Need advice on sex and regret

DickBillyJackson · 2022-01-23T13:57:06+00:00

Man, if you don’t want to do it don’t do it. You’re going to be nervous as hell and that might just be the problem. You guys aren’t going to be comfortable because neither of you know what you’re doing yet. I lost mine to a friend’s older sister who I’m still in contact with 17 years later. We’ve joked about how awkward it was. No one’s first time is actually “mind blowing” because it’s the first time and unless you’re a sex prodigy you’re not going to be good at it. So if you want to, do it. If you don’t, tell her you aren’t comfortable with it.

And fuck what your friends think. It’s your penis, not theirs.

Granted, my friend’s sister and I hooked up again later in life and it was a different story completely. I walked away with bragging rights and she found out vaginal orgasms were real(I got lucky and hit the angle just right.)

sh1ftyswar · 2022-01-23T15:30:25+00:00

Just tell her your not ready

MikeAlphaGolf · 2022-01-23T11:12:25+00:00

Dude you’re 18. Any hole is a goal.

rqmak · 2022-01-23T18:51:24+00:00

I think your first sex should be with a girl you love and feel like you want to spend the rest of your life with her. Just sounds right to me, so imma stick to this

SummerEarly · 2022-01-23T20:53:10+00:00

Yeah if you’re not attracted to them or have some sort of connection never do it. That simple.

what_it_do_bby · 2022-01-23T13:18:19+00:00

Sounds like you’re already overthinking it, usually it never ends well. Also, don’t listen to the people in this sub saying a “hole is a goal” have standards and be true to yourself. There’s nothing worse than fuckin some chick you don’t have a genuine desire for.

panthus1 · 2022-01-23T15:40:44+00:00

Well you can be direct to her, just tell her that you only in it for the experience and not for something more.

If you are concerned about the people in common text her in whatsapp or some other app and screenshot the discussion for the proof if things go south.

Honesty is always appreciated by many.

kylomorales · 2022-01-23T23:07:15+00:00

Don't just do it for the sakes of doing it. Especially when you don't find her that desirable. If she finds a that out she'll feel very used and betrayed and honestly it would be kinda messed up.

It's perfectly for you to change your mind and say "actually I don't think I want to go through with this". You don't even have to give a reason because that's how consent works. No one will judge you. No one will think less of you. You don't need to accelerate your way to sex it's not the be all and end all of life

MylesHD2 · 2022-01-23T12:14:10+00:00

Your first time is weird and you won’t amaze her so don’t think about it too much

BigEyesBushyTail · 2022-01-23T22:11:05+00:00

Ok seriously? You're 18. This is the time when it's up to you to start figuring out what you're into or not. Despite other advice you've gotten on this post, I completely disagree that "any hole is a hole" and "it's all worth it for your personal experience". The holes are all connected to humans, who probably also want feedback the same as you do. Your partner is likely experiencing the same or similar feelings as you are. The best advice I could think to give, as an extremely sexual woman, is just don't do it if you're not into it. If you're not totally into the other person, just be honest before it gets to that point. Would it be more satisfying to have the easy sexual gratification as well? Of course. But how are you a better overall human and lover as you get older? I'll tell you. Just don't do it if you're not completely into that person. But if you're already in that situation, be completely honest. That's the only way.

slash03 · 2022-01-23T16:28:32+00:00

I’m handicapped and in my middle 60s. I’ve had an amazing life, my one regret is not sleeping with every Woman that wanted me . Women are wonderful and beautiful things, be kind and caring and giving , Hold her in your arms and tell her your problems and she will have the right answer.

Gearz557 · 2022-01-23T15:40:49+00:00

If you don’t want it then don’t. Personally If I could live my life over again, I’d just get it over with. I was way too anxious about sex due to my virginity as I crept into my 20s. Put it on a huge pedestal waiting for the perfect one and ended up losing it to a friend while drunk lol. Don’t regret it. Anxiety was gone immediately after.

Have had some (and currently in)amazing relationships since and my anxiety wasn’t there to prevent them from forming (as it had when I was younger)

RoughCombination1 · 2022-01-23T11:04:12+00:00

Don’t be so picky once you finally get it you won’t mind railing an ugly one once and awhile. So basically you should smash this chick. You’ll be amazed the not so pretty ones usually have more passion and are more open.

Fedetex · 2022-01-23T15:04:10+00:00

Maybe fuck her and play it cool, if you like it do it again. Some notes though

If she is into you and gets hung up on you, I mean you only fucked her once is not like you owe her anything. But then again you are 18 and she could get hurt (at this age most people are not mature enough for sexual relationships) so put it on the table first, that you only want sex.

Another thing. If you are worried about what your friend may say then you are definitely not ready for sex. Just own you thing man

MattPruga · 2022-01-23T12:09:57+00:00

you will regret it after a few days if you rejected her, take this chance to learn new stuff

sheefMoses · 2022-01-23T12:46:24+00:00

Is she that bad? Maybe she can become very attractive in the future. I lost a lot of sex opportunities just because what others think in my group of friends. Today I’ve 23 and my circle of friends is different… so my advice is don’t give a fck about what others think. If you want to, do it.

oktwonight · 2022-01-23T14:56:32+00:00

Maybe she’s just mercy fucking you Maybe it’s a bet she has Maybe it’s a dare Maybe she’s the wildest thing you’ll ever have Maybe if you don’t you’ll ruin her for the next guy

FidelCatto92 · 2022-01-23T11:36:31+00:00

Dude any experience you have us a good thing, it will only make you learn and improve your sex...its better to fuck up with this one than a 10/10

Sensitive-Permit-877 · 2022-01-23T17:46:24+00:00

This comes down to how you feel about YOUR morals and upbringing. Some guys choose abundance some want quality only. Thats a choice you need to make and live with. So maybe hang with her and she might become attractive to you. Dont give her all your time but give her some open time you have. Coffee whatever. If its not feeling it thats cool. She will respect you way more ( she wont say it ) if you let her down from hanging then if you bang her and dump her. How would you feel if a chick banged you and then told you nah not feeling it. Plus she will tell her friends we hung out but he said no not feeling it. You will have much respect. Either choice you make thats up to you

SomebodyToldMe2 · 2022-01-23T18:51:18+00:00

Why do you care what other people think? I doubt you’ll talk to any of these people after high school anyways

willgo-waggins · 2022-01-24T01:15:18+00:00

You’re 18.

Every experience is helpful at this point and you might find that she is a sex goddess behind the bedroom door and you get taught a lot.

Go have fun and don’t worry so much. You’ve got a whole lifetime to regret bad decisions and you likely won’t remember this one in ten years other than a vague recollection.

LeadPrevenger · 2022-01-24T02:51:00+00:00

Gots to see it through my boy

b_a_d_r0b0t · 2022-01-24T03:00:12+00:00

Pump and dump

Shadow__Account · 2022-01-24T08:59:45+00:00

Figure out if you are not just having anxiety about the whole thing, if you really don’t desire her don’t feel obliged to have sex just tell her you don’t think it’s a good idea and you rather stay friends, but again make sure it’s not just anxiety for what other people might think or whatever other reason

Czekraft · 2022-01-25T15:49:05+00:00

It’s called consent. Both parties give it. No point pressuring yourself to have sex with someone youre not attracted to.

Title	Need advice on sex and regret
Author	Kidamni
Upvotes	28
Comments	51
Date	January 23, 2022 10:57 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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