A girl dmd me after a month, should I answer?

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AmphibianCareless705 · 2022-10-12T18:23:07+00:00

I disagree with all the comments suggesting some sort of mind game and waiting. I think that is childish and insecure. Who cares why she's been MIA for a month. You barely knew her anyway, she doesn't owe you anything.

If you fancy her then answer her and schedule something.

Nullroute127 · 2022-10-12T18:02:46+00:00

There's no downside to trying to engage.

What you want to do is have a strong frame but playful, "A late fee of $100 was assessed, but a one time courtesy credit can be applied if drinks are on you."

Or, "Yes, but the penalty for being late is a 5 stroke spanking with probation in lieu of jail"

The above makes you seem not butthurt, but also implies that you expect it to not happen again.

CautiousSea4815 · 2022-10-12T20:04:48+00:00

Yes. Maybe a personal issue came up, or something with her family.

Or, she smashed whoever she was talking to before you and it was lame.

Or, she got an exotic pet and has been dealing with the ins and outs of proper maintenance with regard to it.

Personally, I think she got a new exotic pet. But I'm a tragic optimist and admit that I see things different sometimes.

eszibit · 2022-10-12T15:25:54+00:00

She had another dude until now. It's up to you, i'd try and talk and schedule a date, but at any sign of her not being serious i'd drop her. One time you understand, 2nd time shows a pattern.

creativedave73 · 2022-10-12T20:05:08+00:00

This has happened to me a couple of times, but years, not months. I see it as a "What if?" situation. She ghosted me for some reason and now she wants to go out. In my cases, we went out, it was meh, so now I know what would have happened if we went out.

thestanimal86 · 2022-10-12T21:31:48+00:00

Brush it off. People get busy and her replying a month later means she's been thinking about you - even if there was someone else (which is none of your business).

I'd wait 2 days and provide a yes or no option. "I'm gonna check out this local band if you're looking for something fun to do." It doesn't matter if she likes the band, type of music or venue, she either wants to go out and have a good time or she doesn't.

If she says yes; cool, let's meet up for drinks 2 hours before doors. If no, toodaloo.

Healthy_Language_796 · 2022-10-12T16:30:09+00:00

Answer her a month later too.

ProfessionalPie8852 · 2022-10-12T18:11:38+00:00

Wait exactly 2 months and then just say: nahh you're good

zapadz · 2022-10-12T15:49:12+00:00

Friendzone her to expand your social circle and have preselection

incognito3107 · 2022-10-12T16:29:03+00:00

"Keep dreaming"

Lonely-Pikachu · 2022-10-12T17:33:56+00:00

Wait at least half a month before answering

2022-10-12T18:59:44+00:00

I had a half ass dude when I found a real man.

Distinct_Face_5796 · 2022-10-12T19:32:24+00:00

I had a girl respond to my email after ten years! What the heck! Lol.

OkNefariousness9758 · 2022-10-12T21:24:33+00:00

Go right ahead, but avoid commitment with her. She's too immature to deserve that

dobbs1997 · 2022-10-12T22:07:34+00:00

what do YOU wanna do? Everyone on here’s gonna have different answers based off of their perspectives and experiences so…if you think she’s attractive, msg back, don’t even chit chat just go STRAIGHT to setting up a date.

Maxigan0420 · 2022-10-12T22:09:18+00:00

just answer her, if she texted you out of nowhere after a month she definetely is interested. show some interest back without childish games

BlvckSkin · 2022-10-12T23:37:09+00:00

The real question is, does seem worthy of your engagement?

Title	A girl dmd me after a month, should I answer?
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Date	October 12, 2022 3:19 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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