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PondScum420 · 2022-03-06T04:12:34+00:00

My two cents: 1) no sex is better than bad sex 2) Sex seems like a bigger deal when you’re not having much of it 3) sex doesn’t fix your problems, it just gratifies the ego temporarily

Hurtlock3r · 2022-03-06T02:10:44+00:00

it’s fun for a while but gets boring and time consuming. It’s better to work on yourself and put time in relationships that you think can go somewhere

wayoflifeforme · 2022-03-06T03:01:22+00:00

You’re not missing out on much let me list the pros and cons and you can make the decision based on your own views.

Pros:

sex is reaffirming for your ego
sex feels good (had to put that there)
the power you feel having courted a girl or some drunk thot at the bar is an ego boost
you build social skills by putting yourself out there (although I know weird ig/Facebook dm man whores who are anti social irl)
you have cool stories to tell your friends for years to come

Cons:

sex is usually trash I’m of the opinion that good sex takes time to build with somebody not just banging any random thot
if you’re an idiot like me and forget to wear protection it’s the scariest moments of your life for the next two weeks
stds aren’t fun but are relatively easily taken care of.. but still.
being that guy for so long you build your identity around being a player and it’s hard to let go of later on in life
when you are in that game so long you’re a slave to lust and it becomes a trap. Like any other master it can end up controlling you and getting you into so many fucked up situations lol
you can spend that time partying and drinking doing something productive and not getting fat off of alcohol

I’m missing so much because I’m kinda tired but the main point is this: you’re not missing out on that much there’s much more Better things to focus on. Like sure focus on bein attracive but not because you wanna get laid but because it usually leads toward a better life and achieving your dreams.

2022-03-06T04:19:33+00:00

Yeah ONS or FWB can be a lot of fun. But the best sex is with a long term partner with whom you have great communication with regarding sex/intimacy. Sooo much better/satisfying than ONS.

PondScum420 · 2022-03-06T04:15:48+00:00

That part about building your identity around being a player is so true. I’m thirty now and having a bit of an identity crisis since I’m not whoring like I used to.

anoyingprophet · 2022-03-06T05:38:42+00:00

It’s really a nice self esteem boost the first time you realize you’re attractive enough to juggle a few girls at once. But after a point, it’s just overwhelming. You realize you’d rather have one meaningful connection and even start to miss the days when you didn’t care about getting laid entirely. I’m actually burnt out from this stuff rn. The second half of 2021 I was dating new girls all the time. I went from a guy who had only been in a couple relationships in the past 6 yrs, to a guy that had a 4 girl rotation and was on all apps apps and cold approaching at the same time. I started to miss the days where all I did with my free time was hit the gym and watching movies past midnight. But I believe this isn’t the case for everyone. I know guys that have to have a rotation of girls if they’re single. Some of my friends can’t go without getting laid for 2 weeks. I now know that’s not me, but I do believe that every man needs to at some point in his life have a hoe phase. For me it was 24-25 yrs old. I’m not turning 26 in a month and really just wanna find myself. If I run into some cool girls on the way that’s a bonus, but it’s not something I care for if that doesn’t even happen.

jj1of62003 · 2022-03-06T03:46:34+00:00

It really depends on what you are looking for. If you aren’t in the head space or don’t want a monogamous relationship then yeah being a manwhore is a lot of fun as long as your partners understand that is what this is about. If you are a serial monogamist and like the connection of being in a committed relationship then you aren’t missing out on anything

mightymite88 · 2022-03-06T02:36:47+00:00

Depends on your interests. It's not for me, but I also dont like football. Some people love football and being a fuckboi, all good. Follow your passion

Lord_Augastus · 2022-03-06T09:33:35+00:00

For me it isnt, at some point, I became bored of just doing the same things to different girls, hit and miss, i leave unsatisfied, throughts start trailing of during sex, feelings become less than fulfilling. Many women just expect me to give it my all, but they are content to just lie there. Chats, jokes, mid sex transitions become just by the numbers. Sometimes I meet a good lay, but far and few in between it was just being undervalued as a person, physicality became the compliment goto by the girls as they dont/cant know the deeper person so conversations feel more like small talk rather than sharing and caring.

So I quit, deleted the apps, started choosing to talk tl girls based on personality over looks, and eventually found someone that i consider dating. Point is, the game helped me play my cards right with the one i liked, the rest were just steps there. I got bored, its not what it is cracked out to be. But then again, its like wanting something you cant have, the allure of the unattained is better than having something and not appriciating it. Grow as self, go after what you want, dont hide behind masks to get the things you cant have, you can do it without.

nikkuh_with_long_pp · 2022-03-06T03:15:02+00:00

If you’re taking all of the women out for a date before you DDO (drop d*ck off) it gets expensive.. But def take the time to curate a all-star worthy starting 5 roster for a little bit to confirm yourself that you don’t like it. In the process of cutting them all off except the one I actually like because I realized it’s not my style.

