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[–]jwaters0122 23 points24 points25 points 4 years ago (22 children) | Copy Link
tell her you're always going to want to be more than friends, so friendship is not gona work.
Then go date someone else
[–]Spotdown23 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (21 children) | Copy Link
Any chance she ever hits me back up in the future after saying that?
[–]jwaters0122 17 points18 points19 points 4 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
depends on her personality..
buddy of mine got friendzoned by this woman, he got over it. Started seeing other women, moved up in the workforce, got more money, worked out and became more attractive.
The woman hit him up months later and wanted to "hang out" in a romantic way. but he was already seeing someone else.
Most women won't do this, once they've made up their mind thay you're just a friend material, it'll stay that way.
[–]Le_Percepteur 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Im not even in the friendzone wtf🤣
[–]stanthemilkman88 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You can't control other people dude. You can only control yourself. Even that can be difficult
[–]Spotdown23 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ya this is just hard. I really liked her. Feeling bit good enough now
[–]my_mouse_is_huge 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
She’s sleeping with someone else dude, go out and date some more women maybe she’ll come back around maybe she won’t but fixating on her won’t accomplish anything
Thanks bro
[–]8Captcrunch8 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I know it sucks to hear this. And the first time someone said it to me i hated it. But over time i understood it.
If your gonna walk away with your dignity. You need to do it not as a manipulative "if i back off she will cone back" deal. But as a honest to ones self okay with either outcome. Like dont walk away for her. Walk away for you.
Tell your self and convince yourself that its gonna be okay even if she doesnt. Because your good enough. You were good before her. You will be good after her.
Trust me. Live your life for you brother. If you only back off in thd hopes it will being her back. Then your self sabotaging your own happiness.
Its three dates and a hookup. It hurts. I know. But in reality...you were okay and cool before her. So just tell yourself your gonna be good and live your life. She either will. Or she wont. But honestly. Having been in your shoes. The best things in this usually take time as old feelings of brief romance fade out again and give space for any kind of friendship.
Trust me. The best thing you can do is just take it with a smile. And go back to focusing on you and NOT play into any games. Lol
[–]Spotdown23 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks man. Left it on a friendly note and said I wish for the best and that was it
[–]Minute-Lie-2287 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago* (3 children) | Copy Link
Maybe when she gets blown off by the dude she just met ( the reason for the sudden excuse) Otherwise it's likely she wanted her friend to help vet you, and got talked out of you in the meantime...friend was anticipating the opportunity, you couldn't go.. automatically gives the friend a negative bias and then the friend manipulates the idea of you and you're toast.
Depending on scenario I can say is that it absolutely does work if another woman appears to even possibly be interested.
Only thing to do most of the time is say "ok".....then ignore. Hit her up in 60 days with something to do.
[–]Spotdown23 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
By another woman do you mean somebody new?
[–]Minute-Lie-2287 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Doesn't really matter. For example I saw a female friend of mine being pursued by a guy that was in our social group. ( some people that go dancing and practice new stuff together) She wasn't particularly interested but one day he brought a female friend of his to a practice and their relationship status was a bit ambiguous. Suddenly the first girl was intrigued and started agreeing to dates with the guy.
In other words if the situation happens to be one where it was not wildly obvious you brought another girl around for the purpose of inducing some jealousy or competition then it will almost always have that effect.
[–]Minute-Lie-2287 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
In other words if the situation happens to be one where it was not wildly obvious you brought another girl around for the purpose of inducing some jealousy or competition then it will almost always have that effect. They want whatever other girls want.
In your situation it miiiight be worthwhile to bring another girl along if she does hit you up to hang out as friends.
[–]GalaxyBrainU 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
She very well might, but you can't hold on to that hope because you'll never move on, part of you will always be waiting for that call. You have to legitimately move on to new things and new people, and basically assume and accept that you're never gonna hear from her again.
I live in the city so I’m talking to like 10 other girls
[–]GalaxyBrainU 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Perfect. Forget about her then, guaranteed at least one of those girls will end up being more fun or just better for you overall.
