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[–]TalkShit247 59 points60 points61 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
This is exactly how i started & success came almost instantly
[–]Phil_YT 20 points21 points22 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
my first few girls, was tough... was shitting bricks. thankfully, some nice girls out there helped me a bit. Still thankful to this day for them lol
[–]TalkShit247 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
yes sir👊🏾
[–]Perfect_War5446 7 points8 points9 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
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[–]mariokart890 28 points29 points30 points 3 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
Great job taking initiative!
Remember you don’t have to hit on every girl you talk to, sometimes just have a fun convo and leave it at that. If you try and hit on every girl you talk to then they will tell their friends about “that one time” etc and you build bad social rap.
[–]Perfect_War5446 10 points11 points12 points 3 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
I know, that’s why I think just 3 a day is a good start
[–]surfershane25 4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
But you don’t only have to hit on them. If it’s a friendly vibe, boyfriend etc a female friend can be a super good wingwoman. Met my college sweetheart that way where this hot chick who had a bf but was friends with me from class wingmanned me super hard in the library and hyped me up when I was at the bathroom. That ex told me about it a year into dating she wasn’t sure if she liked me til my friend hyped me up.
[–]Perfect_War5446 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Nice!
[–]surfershane25 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And a man with female friends or females around him is socially validated even if they aren’t wing womanning for you, so don’t try to pull some chick you’re not sexually interested in when she might be a better friend option.
[–]putcoolusernamehere 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
What he’s moreso saying is that in a super social environment like a college, it’s ok to go indirect with your approaches, and only actually “hit on them” directly if they show signs of interest in your initial convo. This helps preserve your reputation and makes you seem more like a normal dude just trying to meet people.
Try to just situationally start convos with everyone rather than just hunt down girls to directly hit on.
[–]Perfect_War5446 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
That’s the thing, I don’t hit on them cuz I don’t know how to flirt lol. I just try to make small talk and pick up on social cues to try to gauge their level of interest
[–]putcoolusernamehere 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah that’s fine. That’s essentially what I do too
[–]skullkollektor 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ikrrr.. i got a lot of bad rep for this reason.. i had a rep of being a player who flirts with bitches.. some even called me a creep just coz i flirted 😂😂.. so be careful bois out there.. the world is cruel
[–]Gibnez 11 points12 points13 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Good on you bro, you’re already braver than 90% of dudes on this subreddit.
[–]Perfect_War5446 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
👍
[–]Mc_Dickles 10 points11 points12 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Not every conversation has to be a banger and end with exchanging info. If this is gonna happen at your college, just know you’ll run into people again and it’ll help build curiosity if you keep some conversations sweet and simple.
[–]sussykeke 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah maybe OP should try just chit chatting with strangers at first. The stakes aren't as high and the exchange will be probably more pleasant to both sides of the interaction.
If you only talk to girls in order to get their number you won't have as much success.
[–]CositaSexy 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Good luck!!!
[–]Wooden-Cockroach5911 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is similar to rejection therapy. My advice to you to avoid small community like college that for sure you might meet these girls again in activity or any other good chance. Go to more open community that you do not care if girl rejected and there is no high probability to her again anyway
[–]thathoosiergirl 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This is amazing! Wishing you the best of luck. And lots of enjoyment!
[–]Perfect_War5446 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
🫡
[–]putcoolusernamehere 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
A word of advice on college: cold approach on occasion is absolutely ok, but your main source of success in college will come from forming a large social circle through your student associations, dormmates, etc. Finding a likeminded social group to hang with is going to make dating so easy for tou, and doesn’t come with the risk of building you a reputation as the pickup guy. I did cold approach a lot on my campus and I still to this day don’t understand how I didn’t develop a super major creep reputation (maybe I did and no one told me). If I had put all that effort into finding my “people” so to speak, it would’ve been better.
But yeah, definitely approach every now and again, 3x / day seems ok.
So you’re saying making more friends in general helps?
In college specifically, absolutely. College is the most hyper social place in the world, so taking a lone wolf approach is leaving a lot of opportunity (socially, romantically, and professionally) on the table.
Join lots of student organizations and be really involved in them. Meet people in your dorm. Talk to everyone in your classes and be the guy who participates a lot so people know who you are. Play intramural sports. Say yes to opportunities. Professionally network. Join gym groups. The more people you meet, the more value you get out of college.
You should just naturally start to meet girls if you get this involved. And it’ll come with the added benefit of not getting the reputation as the cold approach pua guy.
