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Theunaticus · 2021-11-06T07:56:02+00:00

Meh, I kinda disagree with your opinion about confidence. In my opinion, confidence isn't thinking you are THE best, it's thinking you're YOUR best. Thinking you are the best is just plain arrogant. But knowing that you try your best in everything that you do, and being comfortable with the result, that is confidence.

Also, for other guys who want to know the difference between nice guy and kind guy, think of how you'll treat your mother or sister. You (should) treat them good without expecting sex(Alabama excluded), so treat other girls the same.

BluePsychosisDude2 · 2021-11-06T02:52:35+00:00

I’m not sure if I agree with the premise here, but think you’re on the right track. Women aren’t attracted to “bad boys” because they want something to fix. These “bad boys” just know what they want and go for it without hesitation.

Girls, or people in general, don’t want to hang out with people who put others before themselves - like you say, ulterior motives. It’s not genuine, usually. It also shows a lack of self-esteem, acting like a servant to others - which really isn’t a good look.

Trying your hardest at something, and genuinely trying, is what will make you stand out. It has little to do with being the ‘bad boy’ - that focuses on only one aspect/perspective of them. Why are they being the bad boy? Not just to be a jerk - being a jerk is a, possible, symptom of pursuing what you want and doing whatever it takes to get it.

Let’s say I want an A in a math class. Like really want it. Like god himself said, “if you get an A, I’ll give you a billion dollars”. I would bet you another billion dollars that I’ll try my hardest to get that A. The effort will be there, and that’s what we all want - effort. No one wants to hang out with someone half-assed and acts like a jerk all the time. They want to feed off your effort - to surround themselves with better people. If they think you’re on to something, they’ll be attracted to you - or your reputation of such.

McWhiters9511 · 2021-11-06T07:55:56+00:00

Be a decent human but keep yourself as #1.

Accomplished-Term854 · 2021-11-06T14:32:41+00:00

The fact of the matter is: we men ought to be nice guy with an edge or in other words: a good guy. A good guy is genuinely nice and has an edge, meaning he provides excitement. A man with a good heart and an edge, this activates the Niagara Falls in the lady‘s panties. And boy does she want him and he‘d better be ready

willgo-waggins · 2021-11-06T09:27:36+00:00

Yep.

That is what I am and yes I kill it and always have because this is the sweet spot that you should always shoot for.

Great post.

JACKSONATR · 2021-11-06T04:15:49+00:00

"Be a KIND guy. Give your hard-earned money away to women because they are women."

staypushin · 2021-11-06T00:01:40+00:00

Gentleman on dates, opens the door, pulls her chair out, walks her to the door after the date. This kindness you speak of is just nice guy stuff man.

The key is to be cordial but also be an asshole. If she makes a self depreciating joke the kind thing would be to disagree. But if she calls herself fat. Its a shittest. You pass such test by saying youre goddamned right. You're fat and fat in the right places. And thats what i like.

You can say nice things but being unpredictable with moments of assholeness makes the relationship less boring.

DanniManniDJT · 2021-11-06T10:07:54+00:00

I agree with you for some part. I think the problem with the nice guy is that the nice guy places himself below other people and he is nice so that the people ‘standing above him’, among which the women he wants, think he is nice. He developed a bad coping meganism for his low self esteem.

A kind guy, indeed, has a proper self esteem and is kind to others because he is a kind man and threats others the way he wants to be threaten himself.

People feel the difference between someone who is acting from a place of lack (nice guy) and from a place of self confidence and genuine kindness.

Bad boys also are not acting from this place of lack and they could even place other people below them (on the invisible social ladder), which for some women (indeed mostly young or very unsecure women) feels like they need to compensate and therefore fuck them.

Internet_Frank · 2021-11-06T09:12:14+00:00

If nice guys aren't really nice why are they still called "nice guys". They should be called something else like "weak guys", "dishonest guys", "mama's boys", etc,,, You are just kicking the can down the road with the term "Kind guys". Tomorrows Kind guys will be just as despised as todays Nice guys.

AelfredRex · 2021-11-06T13:00:50+00:00

NiceGuy = "I respect you too much. I would never think of you sexually like those fuck boys.", but he totally is. He's dishonest. His energy is manipulative.

Bad Boy = Unashamedly undressing her with his eyes while thinking of doing things that will make her moan to the Goddess in praise. He's honest. His energy is sexual.

You don't have to be an asshole to be a Bad Boy, but you do to be a NiceGuy.

timjuul2003 · 2021-11-06T09:20:27+00:00

Be a kind guy guide: be a nice guy

Rikthelazy · 2021-11-06T11:29:12+00:00

Why do we use words like nice and kind amongst men shouldn't we be using respect ? It makes more since when you out in terms of respect

HandsomeHerb · 2021-11-06T15:45:12+00:00

i was with you until you said pay for dates

One-Hedgehog4722 · 2021-11-06T16:34:54+00:00

I would change kind to good. Being a good person and doing the right thing. Sometimes doing the right thing you won’t be acting “kind”.

falseaccount94 · 2021-11-06T16:44:17+00:00

or just a good guy

flakscream · 2021-11-06T17:18:59+00:00

"No more Mr. Nice Guy" is a good book which shows the difference between a nice guy and a good/kind person.

FlanneryODostoevsky · 2021-11-06T20:20:19+00:00

Same shit different stages.

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