Ya I’m hoping so. Just really liked that girl thought she was super cute and we got along
[–]DiamondRider21 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Chances are no, she already decided she doesn't want to move towards the next step. Accept the loss and move on.
[–]dobbs1997 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
if she hits you back up tell her you’re interested in more than friends & if she’s cool with that then you two can get together…other than that don’t try to even analyze it, just go meet more girls lol
Doubt she ever hits me up again. Damn dude this sucks
[–]dobbs1997 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
why do you care if she does or doesn’t ?
[–]Spotdown23 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Really liked her. Would be a confidence boost
[–]MasterTeacher123 10 points11 points12 points 4 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
Once a girl I pursue tells me she only sees me as a friend cut off contact and move on to someone else
[–]Spotdown23 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Any of them ever come back?
[–]witchdoctor_26 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Why would you want them back?
[–]HotCard1588 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It’ll be up to you if you want them to be in your life
[–]Spotdown23 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I don’t but it would do a lot for my confidence
[–]countsunny 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
You shouldn't derive your confidence from external things. That's a losing game.
[–]Spotdown23 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
How do I not let it effect me
[–]countsunny 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If your confidence is derived from external things, then external things can easily take that confidence away. Workout, eat healthy, enrich your life with hobbies/meaningful experiences. The world is bigger than your relationship with women.
I would recommend reading How to Think Like a Roman Emperor by Donald Robertson.
Things like this will effect you - it's hard to control your inherent reactions to rejections and failure. What matters is how you continually think about these things i.e. your overall mindset toward the world. If you can change that, then I believe that over time you'll find that rejections and failure will have less of an impact on you.
In the short term practice cognitive distancing by telling yourself "It's not things that upset me but my judgements about them." Decatastrophize by describing the rejection/friendzoning to yourself in objective terms - without the use of emotive language or value judgements. These tools, along with others, are described in How to Think Like a Roman Emperor.
Yes but don’t plan on it, try to move on and if she does hit you up it’s then up to you. But for now just don’t make a big deal of it and tell her essentially goodluck in finding what she’s looking for
[–]HornyTownCitizen 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'd say something like:"I understand, not really looking for a friendship, but it was nice meeting you" and move on. If she hits you up later you can make your choice. Frankly, I wouldn't go for it, but it's your choice
[–]Snakehead004 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
where it could’ve went wrong?
Seems like she didn't enjoy the sex. Did she orgasm?
[–]Spotdown23 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Idk but then why hit me up fire the next day and ask me to hang with her friend then when I said I couldn’t she asked me to hang with her friend later that week too
[–]Snakehead004 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Maybe she likes hanging out but not the sex
And idk is she orgasm means no my dude lol. That's your problem right there
[–]Spotdown23 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Went down on her before we had sex
[–]Snakehead004 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
That's good! Maybe if you get the chance ask her about it. Communication is key, and a turn on to many women
Nah she just told me she sees this as a friendship
[–]WZRD_305 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Sounds like a super clingy girl. As soon as u cant chill she gets a “friendship” vibe. Good riddance
No she would take long to reply she’s def not clingy
[–]Everlast23 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I don't understand how she got the friendship vibe when your penis was in her vagina.
I don't do that with my friends and coworkers.
Same dude like part of me is wondering if it was the sex but the next day she texted me like 4 times first which she never did then asked me to hang with her and her friend that night
[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sucks it didn’t go as you would have hoped. Just tell her you’re cool with that but don’t initiate contact with her anymore. If she wants to be friends she can do the initiating. There’s always a small chance she will come around again but situations like this are usually just a girl’s attempt at giving a kind rejection. I would forget about her and start looking for somebody new. The best way to get over rejection is to get interested in somebody new.