I’m not saying never cold approach, just don’t get obsessed with it and instead focus overall on your whole social circle.
[–]Repulsive-Fee393 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
It’s not gonna stop at 3, trust me
[–]Perfect_War5446 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
Why do you think so?
[–]Repulsive-Fee393 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Put it this way, if you’re having fun in your new power you’re not going to want to stop, it becomes a little addictive. Enjoy it
[–]Perfect_War5446 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Now I just need to learn how to escalate physically cuz I want sex wit a lot of girls
[–]Repulsive-Fee393 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Lol don’t we all buddy, my advice, zero hesitation and assume people already like you, make that a mindset and life gets real good.
[–]Perfect_War5446 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
So just assume people like me and go from there,
[–]Repulsive-Fee393 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yup pretty much
Ok bet
[–]lookinformyglasses 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Thats a very good approach on flirting as well... it comes naturally once you assume they already want you.
[–]Perfect_War5446 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]MsBitch0157 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
That's awesome!! You'll do great: I just know it!! You're gonna make a ton of friends, and I know people love you aleady! Way to go .. you don't need luck bc u got confidence and NO FEAR!! :) THAT'S HOTTT!! ❤️
[–]TooMuchJibberish 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
Username doesn't check out
[–]MsBitch0157 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Pardon? Lol .. R u referring to my username?
[–]TooMuchJibberish 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Yes, I am
[–]MsBitch0157 -1 points0 points1 point 3 years ago* (5 children) | Copy Link
And, what exactly is your point .. I don't understand what the fuck you're talking about. Why not just spill the fucking beans and tell me what's up instead of just a bullshitt8n around & not bein straight up. Its irritating af to hv to guess with your kind of bullshit all the time. I need direct communication n not hints n inuendo. Idk if ur tryin a b pilite by not bein direct but its annoying af. Mean what you say and say what you fucking mean when you're talking to people .. it's the only way to go. And if you're unclear about something then just ask there's no harm in that. Making assumptions and that well making judgments is not cool either. I don't have time to be going back-and-forth with any1 n asking stupid questions to clarify. So don't make me do that. Do I need to be a bitch all the fucking time to prove who I am to nobodies like u & therefore live up to my fucking username? I guess I fucking do.
[–]TooMuchJibberish 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Nvm, username does check out afterall lol
[–]EarthTravelerxyz 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
The compliment flew over her head haha 😂
[–]TooMuchJibberish 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah, people are bunch of cunts nowadays 🤣
[–]MsBitch0157 -1 points0 points1 point 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Well, I'm pretty sure we r ALL glad you followed up on that 1 bc if you said it, then, probably everyone else was thinking it too but not saying a word.
[–]MsBitch0157 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I did get the compliment & I should have said thank you but I needed it clarified and make sure that it people knew that It does check and always does.
[–]Sharp-Computer-2179 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Are you gonna delete this after mods downvote this too?
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Who are the mods?
[–]incognito3107 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Pick wisely :)
[–]texaspete3 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
bea bit more clear in how you define goals. How will you measure success? How will you be able to learn from your mistakes, let alone know what your mistakes are?
[–]Oscarboy3333 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Here are the things you can ask at college
Doesn't matter what you start of, you want to initiate with something friendly, then continue to talk. Ask questions like "What do you like about this college ?" instead of "how do you like it ?" . Ask questions where they have to kind of explain and share their opinion and views. Then latch on to it and jump to another topic.
I.e She says : I really liked this college because it has nice pools You: You swim ? hey I can't swim, maybe you should teach me, I'll pay you.........with vegan sour candies
Bull shit like that.
What about a compliment on their outfit?
[–]Lopsided_Jackfruit37 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No. Do not compliment her outfit. Unless it's a unique item - like a band tee / national park tee - that you could use to start a convo about.
Since I feel like saying something like “Hey, I think you’re cute” is kinda cringe
[–]Lopsided_Jackfruit37 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
As a girl... I thought this article was pretty spot on.
https://www.scienceofpeople.com/how-to-approach-girls/
[–]Raphael1758 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Keep us updated please?
I will
[–]Suspicious-State 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Best of luck homie
[–]ComfortableRock90 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
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[–]agentStag 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I did 1 girl a day and success came pretty quick. Just make sure you stay consistent. You cannot go back home without at least one approach.
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Didn’t say anything about validation buddy. Pipe down
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