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homelessfish22 · 2021-12-19T07:08:25+00:00

When I was around your age(or not far off it) I didn’t have a single clue what to say either.

The reality is, in order to learn how to conversate with girls, you are going to have to conversation with them. Regularly. At first it is incredibly nerve wracking because everything is new and uncomfortable. But there are no shortcuts. Sure, watching YouTube videos on how to talk to girls will help equip you a little bit, but when a real conversation happens most of that goes out the window.

There’s no shortcuts at learning how to talk to women. You are going to make a clown out of yourself until you learn what to do, which comes with real life experience and nothing else. Alcohol helps a lot.

H8beingmale · 2021-12-19T11:34:50+00:00

look into “free association” its about being able to take things from your environment, including things people say to you, and being able to expand and relate to them. every time you do almost anything, try to pick things out of your environment and relate to it.

soon, even if you and the girl aren’t much alike, or you don’t feel like you have a lot to talk about, you’ll have a jumping off point for any conversation.

when you freely associate, try to get deeper than small talk as soon as possible. take this scenario:

a song comes on. “i love this song!” y’all go dance. you come back after the dance.

you ask who the singer is, she tells you. ask her when the first time she heard it was. ask her how she was feeling when she heard it.

then tell her about one of your favorite songs and why you love it so much.

girls, much more than guys, freely associate in normal conversation. they can talk on the phone for hours about a range of different topics and be completely absorbed by what they’re talking about. guys don’t get as much practice.

when we hang out with friends, there’s almost always a pretense, and the convos may or may not get that deep. i’ll see a guy for 3 months on the street every day, and we might call each other friends even though we know little to nothing about each other.

talk to many many girls, and not just the ones you’re super attracted to. the more girls you talk to, the more you see that they’re all “the same” (and by same I mean they’re all regular people just like you).
always remember that “seduction” is not something you turn on and off. it’s an ever evolving mindset.

always be looking for those IOIs, even when you’re with people you arent trying to have sex with. always be processing elements of your surroundings to freely associate off of.

if you practice these skills every day, your skills in this area will greatly improve.

Electrical_Ad1631 · 2021-12-19T10:45:49+00:00

Hey so as a woman even if I met a guy and wanted to hook up with them I would not suggest my place if I didn't know them. If they turn out to be weird or we just don't click it's easier for me to just leave than to have to kick them out. You said you don't have your own place..are you living with roommates or parents? If the goal is just to hook up I would be honest and say something like "I'm not looking for something serious"/" I don't have my own place, can we go to yours" (Also I don't know what your area is like but where I live all the clubs are on one block and everything closes at the same time except for like a diner). If the goal is to get to know them/date then I would start with a compliment (nothing that sexualizes their body like "you have a nice ass") for example "I like your shoes/hairstyle/hair colour"/ "your eyeshadow really makes your eyes pop"/"I like your style". You can ask questions based on the compliment like if you complimented their lipstick/eyeliner/eyeshadow then you could ask how long did it take and go from there.

You gotta just keep it simple, be yourself, and be honest about what you want though.

Leviathansplunge · 2021-12-20T02:19:37+00:00

If u don't know what to say, say exactly that, literally whatever is on your mind, it helps trigger flow state. "I don't know what to say, we are two very attractive people and the mutual radienence is giving me the yips." If the girl was interested in you enough to dance or talk in the first place, even if what u say is corney as hell or you feel awkward she will probably just laugh with you and help u keep the convo going., awkwardness is part of the process, it only gets guys rejected if the girl wasn't really interested in the first place.

With that said, if she was already interested she won't judge u in the way that is easy to think society in general will judge you for stuff like not having your own place, just communicate, tell her you want to spend time with her and the "need to knows" about your living situation.

Count_Slime · 2021-12-19T11:27:27+00:00

Taking Notes xoxo

shaggy2gay · 2021-12-19T07:47:00+00:00

It's not what you say, it's the emotion behind what you say and how it fits into a broader context of talking like a guy who knows how to communicate with women / people in general.

Pulling to hers: set up dates close to her place. If you're on top of shit and she's a certain type, she might just invite you directly. Don't directly invite yourself.

At end of date, walk her to her door and ask to use her bathroom. She'll probably let you, and once you're in her place things can happen.

Getting booze at a liquor store is a good method as well. Once it's purchased, the options are to drink it somewhere public or at hers

5_7pickup · 2021-12-19T11:09:34+00:00

Refer to my field reports

xSmashBrosNotHoes · 2021-12-19T15:25:58+00:00

You must be fairly attractive then if women were doing all of the work to be with you despite your social skills being poor.

Because you're attractive (or at least you were in junior high), your looks were enough to compensate for your poor social skills. Where if you were average or below average looking, you would have been forced to work on your conversational skills if you wanted to get anywhere with women.

chagis100 · 2021-12-19T17:49:08+00:00

Here's a crazy take: talk to women like you would talk to anyone else. Go into conversations with the objective of making a new friend, and the rest will fall into place.

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-12-19T07:48:24+00:00

Talk something dirty in their ear.

CenaSmackDown · 2021-12-19T19:03:02+00:00

You can get a cheap hotel (or expensive depending on the girl). Most girls that age are ok with you living with your parents still, but you should be actively trying to fix that. I'd say a lot of chicks are also ok with sex in the back of your car.

random_af_guy · 2021-12-19T16:39:41+00:00

I've found it's best to not worry about what I say and instead listen to what they say.

I listen, give advice, continue listening....

Basically, they want a daddy.

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