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[–]hardpaint3 20 points21 points22 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Bust a nut and then think about it
[–]28carslater 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
This is the best advice. The older I get the less I want to travel for p.
[–]NoDatabase1552 4 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
There are free or low-cost transportation services for senior citizens.
[–]28carslater 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not quite that old yet ;)
[–]Mexilorian 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Not unless you think the drive is not worth it? She better be worth it.
[–]takko24 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Happy cakeday!
[–]Zebrahead033 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
30 doesn't sound crazy. If you can get there in less than a hour it's not bad.
I often look for women in nearby cities. Make a weekend of it and have a mini road trip. Very hit or miss though. A lot of flakes so you have to have multiples lined up.
[–]qurfy 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Do you try to set the date near her? If so, how do you make that work? I'm not familiar with her area and have always only bothered with girls near me
[–]RProgrammerMan 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
For social events I think anything under an hour is worth doing. If longer it should be an all day thing, like going to the beach.
[–]Zebrahead033 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I would do something halfway. But if near her is the only option then so be it
[–]ModeratorElbynerual 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
LOVE KNOWS NO BOUNDS
[–]xzpw 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Varies. I married a woman who started out living about an hour away from where I was (no traffic - with traffic much longer). We mostly saw each other on weekends and spent the weekend together or I’d drive down to her area and we’d hangout for the whole day.
So, no, 30 miles is not too far. I’m actually looking for women in an area that is about 30 miles from where I am now too.
It’s not ideal but it’s not that big of a deal. Now if that 30 miles is a 3 hour trip both ways - that’s rough.
[–]qurfy 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I'm used to scheduling dates at places I know near me. How do you go about scheduling something near her? Or did you start with her coming to you?
[–]xzpw 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She liked me a lot and lived in a desert as far as “dating” things to do mostly exist. So she came to me a lot or we’d meet up at my place and go somewhere else.
But basically my answer for you is that it all works. I’d suggest meeting somewhere between the two of you if you can but you don’t have to. Just do what feels right.
[–]ksmith11011 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link
I have a car and a motorcycle that I love taking on all day trips. 30 miles might as well be down the street.
The limit for me would probably be 2 hours. 1 hour would be just perfect especially if she lived someplace pretty.
As far as setting up dates goes, usually it’s best if she comes to me first. I think it sends major desperation vibes if you’re willing to travel an hour to go see her too early into things. This is not my opinion, that’s just what I’ve observed.
After sleeping together once or twice it usually ends up that I am always going to see her. But in the beginning they’ve always set up dates in my location. I think they prefer that for vetting purposes as well.
So def set the date near me? It's probably a 40 min drive depending on time of day
[–]ksmith11011 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I mean you’re texting her right? What is she saying she wants to do? It’s ok to ask her.
[–]norwegiandoggo 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Depends on what other options you have. If this is your only option then it's probably better than nothing. But if you have equally good options closer by, then I don't think it makes sense.
[–]cass2769 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Depends where you live. 30 miles in a rural area is nothing but 30 miles in a city is big.
If you decide to meet up with someone try to find a middle spot for the first date. After that you can go to her neighborhood and then she can come to yours.
[–]max_insa 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If you don't have options that are closer from you, I'd recommend you solve that problem instead.
Is your profile bad? Do you live in a rural buttfuck nowhere place? Then get better photos and move to the bigger city.
[–]Commercial_Habit_923 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I guess it depends how much you want it. But in my experience the farther she is, the less she may want to go out with you.
Risk to reward ratio is not great if shes 45 minutes away. If she’s within 30 minutes I’ll give it a shot
[–]Smitten_Squire 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Honestly over 20 miles is to far imo
[–]that1guysittingthere 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Depends on gas prices
[–]Yamodo 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not worth petrol prices s as of now
[–]ngyuhnang 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I live in a bigger city so around 30 minutes one way is the best I can offer, unless I am going to the downtown area, which is around 25~50 minutes depends on the traffic. I always make the girl take the train and come to my city, and I will drive to the station for 10 minutes to pick her up and hang out, and then go back to my place if it goes well (if they are willing to come to my city to see me they are interested enough, I hate wasting my time).
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