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[–][deleted] 29 points30 points31 points 4 years ago (33 children) | Copy Link
Hit the gym.
[–]coachmelloweyes 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (28 children) | Copy Link
Facts. I had a women come over to me today and say “I know it’s weird to say, but your really hot”… she came from far away and there was absolutely nothing to see besides the outline of my body.
[–][deleted] 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (27 children) | Copy Link
So many guys complaining here would be a lot happier if they just did what you did. Good work.
[–]Archyblackcat 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (26 children) | Copy Link
Why do they expect results with out putting in work into their physical appearance? That’s the only thing that is gonna make women more attracted to you .. it would make spitting game easier if you’d just work out and get a decent body shape
[–][deleted] 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (25 children) | Copy Link
I don't agree that working out is the only way to become more attractive, but it is very helpful. I think they don't do it because it takes a ton of work, pain, and time. Also there is a lot of misinformation about how looks don't matter, and just be nice, or just have game.
[–]ComprehensivePen71 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I think they don't do it because it takes a ton of work, pain, and time
or maybe they don't do it because working out has little to none effect for men that are short, ugly, or have tiny wrists and shoulder breath
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Every little bit helps with dating, even the guys you described. Its true that working out may not do enough to fix your dating life, but it does something. If I was these men I would lower my standard, consider asia, and get really social.
[–]ComprehensivePen71 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
consider asia
just by saying this you out yourself as a retard
just think for a second, how utterly ridiculous and delusional this "advice" is
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Its very well known that western men have it a lot easier dating in Asia. You have to be delusional to deny that. And don't try arguing that in every case they just want your money and a greencard.
[–]Archyblackcat 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (20 children) | Copy Link
How else are you going to become better looking ? Improving your face, and body would be the only ways.. girls do care about looks, you at least have to be fuckable for them to wanna date you/ fuck you..
[–][deleted] 10 points11 points12 points 4 years ago (18 children) | Copy Link
Well there is clothing, shoes, hair, grooming, body language, status, and vibe. In fact the main value of working out is what it does for your self-dicipline, mental health, self-esteem, and care to your appearance. Your gym bros will admire your muscles more than women will.
[–]Archyblackcat 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago* (14 children) | Copy Link
Well everything you said is right but except the benefits of working out.. if you think girls don’t get turned on by looking at your cut up arms, defined chest, manly shoulders and back then you’re delusional lol this is the type of things that will get girls approaching you in person especially at clubs and parties, you showcasing your muscles through your clothes is a pussy magnet at said venues given you also know how to spit game.. plus yeah a girl might wanna marry that funny chubby guy with status and money but guess who she’s gonna end up cheating on him with ? (Not generalizing but if you choose a person to marry that you’re not all that attracted to physically then it’s gonna be hard to stay faithful trust)
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (13 children) | Copy Link
I think women definitely do get turned on by muscles but different women have different body type preferences. And don't underestimate the value of a good haircut. Also its really true that looks aren't everything and psychology plays a big role as well.
[–]Archyblackcat 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link
Of course bro not saying you won’t be able to get a good looking girl being an average guy ( .. my point is that if you want to consistently get with different type of food looking women then you have to increase your physical attractiveness.. or else it’s gonna take sometime for you to prove your self , and the point is to make it easier for you not harder ..
[–]coachmelloweyes 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
What kind of status would you recommend the average man attain?
I'd say enough status where your life is stable and comfortable so a woman would want to be a part of it.
I'd say enough status where your life is stable and comfortable and a woman would want to be a part of it.
[–]cock1441 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Regular bathing.
doesn't work for many
Hitting the gym won't just work, it just increases your attractiveness. How much depends on the person. And you should be working out for you, not just women.
[–]ComprehensivePen71 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
And you should be working out for you, not just women
cope
everyone works out either for women, or for more respect from women
unless you compete I guess
You are painting this as black and white. People often work out for many reasons: Health, self-esteem, women, sense of purpose, etc.
[–]Otherwise_Rub_9736 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
Tbh I think sex appeal is about how you feel about yourself. When one feels sexy, the feeling is exuded naturally and people around can sense it.
So, I’d suggest sitting in front of the mirror. Trying out different clothes and seeing what makes you feel sexy. When you feel it, keep a mental note of it; how that energy runs through your body, what kind of thoughts are popping up, how are you behaving.
For me, when I’m trying to bring out that energy, I put on my headphone and play music. Songs that make me feel sexy. As you said, sit with yourself and aim to feel more comfortable with your sexuality and hold onto your confidence.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
What songs make you feel sexy?
[–]HowToStud 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Satisfaction lmaoo
[–]Otherwise_Rub_9736 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not bad, Benny Benassi goes off. But it’ll only gotten me in a mood when it’s unsuspectedly played in a dark club as lights flicker about every other second.
