figuring out if she is worth it on the first, second, or even third date, doing so totally kills the mood, have some stuff to talk about, once you keep talking to her you will pick up the small bits of info you are looking for, and will react to it, she will pick this and adapt, as so should you be aware.

Seduction language is extremely dysfunctional by design, it is not like trying to make math or make logic conclusions.

Hartwigg · 2022-10-28T18:10:28+00:00

make assumptions on her vibe, clothes, anything, rather than go interview mode

Charge36 · 2022-10-28T18:59:16+00:00

You can't really make some one do anything but you can improve your odds by trying to steer the conversation to her passions. If she mentions a hobby or interest, dig in and ask her about it.

Woujo · 2022-10-28T19:31:28+00:00

Your goal isnt to learn about her. Its to have a fun conversation. Find a subject you and her both enjoy and talk about that.

2022-10-28T17:07:39+00:00

Probably stop doing that, try telling something about yourself, also, try open ended questions

Greedy-Direction-489 · 2022-10-28T19:02:05+00:00

Erich from on Love

ReadWriteReddit33 · 2022-10-28T19:36:30+00:00

Most people like to talk about themselves. If the conversation isn’t flowing (so to speak), your chemistry most likely isn’t compatible. Simple questions about who they are or things they’re interested in, are usually good ice breakers.

Majestic_Meal_5655 · 2022-10-28T20:05:58+00:00

Girls who give this kind of energy are OBVIOUSLY trying to NOT talk to you. Catch a hint much 😆

2022-10-28T20:11:18+00:00

You can start a conversation. If she’s interested she’ll engage and if not, she won’t

Lopardo23 · 2022-10-28T20:13:30+00:00

Like TyKwonDoe always says go DEEP not wide

JGoonSquad · 2022-10-28T23:52:33+00:00

When a woman likes you she pretty much calls the shots. She will flirt with you, go out of her way to talk to you, keep the convo going, etc. Odds are she isn't attracted enough to you.

jackisterr · 2022-10-29T02:32:10+00:00

fuckin talk about yourself too man. make a statement!

source: mark mansons, models.

AssistTemporary8422 · 2022-10-29T05:53:39+00:00

If she isn't engaging with you, she just isn't interested and likely never will. I use a combination of humor and open ended questions.

No_Drama7787 · 2022-10-29T10:51:41+00:00

Read the book of how to make anyone talk.

ChickolasCage · 2022-10-29T12:00:58+00:00

If a woman wants to talk to/sleep with/otherwise interact with you, she will help make it happen. Keep looking until someone does the helping. It’s just a numbers game.

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