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themostgianthorse · 2021-10-12T03:36:11+00:00

Your willingness to change to get her back is precisely the reason you will not.

You are making her the prize. Stop it. You are ( or will be) the prize.

“Your too nice” = “ You are unassertive or clingy or needy. You are not self assured enough and do not have a masculine presence.” It may not be this exactly but that’s the gist.

Do yourself a favour and read “No More Mr. Nice Guy” and do the exercises in the book. Lift heavy weights.

This one’s gone. Attempts to get her back will only confirm for her that she made the right decision.

Therocksays2020 · 2021-10-12T03:07:51+00:00

Sorry bud you are unlikely to get her back. What you can do is improve for future relationships.

Don’t be so agreeable. A little tension and being your own person is important

redheadedwonder3422 · 2021-10-12T10:04:32+00:00

This one is a right off... the fact you wanna win back someone who left you because you was nice just shows how nice you are.

Now do this everything you was doing just do the opposite, no woman likes Mr nice and in a few years that same girl will be asking wheres all the nice guys

But please bro do your self a favour and move on go gym, get new clothes, and get the fuck out there

A pimps place is in a hoes face

And please don't let me hear ur opening doors for hoes again I will personally come and beat yo ass

skyrunner22 · 2021-10-12T04:28:17+00:00

She left to find a bad boy to ravish her.. Your niceness was a turn off, look up the etymology of the word "nice", see what comes up (Foolish, stupid, ignorant, unaware, etc.) women dont like all that disney stuff you were sold. Honestly the only way you could get her interest was to move on, reinvent yourself and get a new gf that is hot and even that is low percentage hail mary.

You sound really young and this might be your first gf, so its gonna hurt and suck but it happens, build yourself up and take the advice others have said.

TheSunshineMan · 2021-10-12T03:05:43+00:00

You don't.

That ship has sailed.

The odds of it working out a second time are super low.

Get over your oneitis and go talk to and date and fuck other girls.

MRUR123 · 2021-10-12T03:09:12+00:00

She said you are “too nice”. That may just be a nice way to break up with you. What else is she supposed to say, that she’s moving on to greener pastures? I agree with the other comments. Move on and you will find someone that truly cares about you.

gangweedsavedme · 2021-10-12T03:24:28+00:00

Let go… and learn not to force relationships, it should be natural.

Pluglord · 2021-10-12T03:45:08+00:00

Move on and stop being “nice”.

Accomplished_Ad_3418 · 2021-10-12T04:10:11+00:00

She’s indicating you’re not assertive enough or too laid back.

zaphaq · 2021-10-12T15:58:07+00:00

Only way to get her back is for HER to come back to YOU. That means you don't contact her for ANY reason your brain is telling you right now. Want closure? Fuck closure, just disappear. Keep her wondering what happened to that nice guy. The one thing she'll definitely expect from a nice guy right now is him begging her back on his knees. That's the most unattractive thing you can do.

Actionable advice:

NO CONTACT
Unfollow her from all social media
If it's your first gf or you have some kind of unprocessed childhood issues like abandonment or anxious attachment style: cry it out, suffer a bit, find distraction with friends (and other girls if your emotional corsett allows this already). In the worst case, take therapy.
Wait and do what the others in this thread say, work out, focus on emotional intelligence, do the inner work, stop being a nice guy, do some research, forget that Disney stuff.
Either you move on and will be happy or she comes crawling back to you because you reinvented yourself, put on some muscle and became attractive by NOT being a nice guy anymore. In the 2nd case it will be up to YOU if you take that girl back or not after she dropped you at your lowest point.

Fart_Barfington · 2021-10-12T03:05:38+00:00

Move on. If a change was good enough she wouldn't have dumped you. This may sound harsh but the road you are going down is not a healthy one and will not end happily.

ricoconyo · 2021-10-12T03:35:35+00:00

You dont. You find another girl

Alextryingforgrate · 2021-10-12T04:36:18+00:00

You just need to let her go become a bad ass and unintentionally win her back.

Dumy_Hmn · 2021-10-12T18:15:16+00:00

Sorry for my English, I'm still learning.