AngeloMacon · 2022-03-06T04:34:17+00:00

If it was a binary choice between being lonely virgin, then it's awesome. But most get bored or burned out quickly. Something in the middle is preferable after you sowed the oats so to speak.

phinkz2 · 2022-03-06T03:01:02+00:00

you don't seem to have bad intentions, and my opinion may be completely wrong, but I feel like this is objectifying women a little bit.

from my experience men that call them themselves players or talk about body count are looking for self validation, and tend to be on the manipulative side. I know that I would have a very bad first impression of someone if one of the first things I learn about them is that they are a "player" (or the word equivalent in my language or yours).

CH3F_J · 2022-03-06T15:33:35+00:00

Imagine paying for hookers, probably not going to be splendid

Now think about if u had the most attractive girl in ur school, not only based on looks ( but definitely a 9) , personality, status, potential. A girl any guy in the school would do anything to have. The perfect girl, and the only person she can think about is you, all she wants is you, you’re so good looking, so charming, ur all she thinks about, u blow her back out for a couple weeks, then u move on to the next perfect girl, who inevitably only wants you.

It’s for people with no real self worth, it’s hurtful, it’s weird to even be like that in the first place, it’s someone who’s emotionally traumatized, literally sociopaths.

I’m not like that but one of my best friends had a hit list 200+ by the time he got out college and all were drop dead gorgeous girls I asked him once “ how do you do itJordan ?” And he said “ it’s easy really, just manipulate them, they’re just girls “ and I thought yep, that’s not who I wanna be 😂 bro wtf? There’s no dignity in that, it’s literally pathetic

Best thing to do is find that girl u connect with deep down and have all the great sex u could imagine all the time.

Remember being a kid, wanting to be able to drive ur own car, say cuss words, “ imma smoke cigarettes “ and then u grow up and ur like man this shits lame asf

Same thing, I’m sure it’s great, he loves it’s, personally I’ll pass that guy banged his cousin once anyway, before he knew but still

ppl_n_r_neighborhood · 2022-03-07T00:30:15+00:00

That really depends on what kind of relationship you need. My husband is more of a demisexual person, meaning he needs a relationship with someone to feel comfortable having sex with them. I don’t need a relationship to feel sexual attraction/engage in sex, but it feels better when I do have one. For him, having sex with someone he doesn’t care about/know well would be worse than not having it at all.

So that’s all relative, and you don’t need to worry about where you fit with someone else’s standards. Just figure out what types of relationships you like, and do that. Safely. With condoms lol.

Chronotaru · 2022-03-06T13:21:23+00:00

The happiest people I know had terrible luck with women, were not amazingly hot and never notched up many notches on their bedpost, yet one day met one person who also wasn't that hot but they liked each other, and that was that.

I've had over 20 sexual partners over all types, but now I'm 42 and lonely and nobody is left.

You're not missing out.

bittr_n_swt · 2022-03-06T03:50:13+00:00

Yeah it’s fun for a short while, but it is time consuming and some girls won’t always do what you like. A bit of performance anxiety can also creep in

I much prefer having a gf now that I’m older but less than 25? No need to commit so early

Sardrakal · 2022-03-06T07:44:40+00:00

0/10 would not bang again

Live-Ad-6309 · 2022-03-06T12:36:25+00:00

It has its advantages. But it ultimately depends on your personality.

You get to explore your taste, and experiment. So you know exactly what you like and what works for you when you decide to settle down
You end up with a better selection of women to choose from because of social proof and having refined game.
You don't have to jack off.
You don't end up desperate

But you also lack the sort of connection and fulfillment only a committed relationship gives you. Also, sex in a relationship is usually better than hookups.

Some guys are perfectly happy with mediocre emotionless sex. Others like to have more connection and more experience with the partner.

NineteenAD9 · 2022-03-06T12:48:21+00:00

You can't pretend to be a player, and you can't pretend to be monogamous. Eventually, you'll settle into who you really are.

If you're not a player, don't try to be one.

2022-03-06T22:52:24+00:00

Sometimes I wish I had the temperament to be a player, so I can become the type of man that many women lust after. Sometimes, I worry that since I'm not the player type that a lot of ladies lust after, that when I do get a woman in my life, that she feels that she's just settling with me and not really wanted to be with me.

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