[–]anglelofdeaths 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (32 children) | Copy Link
Have the abundance mindset talk to other girls keep a roster going because i garuntee she’s already talking to other guys hommie, girls flake all the time and they always have options, gotta get used to it, fight fire with fire An keep some girls in ya back pocket. 👌🏿
[–]Spotdown23 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (31 children) | Copy Link
I’m talking to like 10 other girls. It’s just that I liked this one the most
[–]anglelofdeaths 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (30 children) | Copy Link
Smart man, well damn now I can definitely see why it bothers you, Did she know you had options? NOT all girls but most of them tend to lean towards the guy with hella options; but I will be straight up honest with you, the girl has to really be feeling you for any of that to work, truth be told maybe she wasn’t looking for a relationship? Especially if she had options as well but Like with my current girlfriend she was seeking a relationship I wasn’t but at the same time she was really interested in me so I put her through the ringer, if she wanted me she had to keep her end closed an prove to me that she is deserving of a relationship with me, no bull shit I put her through the ringer and that’s how you gotta act with these women even if you really wanna be with her you gotta put them through some bull shut test so they can prove to YOU. she knew I had options too and I still do to this day and I’ve been with her a year and a half later, everything is the same, from my experience at least when Girls know you have other girls that keeps them around, especially if you got your shit together and yours a charismatic person. NOT ALL OF THEM BUT MAJORITY OF THEM. I’m not sure if any of that help just thought I’d share some insight with my experiences that’s all.
[–]Spotdown23 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (29 children) | Copy Link
Thanks man really appreciate it. I have a really good job so I have my shit together. I never told her I had girls like that I don’t even know how to bring it up lol. Any advice going forward on how to seem like I have other girls?
[–]anglelofdeaths 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago* (22 children) | Copy Link
Girls literally need to feel jealous of the other girls you talk to an that’s how you do it, you shouldn’t be talking to a girl that’s not giving you any attention anyway because it won’t work she has to be into you even if you lead her on alittle but she has to want to talk to you and be with you for it to work so be the most indifferent, unique guy you can be so she can fall for you ya dig? Like for example my current girlfriend I text all my hoes around her even when we was first talking even called them around her 😂😂 not all girls it will work but I mean you know you have a girl when she Always wanna be with you, you need to be fun to be around an she has to like the vibes when y’all link if ya feel me, so ya I mean just very subtle shit don’t gotta be all out there with it depending on ya personality you can but if you got other girls you talking to don’t be afraid to text them or make plans with them more than ya other girl or “main girll” she gonna see how you givin ya attention to other girls an either get jealous or mad an both is a win just brush it off like it’s nothing “ yeah I got options, I’m single, you wanna change that? , no ? Okay then ima do me ” an keep it moving g.
[–]Spotdown23 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (21 children) | Copy Link
You’ve had good success with this? Girls don’t get mad that you’re talking to other girls?
[–]anglelofdeaths 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (20 children) | Copy Link
Yes I do, I’ve been with my current girlfriend for a year and a half now and she’s always knows that I’ve been talking to other girls and I’ve hooked up with them while still being with her. It’s all about honesty bro, most guys lie an cheat anyway but if you’re honest from the start an explain to her that,sex is different from guys than it is girls an the way you do things is different that gives the girls the perception that you have options an that you also know what you’re doing when it comes to girls an sex as well in her mind she’s thinks “there’s a reason why all these girls like him an want to talk to him” an she gonna investigate if she likes what she finds out about you she Will stay no matter what especially if you’re checking off all the boxes become the complete package frfr it’s always about perception Honestly you can even fake it till you make it, that works just as good but if you leave them little clues that she can pick up on and don’t be apologetic about it, don’t even feel any remorse when you do because for one you’re single anyway unless she’s willing to change that and if she is you still have to keep frame and don’t fold even if you get in a relationship with her you let her work for your commitment it’s more satisfying for her that way she would feel like she really has to try work to keep you around an girls are not used to that in relationships, but no matter what she has to know or at least THINK you have hella options an if she leave it’s no problem but you have to mean it like that stand in everything, and finally to answer