Dude i feel you. A lot of the comments are telling you that you must move on. And maybe you dont want to, you think this girl was special, you had something different, you were meant to each other. I understand why you wouldn't want to let her go. But trust me. It's the best for you.

I was in the same situation a year ago with my ex. I saw every single fucking video on YouTube on how to get her back, I asked friends and family what to do, but everybody told me that i must let her go. But I refused, I was going to do whatever it took to get her back.

At the end nothing worked, i cried and missed her so badly. Every fucking day crying, couldn't sleep, couldn't eat, couldn't do anything, I was sad as shit. One day I just felt tired and decided to get out of that hole, so I started improving myself.

At the start it was for her, like the final battle to win her back hahaha. But once you're on that journey, you start to care less and less about her, and more about who you are and who you want to be for yourself.

I swear, getting dumped by my ex was the best fucking thing that could ever happened to me in my entire life. She was my first love, the one I lost my virginity with, I wanted to get her back so badly because i didn't feel like i would be worth for any other girl. I was depressed. But all that situation forced me to improve myself. And I'm really glad about it.

At this time I'm just friends with her. And thanks to game, improvement and a lot of practice I'm currently dating another girl which I consider to be a 9/10 she's gorgeous and I like her so much. It's just a casual relationship cause, for being honest I really want to keep improving my game and my life in general, at the end I'm still young (21) for getting too involved into a long term relationship, at least on my perspective.

At the end you can do whatever you want, it's your life, I just wanted to share my 2 cents. Hope it can be helpful.

Wish you the best man, do what you think is good for you.

DebtMoist4096 · 2021-10-12T18:18:31+00:00

Great advice and all; but so you are saying women don’t appreciate a nice guy and want a asshole?? Is this common knowledge now? I don’t want to hear no more about women want a good dude! The comments are literally saying: bro women don’t like good guys and you’ll be more respected if you treat em like shit.

IN 2021 it’s literally common knowledge not to treat these bitches with respect now, must be some truth to it.

Sure nobody likes a nice guy pushover, but why not try to help him understand ( I’m taking about women). Leave him but at least be respectful and don’t have any contempt for him.

It’s ok nice guys, I am a reformed nice guy that will do my part in treating these girls like shit just like how your girlfriend wanted you too!! They can’t get enough

tes_befil · 2021-10-12T18:38:47+00:00

How long were you two together? I'd also wager you're both young?

You need to focus on improving yourself and doing things for you. If you want to avoid being too nice you have to think for yourself more instead of trying to please her. Act the way you want and do the things you want instead of trying to win her over by being nice. Its totally fine to be selfish with a girl, in fact that can be attractive.

The reality is that the man who is more self-centered and does what he wants is more attractive than the man who gives his undying attention to a woman. Its because you have your own purpose, and when you do show affection it means so much more because you're not always being nice.

I hope this makes sense, I went through the same thing when I was younger.

Yousrn_me · 2021-10-13T00:48:21+00:00

First off, you sound young. How old are you? When a girl says you are too nice, what she means is you aren't dominant enough in the relationship. She wants a man that will lead her and that she can look up to. Doing all that extra stuff i.e compliments, flowers etc. All the time demonstrates to her that you look up to her and not the other way around. Also it loses its value when she expects it. Keep those things to a minimum so that they are more meaningful when you do them. Best thing you can do in this situation is move on, and meet other women. Hit the gym. Become educated. Get a good career. All of these things will make you more dominant in life and in relationships by proxy. Easier said than done though of course

QtK_Dash · 2021-10-12T03:59:03+00:00

Don’t. Go find someone who loves that you’re nice. Being nice isn’t a weakness. There are many women who would love someone to hold the door open, get doted upon etc. and you deserve someone who has more EQ.

2021-10-12T03:21:10+00:00

Move on boyo

2021-10-13T07:05:20+00:00

Too nice sounds like boring to me. Are you getting her flowers because she likes flowers or because thats what you think a boyfriend should do? Does she recieve complements well, or do they make her uncomfortable? Youre dating a person not the idea of a girlfriend. I would try to work on yourself, maybe do the love language quiz to learn about how you show affection. You can ask a future partner to take it and learn how they want to recieve affection. It can be that you were just incompatible and thats okay.

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