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zapadz · 2022-09-17T19:52:13+00:00

It’s possible that when you are interested in the girl your neediness and nervousness comes out which makes you less attractive.

You can also try leveraging the girls you don’t like into becoming more attractive to the girls you like through preselection. Friend zone them, if a girl sees you with other attractive women who are interested in you, you will seem more attractive to her.

RedditsOlderBrah · 2022-09-17T19:53:48+00:00

i used to work with a girl in my 20s. she was not very conventionally attractive at all. that said she was by far the most magnetic person i have ever encountered. if she was single i would have shot my shot and if she said yes then probably married her. she was the coolest person in any room she walked into.

point being, you're talking about preferring blondes and i'm just here wondering if you care about the person at all?

Canadian-Seductioner · 2022-09-17T19:47:55+00:00

You're probably not as attractive as them. Everyone finds Margot Robbie attractive, but she doesn't find everyone attractive. Improve your attractiveness to get more reciprocal attention.

Aggressive-Prompt655 · 2022-09-18T03:42:32+00:00

There is no deeper explanation, everyone is shallow and has standards. If you aren’t physically attractive enough to the person you are after, they don’t see you as worth their time. If the people you like aren’t finding you attractive then it may be time to look at your own standards and the type of women you go after.

Zealousideal6669 · 2022-09-18T09:30:28+00:00

It's that deep topic you're just not attractive or not attractive enough for the ones you care about. As simple as that. If you're generally attractive to any girls you never gonna have this kind of problem. Being attractive doesn't mean looking like the son of Brad Pitt and Zack Efron. It helps a lot ofc if you already have good genetics but looks is way more than your face only. Like how you care for yourself, your fashion, your body. These are still part of your looks as well. An attractive personality is a more important part luckily guys were attractive by our words/actions and attitude way more than girls do. She's just hot or not but guys' attraction is more simple. A few attractive things that you need to have to be generally attractive. Confidence, dominance, don't give af attitude, self-amusement, standing up for yourself and your boundaries, and so forth. If you got a few of these you gonna be more attractive to anyone

Altruistic-Ad7054 · 2022-09-18T09:45:31+00:00

OP stated that he can get girls that are good looking (brunettes), just not his preference of good looking. Based on that alone, I think you should consider the possibility that sometimes things happen for a reason, and you may be dismissing the perfect girl while chasing one that's potentially a narcissist or bad for you. I know there's people who don't believe in manifestation or preordainment so I won't get Godly on you but my unsolicited advice - I'd give one of those chicks who are actually into you a few dates at least, a couple of weeks. You might be pleasantly surprised.

garlopf · 2022-09-17T19:46:32+00:00

Girls want whom they can't have, someone who is out of their league, and one of the ways they determine that is from how approachable you are. Pretend that you hate blondes for a week, see if that changes anything.

bobqat · 2022-09-18T17:40:29+00:00

Try this. Next time, when u talk to a person u like.

Don't show them that u are attracted to them for initial 10-20 mins.
If she is a blonde, tell her, "too bad you are a blonde, or else u would be so my type." Basically don't convey any sort of neediness or approval seeking behavior until u know she's into u.
From there do ur thing, tell her funny stories, make her laugh, show her ur personality (the one you have when u are with ur best guy friends). This should probably make her attracted to u. (You will know when she's attracted to u..)
After this engage with her in a normal conversation- find out what she does, where she is from etc. During this conversation seed a plan and then continue the normal conversation. When u feel like the conversation is at a high point..go for the kiss. If it's not appropriate try to move her to a place where u can kiss her. If nothing works go for her number.

Sure-Wish3240 · 2022-09-17T23:28:40+00:00

Invest in yourself first and foremost. That will make you more attractive. Even If you are fishing outside your genetic pool.

NinetailsDestruction · 2022-09-18T09:03:34+00:00

Your desperation comes off like a scent to the blondies

Appropriate-Spray-28 · 2022-09-18T14:38:54+00:00

Why are you attracted to blondes are you blonde yourself? You might wanna find out why you’re attracted to certain type of hair color. Maybe someone told you u should be attracted to that and u put them on pedestal and you fail

Superb-Bank9899 · 2022-09-18T15:57:12+00:00

We as humans always seem to want what we cannot have. "The grass is always greener on the other side". I thought the same thing then I finally got one and it did not turn to be as good as I thought it was going to be. Intelligence and kindness are more important than we think.

Repulsive-Fee393 · 2022-09-18T16:22:40+00:00

Neediness and overvaluing looks over other traits, pretty common

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