your questions it depends on the girl bro most girls will accept this as a challenge who doesn’t like a challenge? Women most certainly like to compete especially if it’s for a guy they know or think it’s worth it that’s why I say she has to be very interested in you for any of this to work an that all on how you work your charm/ personality bro an yes some girls will not be down with this an not like it but that have to respect that because you’re still single an if she wants to change that she has to take you up on your “challenges” an prove to you she’s worth it. This is literally what I’m making my girlfriend do it’s literally hat vetting your women gotta make sure she really likes you before you actually take her seriously even jf takes you seriously she still have to keep proving herself an you still have to keep the perception of having options or actually having them, but at the end of the day if she don’t give off that energy of being interested then you have to respect that because she was never interested in the first place sometimes girls can just be so far into themselves that even after sex they just always looking for the next cant really sweat that, that’s why having the abundance mindset is always key never invest too much feelings into it always let her do it bro the girl has to be the one investing feelings NOT YOU KEEP THEM TO YOURSELF UNTIL YOU KNWK FOR SURE SHE REALLY WANTS YOU an you can tell by her accepting your challenges, an one more thing if she tripping about you having other girls that means you got her really interested in you, if any girl trippen about ya girls just laugh it off an tell her everything ok make it seem like nothing an if you tryna take her seriously tell her she the main chick an treat her as such but still barley give her time. If you take forever to text back an she does the same to you that means she was never interested but if you take awhile to text back an she automatically responds that means something bro she interested I know you was only interested in the one girl but I’m quite sure because you spent more time with her ya other girls either started to notice an hit you up more or one of them other girls gotta be really interested in you if not you keep playing the games an talking to girls until you find the one you do an then the challenge for her begins like I explained above ☝🏿. This was allot hope it made sense an it helped.
[–]Spotdown23 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (18 children) | Copy Link
Damn dude thank you for the detailed answer I really appreciate it. So even though you’re with your gf now you still see other girls and she’s cool with it?
[–]anglelofdeaths 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago* (6 children) | Copy Link
Yes, i text them in front of her all the time, they call me all the time, shit if I got a good connection with one of my hoes I even tell them about my girlfriend. I tell my gf when I’m going to a party or when I’m gonna be going out an she knows what’s up just of the fact that she sees the bitches in my phone all the time, I swear on my life bro I tell my gf everything since day one but she’s been feeling me since day 1 if you set the mood right an give her good sex an you got ya shit together with a charming personality that people like including other girls too? Ya you gonna be in there. If you’re just honest an keep it real from the start or even make it seem like you have options or that you don’t care she’s gonna fuck with you even more. that’s if she’s already fuckn with you but if you’re running game naturally and talking to other girls she’s gonna pick up on that women are not slow at all if you don’t hide it don’t be apologetic about it and leave hints for her to pick up on she definitely gonna notice an hear me out when I say this she only gonna be cool with it if she really likes you, yeah she gonna bitch about it like my girl she Hispanic puerto rican to be exact she knows I got bitches but she really likes me an wanna be with me all I do is brush it off tell her I love her in which I really do, and she knows that, she’s good I continue to treat her like my number 1 an she gets most my attention but she’s earned it at that point can’t do that with a girl you just talking to. if you play the game right she will fuck with you one of these girls out here will for sure gotta know what to look for in a women my girl stays home don’t drink, party or smoke, an I go out an fuck with the ones that do. I wouldn’t be surprised if any of the other girls you talk to really like you they probably do. You just been invested in that one but never invest let her invest feelings first then you can see if she really likes you.
[–]Spotdown23 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Damn dude you’re a god lmao
[–]Demure_Whore_ 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago* (10 children) | Copy Link
Don’t listen to this guy. There’s a couple things he says that makes sense, but I’ve been in an open/poly relationships for years and trust me that most women aren’t gonna be okay with the way this guy puts it. Its disgusting, and his mindset is quite troubling.
[–]Appropriate_Focus_24 -1 points0 points1 point 3 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Thank you. This is like the poly situation horror show. This is how you fuck things up with a good woman.
