This is terrible

WickedBiscuit · 2022-08-16T23:26:07+00:00

Don’t go chasing waterfalls, my man

Gotta find a way to get the validation from yourself, from the inside out instead of the outside in.

Stop looking for it outside. I repeat. STOP. It’s not even a matter of “how do you get better so that you can get it”, it’s not an option. It won’t happen. It will never work. It will never be enough even if you get some or more.

Fill your own cup.

Take this metaphor. We walk around deplete in love and attention and validation inside and go around giving the small remaining amount we do have to other people outside of us in the hopes they will respond to it and fill us up instead of giving it to ourselves internally.

Imagine you had a pitcher of water that was a quarter full and you were next to a faucet and wanted to fill the pitcher. Would you go around giving people the little water you do have in the hopes they would pour that water and some of their own into the pitcher or would you go directly to the source and fill it up at the faucet?

Be the faucet and fill your own pitcher. Don’t give people the little bit of water you have hoping they will return it and more.

Calamity__Bane · 2022-08-17T00:27:16+00:00

It’s not ideal, but you’re better off just becoming more attractive and getting it out of your system. Once you’re attracting more women, you’ll stop caring as much and will go do other things. Once that happens, you’ll have enough going on in your life that the one source isn’t going to mean as much, even though you’ll probably always want it.

Least-Recording-2073 · 2022-08-17T00:17:41+00:00

No one can ever love you as much as you can love yourself.

m_778111 · 2022-08-17T04:28:01+00:00

The thing is women can sense this and it will become a negative self fulfilling prophecy. It's insecurity, need for validation, and low self esteem. Even if your physical self becomes a "10" the rest of you will tell us there's something wrong here. Work on yourself knowing who you are, what you offer and stop giving a fuck if you get someone's approval and ironically, you'll get more of their approval than actually seeking it.

fk89 · 2022-08-17T02:56:28+00:00

I have the same issue bro. I'm not that attractive so everytime it's a hit in the face.People especially women tend to ignore me or keep me at bay. I'm doing therapy I heard that helps

LisaFrankLover · 2022-08-17T03:59:59+00:00

That sense of invisibility has probably created a lot of shame. You'll be able to push the shame aside by getting women here and there but that level of shame tends to grow and manifests itself in other ways like anxiety and OCD etc over time. My suggestion would be learning to recognize and work with the shame...check out the audiobook Healing Shame by Bret Lyon.

jaykedge · 2022-08-17T00:20:59+00:00

Nothing is a problem unless you are broke or unhealthy.

The_Dufe · 2022-08-17T03:14:19+00:00

What are just like conducting a survey of how many girls come up to you first to state that?!?

CometAzur42069 · 2022-08-17T05:20:30+00:00

I feel like I’ll never truly be happy until I know that I’m sexually desired by a lot of women.

What makes you feel like you aren't?

climaxingwalrus · 2022-08-17T07:31:11+00:00

Big mood but then after the 20th girl and youre still not happy you will fall into a pit. And none of the girls will stay with you because you get bored of them. Because youre not truly happy and cant give real effort into a relationship. And girls you do like too much will also not like you because once again youre not truly happy with yourself.

B3asy · 2022-08-17T04:19:49+00:00

Get therapy my dude. It will help

passengerpigeon20 · 2022-08-17T05:32:48+00:00

I don’t get it. You say you are distraught because women don’t desire you, but at the same time you said you finally got signals of interest from girls in college… so why are you still bothered by this, and more importantly, what is stopping you from reciprocating that interest?

Perfect_War5446 · 2022-08-17T14:20:35+00:00

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Perfect_War5446 · 2022-08-17T00:49:33+00:00

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Kobe_curry24 · 2022-08-17T06:41:57+00:00

Facts man find your passion first , but fuck any thing that moves keyword “fuck” anything that moves lol

RompeChocha · 2022-08-17T08:09:24+00:00

Yeah, I too was in my early 20s once.

zapadz · 2022-08-17T14:06:43+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w27nenP7fsQ

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-hpjM_NNFQw

Amikatey · 2022-08-17T14:12:49+00:00

Go and out approach women bro. Don't wait.

JewishSquid · 2022-08-17T15:19:40+00:00

Work out

Not for the girls, for your own mental health. It worked for me, and hey you'll end up getting what you want at the end of the day anyways so why not

RubixCute · 2022-08-17T15:55:40+00:00

Alot of our culture is based on our desirability by the opposite sex. It's hard not to center your self-worth around what women find attractive. so with that being said, make a check list of all the things that would make you desirable to women and then do them. Be the object of women's desire. Make sure your appearance & hygiene is on point, make & spend money on women, don't be cheap about it, make friends/contacts with ppl who'll put you in VIP, have nice things, learn the art of great conversation, be bold yet respectful, be great in bed, ask a woman to take you under her wing and make you the man you wanna be. if you don't wanna do that then go to therapy to try and change your perspective.

J00n5 · 2022-08-17T16:35:04+00:00

Women is just part of a complex puzzle called life... if you do not have values that are at least equivalent or higher, you can consider something wrong with you...

I recommend getting into something that you excel outside the romantic stuff, and of course stay social... if people will start appreciating you for how good you are at something you do, your perception of self worth will peak...quite rapidly actually.

elvissayshi · 2022-08-17T18:45:56+00:00

You can achieve it, but only if you stop defining that as your goal. Lots of attention comes from doing, not being, and is only a possible byproduct of doing things that draw positive attention. Along the lines of attraction, rather than promotion. Even a less than average looking woman can have sex with as many guys as she chooses 24/7/Lifespan. So, it is gonna take a lot of bringing ass, to get a lot of ass. I dont mean looks, though that helps a bit, or money-helps a bit more-but HEART. That is one thing that can't be purchased, it is GENERATED, by daily actions. Not your champion days, or dog days, but everyday. Believe me, they pay attention and take good fucking notes...Just like they did at school. Can't fool em for long.

HelloBlackSanta · 2022-08-24T14:40:27+00:00

"You're hustling backwards, if You're chasing a b*****. Chase the paper! They come with the shit."

Ryder Musik by Curtis Jackson (The Massacre album)

🎅🏿

OldRecommendation897 · 2022-08-25T04:07:40+00:00

How tall are you

Title	This is terrible
Author	Perfect_War5446
Upvotes	122
Comments	71
Date	August 16, 2022 11:12 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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