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Warm_Can236 · 2022-07-11T13:57:56+00:00

If he is in a relationship do not pursue him. Its going to cause problems

lovesbane · 2022-07-11T14:02:08+00:00

Ok.

1: Let's say he does like you and wants to leave his gf for you. What's to say he won't do the exact same thing to you the next time he meets someone new?

2: Have more self-respect and self-control. You don't want to be the desperate girl trying to get with a guy who is in a relationship. And you certainly don't want to be that awful girl who hits on a guy who is physically with his gf at the time. It's just not a good look at all and a terrible way to make a connection with someone.

Perhaps a huge part of your attraction to him is the chase and the forbidden aspect because he's in a relationship. Who knows. But you can be a lot better than this. So try harder to be. It is a waste of time to try to figure out what a guy in a relationship wants from you.

grindforthegold · 2022-07-11T14:15:44+00:00

lmao girls love what they can’t have huh 😂

he’s definitely into you but probably feels bad about cheating on his girl or leaving her

2022-07-11T14:40:57+00:00

Probably best to avoid workplace dating.

MermaidOfScandinavia · 2022-07-11T15:42:51+00:00

He is not worth your time. Move on and find yourself a single guy who is only into you.

life_long_learnerabc · 2022-07-11T15:51:23+00:00

Why bother? Plenty of fishes in the sea!

2022-07-11T15:59:43+00:00

why do you care? just go after someone else, life ain't that hard😂

Sorrytoruin · 2022-07-11T17:32:14+00:00

This was posted before, move on he's in a relationship stop obsessing over him

Snakehead004 · 2022-07-11T14:12:44+00:00

But then he keeps doing that shit

What, liking photos on ig? Think you're reaching for straws here and even if he is into you I'd still advise you against doing anything with him. If he's not actively trying to talk to you, is in a relationship (maybe ENM so no judgment yet) and thinks liking photos is a good way to pursue you he's a douche and waste of time..

Legal_defender8900 · 2022-07-11T14:42:26+00:00

This has been posted before too.

moochingisfun4me · 2022-07-11T17:32:33+00:00

"Dammit this guy won't cheat on his gf with me. What ever shall I do?"

Hook_me_up · 2022-07-11T22:56:53+00:00

Maybe him tell you to flirt with the guys at the bar was a test, just like women use shit Test to see how you respond. You agreeing mightve made him jealous and decided go drop it off. Also you pursuing a man with a gf is pretty weak, but him giving you so much attention is even worse tbh. Not really sure how the thought of you being that gf doesnt make you lose respect for such a man

2022-07-11T17:49:35+00:00

He changed his behaviour to you because it was In front of his gf and he had to act like he didn’t like you at all so his girlfriend wouldn’t get suspicious it’s as simple as that. If you want to hook up with him behind his girls back then expect that treatment when she’s around .Your best course of action if you want to peruse this is text him to come to a bar or restaurant to talk and confess your feelings and see where it goes. If it works then it works if it doesn’t he won’t tell anyone because he’s in a relationship and will make him look bad just for meeting you. So shoot your shot.

Snakehead004 · 2022-07-11T14:14:42+00:00

Love when it's a guy trying to get a girl in a relationship eveyone here is like "go for it bruh!!" and when it's the the opposite everyone is like "no, you bitch"... Fucking reddit...

GlitteringPause8 · 2022-07-11T16:57:22+00:00

His gf got upset with him and now he’s taking a step back.

Idk if I’d consider what he was doing as flirting, but she probably saw some messages or DMs from you and other girls and confronted him. I doubt you were the only girl he was liking pics of or DMing.

AngeloMacon · 2022-07-11T17:22:33+00:00

It's a bad idea regardless since it's at work. But you're going to ignore that anyways hah.

Like others said, he changed after you met his girlfriend. Obviously she said something to him and he's backing off slightly.

Hes friend zoning you. If he doesn't relapse into heavy flirting in the next couple weeks, I'd accept defeat, the other girl "won"

Romantic_Adventurer · 2022-07-11T17:44:52+00:00

What would be your #1goal and how will you know after you achieve it?

JXMMY11 · 2022-07-11T19:50:47+00:00

From my experience with this literal situation just swapped places (she has a bf). He likes you as a person and maybe if he didn’t have a gf he would give it a go with you. Butttt his relationship now means way more to him and he doesn’t want to lose the one he has and is being loyal to his gf. It’s like Jim and Pam type of thing but without the tv magic. I suggest you try to move on(wayyy easier said then done) and maybe one day it would be the right time for both of yall

Warm_Can236 · 2022-07-11T20:10:30+00:00

My advice to you. If he isn't yours to begin with you should try pursuing a new man. You will thank me later. Trust me.

Dragonsin329 · 2022-07-11T20:20:12+00:00

Shawty he prolly jus tryna hit….if u okay wit it let it flow if not then don’t

Possible-Lobster-436 · 2022-07-13T00:19:47+00:00

What a joke. The man’s taken but you still want to pursue him? Why be sloppy seconds? Is your self esteem THAT bad?

If you’re going to cheat with a taken man let him take the lead and make the first move. Don’t be a pathetic dog begging for a crumb of attention. It seems he’s using you for an ego boost and you’re dumb enough to think it’s actually going to go anywhere serious.

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