[–]anglelofdeaths 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lmao yeah most women the ones you don’t actually care about, and also if you read his comments you can see that he has his own rotation like what you’re talking to a guy who asked for the advice dummy he wants to know. 😂😂😂🤣
Ima proud fuck boy an I give no fucks. Shaming me does no good cause I really don’t GIVE A SHIT everything I talked about works! I STILL TALK TO DIFFERENT WOWEN YALL DONT KNOW HOW I DO THINGS.
Now as stated before I said not every guy can pull this off an not every woman would fuck with it an that’s true but there are women out there who definitely will. I Got a few. 🤷🏿♂️
[–]OkDesigner2262 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah the fact that he finally admits at one point his girlfriend actually DOESNT like it, but he thinks he puts it down so good for her that she will stay anyways, so her opinion doesn't actually matter. What a shitty way to treat someone you're in a relationship with. If you want to be poly, be poly. But all parties are supposed to be happy. Not just a guy with his "hoes" and "his main chick" who is unhappy with all the other women he sees.
[–]Murky-Garden-9967 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Unbelievable cringe. I assume he’s a child hence why this works
[–]anglelofdeaths 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
You’re doing great bro, better than most guys, most guys don’t even have options at al; if you have options you gotta move like you do, so like if your ever with any of the girls you’re talking to, Don’t be afraid to text ya other girls in front of them, keep ya ringer on so when you texting them she hears the pinging goi g on, don’t turn ya phone over like if you got girls hitting you up an you with another girl DO NOT HIDE IT, TRUST ME SHE GONNA SEE IT GIRLS PEEP EVERYTHING! Also you need to be busy all the time, the girls that you want the most you need to kinda be ignoring her like don’t text her as soon as possible take your time, you gotta make your attention scarce for the girl you really want, that’s gonna want to make her be with you more if you barley giving her any attention an she see you giving other girls attention.
[–]Spotdown23 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Ya I would take like 4-5 hours to reply to the girl then she’d take 12 lol. Shit sucked. I’m also kinda nervous that maybe it was the sex that changed her mind. Any pointers on how to tackle that issue?
[–]anglelofdeaths 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago* (3 children) | Copy Link
Ok if it was about the sex. Hmm, like I’m not sure how you hitting it but if you not choking her slapping her ass or giving her them deep back stroke specials then that can definitely be it. Not saying this as a badge of Honor but I’ve seen allot of porn I like to reenact the different positions and scenes, honestly this drives girls I be fuckin crazy no cap you gotta try different positions an go multiple rounds of fuckn the absolute shit out of ya women. an I mean porn you can see how that shit is I literally treat all my girls like a porn star when I’m fuckn them an I feel like I’m in a porno an My imagination takes me places they definitely like that shit girls are fuckn freaks man even ya soft spoken nerdy type girl 🤣🤷🏿♂️. If all you doing is missionary that may be boring unless you really dicking her down with them deep fast strokes. Man I be going in with my bitches can’t really be shy in bed as a man, man up an obliterate her pussy make that shit mash potatoes I can’t even cap. My bad to get all vivid just keeping it. 💯
Damn I’ll ramp it up then go harder and more rhythm
[–]anglelofdeaths 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
Hell yeah bro go crazy inside there, don’t be scared of the pussy beat that shit up 😂💪🏿. Watching porn helps too just saying hommie no one has to know except whoever reads this. 🤣
I’m white though so I’m not packing like OG Mudbone
[–]8Captcrunch8 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Move on. Im not trying to phrase this aggressively. But your feelings do not entitle you to someone elses. Im really sorry. But basically....she didnt like you emotionally. She liked you lustfully. Once she got that ....well....it is what it is. Just tell uer you get it and then be cool about it and keep movin on with your life. Do NOT respond or give reaction to any flirty or anything hinting from her following this moment.
Respect your self enough to know that you will meet someone else and that your not gonna be someones toy for when they want their validation or ego praised or filled.
