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[–]appmanga 10 points11 points12 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Life isn't a porno; sex doesn't -- poof -- just happen. You build up to it. You guys were watching Netflix? You could just take her hand and hold it. After a little while stroke her forearm. After a while more, put your arm around her while you watch the program. Once you're holding her, try kissing her neck. She will let you know when she doesn't want to go further.
There's a thing called "foreplay", and it's the build up to sex. When you're in these situations you have to build up the mood. It may not lead to sex, but the makeout session you have this time is leading you into the possibility of going further the next time. Don't be afraid of being a bit bold -- she will let you know where the line is. The biggest lesson you need to learn is never be in a hurry. That's one of the biggest turnoffs nearly every woman has.
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Make this an entire post in its own.
You’ve got my upvote
[–]CocoBabeNYC 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
If your are a noob escalate at every opportunity. It's about leading. If you can't lead, go masturbate.
[–]polarizingpotato 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Leading.. makes more sense now with that word
[–]DetainTheFranzia 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Escalate is honestly kind of a charged term. After all, "de-escalation" is something you try to do when people are on the verge of getting in a physical conflict. I like what another poster said. It's about building up the moment. Just set your sights on making out. How do you get there? Flirt, be silly, make jokes, get closer to her, touch her a little. It's about setting the scene for the moment. You're right, you dont want to just kiss her abruptly. But if you flirt, joke, tease, arm around her, eventually there will be another moment where time kind of pauses, and it will make sense to take the next step. If you aren't confident, if you are scared, that's ok, just trust that it will work, you have to be willing to push yourself out of your comfort zone. You got this
[–]putcoolusernamehere 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just wait for a silence in the convo when you’re in an isolated location and go for it. Really no way about it, you just have to go for it.
[–]Marcoscondit 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
😂
[–]gemini88mill 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
If you and her are having fun and there is some sexual tension in the air. Wait for a lull in the conversation and go for it.
[–]polarizingpotato 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
I have second thoughts in my head - where she might react in a way like “what are you doing??”
Especially if I’m not smooth with it lol
[–]housebird350 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
where she might react in a way like “what are you doing??”
Yea, see, when you do decide to act, you need to act with confidence. If you are timid its not sending the right message. Get close to her, look her in the eyes, glance at her lips, look back in her eyes and lean in for the kiss. If she acts weird and wants to know what you are doing just tell her you are into her and thought she felt the same and then DONT FREAK OUT, just play it cool go back to having fun and doing what you were doing, dont get your feelings hurt and start acting weird or apologizing, and more than likely she will come around.
If you just cant figure out how to do it then just ask her "Hey, I know this is crazy and all, but would you mind if I kiss you"? I prefer not to be that passive about it myself, but its better than letting another potentially romantic moment go by.
[–]gemini88mill 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
It might happen, but that's the risk you have to take. Rejection on a kiss is not as bad as you think just laugh it off, if you're on a confirmed date then she already knows you're interested.
[–]polarizingpotato -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yeah maybe it’s cause she’s a workmate 😂 But nothing corporate, just a bunch of 19-20 year olds
[–]gemini88mill 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Another bit of advice, my wife and I met at a club, i leaned in for the kiss and "rude" was playing. She leaned back and i just pointed to the air and said "why you gotta be so rude".
All approaches are cringe, unless they work, then it's a cute story.
[–]appmanga 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If she's asks what you're doing, tell her: "I'm trying my best to... whether it's hug her, kiss her, hold her. DON'T say something as crass as "...get in your pants" if you don't have that kind of understanding.
What do you think she would do if she asked you "What are you doing?" and you simply, gently said "I'm trying my best to hold you, so come here"? As someone else said, act with confidence. Not arrogance. Make it seems like you're asking her to dance, except you're not asking. You're making an invitation, but you're taking for granted the answer will be "yes". Once you can establish touch, you can establish trust, and once she trusts you, she'll do intimate things with you.
I don't know how old you are, and I don't want to throw too much at you that might confuse you, but the one thing I try to make clear to guys is trust and honesty aren't the same thing, so her trusting you has nothing to do with honesty.
[–]CompetitionFair7686 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Do the palm reading trick, basically you tell her that you become really good at future reading and that you are gonna read her palm, to see what kind of person she is or what her future life will look like,… Obviously you are gonna make it up.
You start caressing the likes of her palm, her fingers while you say random predictions about her and her personality, tell her:
that this line indicates she is smart and has a bright future ahead of her, this line shows you are kinda shy at first, but really funny once people get to know you.
this other line suggests she is a really empathetic person that cares deeply for others, and has a good heart.
And then escalate sexually but in a teasing way, by saying:
If she lets herself still be touched by you after saying this stuff, it’s a good sign that she is enjoying it and is ready to be kissed.
“You know your skin is so soft, i love it how it feels, and rd making me kinda nervous, specially because you are so different from other girls…”
If she still lets you touch her while you say this go for a kiss…. Basically touching her like that combined with your flirting, builds anticipation for a kiss, you are elevating the temperature, and if she lets you touch her, then you just have to go for it.
[–]Extra-Boysenberry 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sounds like a fun time. However, you had a girl in your house watching Netflix on the bed and didn’t make a move? If you don’t make a move, she’ll lose interest and consider you a friend!
[–]WhiteningMcClean 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I was in a similar situation recently. Got drunk and went into "best friend" mode with this chick and completely killed any chance to set the mood.
If you're like me and seduction isn't your default mode, you've gotta actively change up your approach. Make her laugh. Don't give serious answers to her questions. Make innuendos (nothing too graphic.) Tease her. Find an opportunity to put your hand on her shoulder if you two are laughing, you're reassuring her about something, encouraging her in some way etc.
Making a move is something you have to work up to.
[–]mightymite88 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ask for consent
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