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zagtec · 2021-12-13T01:00:46+00:00

If I was you in that particular situation, I'd just be open about it. I am at the mall b/c I want to meet people and overcome my social anxiety taking to girls. There's nothing wrong with that. Just do it with confidence and no one bats an eye.

Canadian-Seductioner · 2021-12-12T23:47:51+00:00

It's a legitimate fear to have. Maybe you should change up your daygaming locations to avoid being so obvious about it. I personally believe daygaming should be done in moderation and usually only as an aside to something else that you're already doing anyway.

DoomKnight45 · 2021-12-13T11:25:15+00:00

Its all in your head bro. Next time just open the two girls at the kiosk, tell them you live nearby or something and that you come here often. Who cares dude, whatever you say just say it with confidence and conviction and nobody will give a toss. If you make a big deal out of it, then people will sense that and thats when you start to get labelled a creep

Keezymac34 · 2021-12-12T23:32:06+00:00

Its irrational because she probably knows but what can she do about it,nothing. I have the same irrational fear when day gaming at college but you have to realize people are so focus on themselves they really dont care about what you do as long as its legal which cold approach is.

Bsquared9088reddit · 2021-12-13T15:27:26+00:00

At university we used to have a medical school where all the hot doctors would study.

Me and a group of 5 friends went there 3 days a week to approach girls

We got a reputation

It was fun. Hilarious and everybody knew who we were and they were jealous of how much fun we had Just being loud, laughing and enjoying ourselves

You’ve got nothing to worry about. Chill.

Keep going

christopherames · 2021-12-13T22:13:13+00:00

I’m sorry. I thought this was a seduction subreddit. I guess instead it’s a place to call guys trying to develop day game weirdos, desperate, etc. Good for you for approaching 75+ women, OP. I would try to just change up the venue if possible.

drgreen987 · 2021-12-13T19:35:44+00:00

Great job working over your anxiety and fears. Im going to give you advice, dont take it the wrong way.

You shouldnt invest so much of your time cold approaching, invest in developing knowledge and skills that’ll make you a winner in life ie books, finance, fitness, fashion and positive outlook
Approach a cute girl when you run errands, ie when going grocery shopping, mall, library etc. You are being that creepy guy hitting on girls, you come off as a loser who has nothing better to do but wants pussy, not a way to go about it. Instead allow it to be organic, you see a cute girl anywhere approach within 5 seconds; deep breath in and go for it. Once you start a convo you forget about your nervousness
Focus on building a social circle, start a convo with anyone and everyone. A great speaker/conversationalist makes a great seducer. Often times, girls become so attracted to be after they witness my interaction with others, mannerism, attitude, respect, articulation

Hope these points guide you in the right direction

frp33 · 2021-12-13T15:16:08+00:00

I'd say your approaches should pretend to be in a friendly way, including groups, and make it as something natural. If you go n say "you look cute" or "I like you" the chance of being perceived as a weirdo is much higher. It can work, of course, but everything works at the end if you keep trying, the real question is what it is the most efficient way to create attraction while approaching, and I strongly believe it's trough friendly interactions.

Obviously reputation is a thing, be over there approaching girls will give a needy and "cheap" impression of you, so I think the best way to get girls is to be friendly with fucking everyone. Making male friends can be really useful since once u know someone in the group it's gonna be much easier to get to the girls in a natural way, and letting girls see you socializing will make u seem "that friendly guy" and not that desperate or pervert guy. At the same time, having friends everywhere will probably show a higher status by itself.

Change locations if possible, and try not to seem too direct. You weren't looking for it, it just happened, ok?

RPslimjim · 2021-12-13T19:45:18+00:00

You have to be cognizant of your surroundings in the future. If you frequent the mall, use that to your advantage. Make friends with the girls at the kiosk. Buy them a drink or lunch. Just be friendly. Tell them you’re just trying to meet people and get over social anxiety. It’s all how you spin it. Good luck.

2021-12-13T20:35:01+00:00

You have to ruthless and be shameless, you have something to offer to women. To get better with women you have to approach them no way around it. The mall is great high volume warm in the winter time. But like others said change the locations. If I was you I’d hit the mall a day out of the weekend and a day out of the weekday. Nobody cares what you’re doing anyway I do the same thing security guards don’t give a fuck. Many people walk around in the mall to look around warm up etc etc. She’s just a female at the kiosk you’re good

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-12-13T06:44:30+00:00

Think about how ducking creepy and weird it is to go out for the purpose of harassing girls at a mall all day. Do you think that's how normal guys get laid? Day game means going about your day, doing whatever you have to be doing with purpose and if you see a woman you want to meet you go over and talk to her. It doesn't mean spending all day at a place harassing women.

Firegeek79 · 2021-12-13T17:48:55+00:00

If your worried about getting a reputation as a creeper it may be because deep down you understand how this is exactly like being a creeper?

Imaginary_Bear_2710 · 2021-12-14T04:36:24+00:00

Just keep it 100 with the girls at the kiosk. Swing it in your favor.

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