I have been that toy. The short term pleasure is no where near the level of pain that always follows it.
Basically man. The best advice i always give anyone who gets zoned. Is "take it with a smile. Keep your dignity. And hold them to it. And make a decision whether you can let your feelings go. Or to walk away entirely"
I don’t have her on social media so I legit will probably never see her again lol
[–]Lighthero34 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Maybe your sex was bad maybe it wasn't, who knows.
You got laid, aren't going to again any time soon with her.
Move on and tell her "I don't have sex with just friends" or something along those lines and get a new girl.
[–]Spotdown23 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Fuck dude how do I get better
[–]Lighthero34 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
At what, sex?
Ya
[–]Lighthero34 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
There's actually a lot of videos by a lot of female content creators that are totally worth looking into.
A search on YouTube, as embarrassing as it may be, is extremely helpful
[–]Honest_Inevitable632 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She didn’t feel that you were a great fit. Move on to the next
[–]Personal_Way6717 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Men aren't supposed to feel too many emotions. If she's making you feel, it's not gonna be a healthy relationship down the road with her.
How to get over being friendzoned? Get over it. Grow a pair and accept that you are a man and this girl is one of many girls you'll interact and probably have sex with.
If you want to get out of the friend zone, every next second is a second chance in a golden platter. You'll just have to understand that you are A MAN and know what a man does and train yourself accordingly.
She'll start crawling towards you when you train yourself using this book.
All the best.
AlphaMale
[–]iamethgod 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Maybe she means she wants to be fwb
[–]sixxohhwitaratchet 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
never get friend zoned in the first place
How do I stop that from happening?
[–]sixxohhwitaratchet 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
i’m no master in the psychology of women, but from what i understand about them is that they’ll quickly categorize potential men within minutes of meeting them. if you don’t want to be friend zoned then make it clear that you are a potential sexual partner. create sexual tension (sooner the better) with light playful touching, flirting, and slowly escalate the situation.
as a man you should make your intentions clear. if you want sex, don’t be that friendly great guy that i’m sure you are. not saying be an asshole or not be who you want to be but be a man that is pursuing what he wants.
you said you guys already had sex, what else do you want? FWB, Girlfriend/Boyfriend, Is she the one? do you know what you want from her. move on from her, i’d say next girl you clearly state what you want from the jump. even if it’s just sex, one of two things will happen, she’ll reject you or she’ll choose you but you won’t be friend zoned.
[–]Accomplished-Camp339 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link
You already had sex and now she wants to be friend?? She was looking for something which you did not had and hence she wants to move on to next one. So should you. Don’t get me wrong- not everyone has everything and she is free to have her own checklists and you both were not compatible according to her. Just keep her as an acquaintance and don’t reach out to her. You might become a fuck buddy, if you play it right by saying- let’s hangout only if we are going to have sex, else we can stay connected on need basis.
Always remember, stay in your frame and you decide the terms of relationship with any girl by dictating it upfront and not simping and waiting for the girl to come back
She hit me up a couple times after but I was busy with work then she said that
[–]Accomplished-Camp339 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That’s fine! She is playing games by pretending hard to get once you mentioned that you are busy. Don’t let a girl dictate the terms. Just mention that it was great meeting you and let’s connect when it is just you, me and the fun we had, else I have other priorities. Either she will come back in few days (not immediately) or she would never for good. You don’t want to play these games and focus on next girl.
[–]Ok_Yogurtcloset_669 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Go outside so many fish in the sea..
[–]BigTBoneDog 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Was the sex that bad........
Just kidding, maybe just be happy with what you got and move on. Not everyone will fall in love with everyone. Some girls do this after sleeping with a guy, seen exactly this happen before, but usually they will ghost you. Doesn't mean you did anything wrong, she likley just realized that she is not intreseted in you. You got further than most!
Idk I went down on her before and lasted a decent amount of time so idk if it could’ve been that bad. She hit me up asking to hang the next day too
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