Unless you’re talking about the Rolling Stones’ “Satisfaction,” pretty great to play while driving around. But “Slave” from ‘Tattoo You’ does put me in the mood.
(Edited for clarity, realized you weren’t to one to ask about what songs I listen to.)
This is where my heads at right now: “Let me roll it” by Wings When I wanna be gentle and passionate.
“Roadhouse Blues” by the Doors When I’m gonna hook up and wanna be a beast mood.
“Titi me pregunto” by Bad Bunny When I wanna feel like a play boy.
“Dreams, Fairytales, and Fantasies” by ASAP Ferg When I’m smoking and chillin.
Obviously there’s more, but mainly depends on lyrics and soundscape for me.
[–]HowToStud 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yuuup if you feel sexy you sexy
[–]sebicoroian 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Nah just hit the gym bruh
Why not both?
[–]srosete 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
you got it right in that last line. If you are friendly, then that's great. However, if you never sexualize with chicks, then that's bad, because they will assume many things (that you are not interested, that you are gay, and so on).
So you should start showing interest in a non needy or creepy way. It will take time to be comfortable about it, and some girls might say they don't approve that. But that's the key: you don't do stuff because they approve it or not. You do stuff that helps you meet your needs and be happy.
And even if they dislike it, you will still come off as more "manly" for them, which they actually crave.
[–]Talktomeifyouneed2 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Eye contact my boi !! Don’t be afraid to be touchy too
[–]dheidjdedidbe -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
And then your a creep
[–]Talktomeifyouneed2 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Not if you know how to talk to them but if ur awkward than obviously
[–]ComprehensivePen71 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
only difference between an attractive guy and a creep are looks
[–]Zealousideal6669 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Being dominant and confident to take the lead and make moves
[–][deleted] 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Wear a maga hat
[–]WilhelmTrooper 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You’ll get their attention certainly by doing this
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
okay Colby
[–]HowToStud 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Style, grooming, how you carry yourself, smell good, body language, eye contact, have a good mouthpiece aka being smooth. I’ve learned a lot from Brad pitt and Leonardo movies those guys exemplify swagger and sex appeal. They’re smooth asf too, body language is on point.
[–]Sup3rHD 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Gym, tattoo, necklace/jewels, nice haircut
Confidence, nice vibes
[–][deleted] 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Take advice from neckbeards on this sub. You'll be tippin your fedora at unsuspecting girls minding their own business in no time.
Idc what a fucking nft is bro. Byeeeee
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[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Sex appeal is a complicated matter in general. If you are looking for specific things you can do to be sexier like this is some sort of stat you are increasing in an rpg im sorry to say it doesn't work like that.
It super doesnt work like that with anything you are going to "learn" in here.
[–]coachmelloweyes 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I mean… he can learn it. But you’re right, it’s complicated.
There are a multitude of things that will sexualise him in woman’s eyes. These things can be specifically listed… but come with nuance.
The problem is, unless he believes he is sexy, he will likely fumble along the way which will convert that Sex appeal into creepiness.
[–]ComprehensivePen71 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
believing "you're sexy" is pointless unless you're actually sexy
That specific thing can be working out. Enough working out XP will increase my muscle definition stats. Which will make my 2h long sword more effective in luring in female villagers.
[–]24mech 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
A Sense of humor. Listening skills and empathy.
[–]Meta_Charset_utf-8 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Simp
aka things that make a great friend
[–]poly_nerdy_panda 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
sex appeal is a big myth, I've seen little people score models from playboy, I have seen poor dudes get chicks like tia tequila (when she was a thing) and fat poor dudes score Asian hotties in America. The biggest thing i notice is they all have a zero fucks approach to women.
They aren't afraid to tell a woman she is wrong (like your dumb, or don't be dumb might be enough) . A man who will stand up for himself, A man who isn't afraid to say sexual jokes like they would if out with the boys. basically a guy who has balls and wont take her shit
[–]HowToStud 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
That’s called swagger which is damn near sex appeal.
[–]poly_nerdy_panda 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
i consider swagger way different then sex appel to me sex appeal for women means the buff guys who dress well and smart as a rocket science lol
oh yeah google Machine gun kelly he looks like a fucken homeless dude MGk wtf and dating Megan fox
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[–]EGreg 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
No
[–]jayjonas1996 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I do but I’m at 134lbs and it’s difficult for me to bulk
[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Little Ceasars has a $5 pizza that's packed with calories. Also peanut butter.
[–]MO_drps_knwldg 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This guy bulks his muscles and his LDL
Lol The doctor actually said my LDL levels are optimal.
[–]Kidcouger 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hit the gym Get haircuts frequently (every 2-3 weeks) Have good style Keep up your appearance
That’s about it
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