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blck_mambaa · 2021-11-25T21:12:05+00:00

Talk to her more then and find out.

blaze_eternal · 2021-11-25T21:32:14+00:00

Don't assume she was flirting with you, but in case she was you want to give her an opportunity to clarify.

Strike up brief casual conversations with her the next few time you see her.

If she pulls away, drop it and move on.

But if she warms to you over time, move in for the "kill".

Good luck.

TotallyNuts0 · 2021-11-25T21:13:14+00:00

Usually girls don't initiate contact with guys at the gym unless they are somewhat interested so yes I'd say she may have been flirting. Esp if there were other people closer to her who could have helped her.

gangoni · 2021-11-25T23:34:41+00:00

Make a move, be decisive and bold.

you’ve already got competition in other guys in the gym.

theyeetingbro · 2021-11-26T05:33:29+00:00

It's a good sign. Strike up a conversation every time you see her but keep it simple like you're talking to a gym partner. Ask about her workout, does she follow a plan, any specific goals she is chasing physique, strength, general fitness etc. Then tell her about your own goals. You can ask what days she usually trains. This will come in handy.

If you all still vibing for next couple days, don't wait too long to sneakily say at the end of the convo 'that's awesome, we should train together this <insert common day>'. Try and keep this day the next possible common workout day even the day after, if timing suits. If she's receptive and eager get her contact and just leave it at that.

Finish your damn workout, then if she's still there say bye or afterwards text your name and say something along the lines 'Hey this is xx from the gym. Catch you on <whichever day>'.

Now it's upto you to steer the interaction. I'd be a little cautious and not too touchy feely in the gym, maybe because I take interest in teaching others but keep it fun. Motivating words go a long way when people are busting their ass at the gym. Then you all can go grab and bite and make plans to hang out next outside of the gym. By this time you'll know if she is genuinely interested or just fucking around and it costed you almost nothing.

Tip: try to set the workout time earlier in the morning so it's easier to convince to go grab a bite, walk around and have a coffee. It extends the interaction by a fair few hours and usually people are buzzing and happy after a good workout. Go get her!

Mmm91for · 2021-11-25T22:30:06+00:00

Girls will never initiate contact with guys at the gym unless they find them attractive. Her interest in you is high. Next time you see her, just say what’s up and talk to her as if you would talk to any other guy. Ask her if she wants to workout with you. This will be the best chance you get to break the touch barrier. After the work out ask her what her plans are for the weekend.. she doesn’t have any.. “nice let’s go to…”. And then you smash.

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-11-25T21:12:04+00:00

The gym is the new club. Girls at work constantly talk about stalking guys at the gym and finding excuses to talk to them.

redeyerds · 2021-11-25T23:47:59+00:00

Ask her to spot you next time

2021-11-26T03:42:46+00:00

She asked you and that is a good thing. Say hello (her name) if you see her again. Keep it friendly. A build up of making a connection is a nice way to start.

dustycolt08 · 2021-11-26T04:37:39+00:00

Not necessarily. You will need to talk to her more to find out. I've had many girls come up to me in the gym. They don't always do so out of interest, they may just find you the most approachable(ie: the least intimidating). However, the fact that she finds you approachable is a good sign. Move forward, my guy.

Mario-94 · 2021-11-26T16:54:50+00:00

It's hard to say if she was flirting with the given information. I wouldn't assume it. She initiated so theres some level of approachability or comfort towards you but it could also mean nothing.

Is she giving constant eye contact, smiling, working out near you in the gym? That would be more flirtatious. As of now don't assume that, just talk to her. You already broke the ice with an introduction so the next time you see her just say what's up, what are you working on today? and let the convo flow LIGHTLY and casually and you'll definitely pick up the signs.

What you definitely DON'T want to do is be overly flirty too fast and risk coming off creepy or thirsty. She's at your gym and it'll be awkward for the both of you to keep seeing each other there daily and if she's friends with other members she'll definitely mention you to them. Point is dont overthink it just talk to her

Mrcopeland25 · 2021-11-26T01:25:13+00:00

In reality she just asked you to help her with a task. That’s all. But use that as an opportunity to get to know her a bit. Say hi to her when you pass her or see her, but don’t go out of your way. Women st gyms start to trust guys once you talk to them and they see you in there for about two weeks consistently. Be more social with everyone in there and then talking to her seems less threatening. You got this

Opposite-Ad9574 · 2021-11-26T05:59:34+00:00

“No way , that sucks. I hate when that happens. When I was a kid I remember when I couldn’t reach…. “<- proceed to share a memory when you couldn’t reach something and how you felt. Now you’re creating a connection

Equivalent_Ad7389 · 2021-11-26T10:25:25+00:00

Just say "this is totally random, but you're cute, I'm thinking chuckie cheese for our date later."

The only way to get the hot girl is show her you're okay with tension and rejection.

Never hide your intentions that's what nice guys do. Instead be upfront. It's all about that body language. Lower your voice tonality, make strong eye contact, slow your words down. Repeat it to yourself it'll sound sexy as fuck and women love being desired by a confident dude.

learnbyrepetition · 2021-11-26T12:45:43+00:00

Yes, you are overthinking the situation. In my opinion, in virtually every case like this the best thing is to assume she is flirting with/attracted to you. Worst case scenario, she isn’t. Easier said than done but I think it’s the best way to think about it.

denali_HD2020 · 2021-11-25T23:14:03+00:00

I would of followed up with, "You look great, how long have you been working out?" "Awesome, what's your goal?" "Hey, I got to go, but I would love to keep talking, what's your number?"

whotfiswho_ · 2021-11-26T04:57:07+00:00

I wouldn’t call it flirting, but there was a sense of familiarity that made her reach out to you instead of everyone else, so you were definitely on her radar.

You got your foot in the door. Time to step on in!

-applesEQLoranges- · 2021-11-26T06:19:38+00:00

You're over thinking. Strike up a conversation amd see how it goes. The worst that will happen is she won't be interested and things will go back to how they are now. It's worth a try for sure. If she asked you over others, it may be because she felt more comfortable with you and that could be an open for you. Just don't be a creep and things will probably turn out pretty okay.

JZD614 · 2021-11-26T07:50:04+00:00

Yeah don’t assume…. You might have just looked easier to approach then the other people. But she already broke the ice and got each other’s names…. shoot your shot

Oriential-amg77 · 2021-11-26T12:17:00+00:00

Wish more women did this huh, gym culture isn't just a bro club thing

SummerEarly · 2021-11-26T14:12:05+00:00

I’d be careful because 9/10 times they are just being friendly. Nevertheless you should try and get to know her more next time. Maybe tease her and ask for her help on a machine next time.

Giaaa_ · 2021-11-26T18:15:08+00:00

I have to stand on the bench to reach the Lat pulldown clip so it could of just been she needed help. U know her name say hi such and such again and go from there. Talk normal. Don't go out of ur way but also if u see her then chat.. But definitely try. I've had numerous convos with people and wasn't brave enough to take it further.

laurahh1505 · 2021-11-26T18:52:00+00:00

She was probably flirting/wants to talk to you, at least. See if you can strike up a conversation again, and see how it goes!

watuphoss · 2021-11-26T19:06:58+00:00

I think I am overthinking this situation.

Me too.

Dear_Difficulty2767 · 2021-11-26T21:13:58+00:00

If you were done with your set it COULDVE just been that... But I wasn't there so idk. You should shoot ur shot

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