Self-improvement slump

PUA_101 · 2015-08-07T16:13:36+00:00

I was in a similar situation, I was in my late 20's before I realized I needed to make a change. Best kick in the ass I can think of is that your life is probably anywhere from 1/3 to 1/2 over and if you're not going to make a change now, do you think it's going to get easier or harder to do so as time goes on? Put the past behind you, it doesn't matter and it doesn't serve you one iota to give it any attention. You're different now, that's all that matters. Girls like guys in their 30's, but their expectations for you are also a little higher, so get working on that too. What I mean by that is it's OK to fuck around in your 20's, but now they expect you to be on your purpose and passion and living a life you enjoy. Remember this journey is about YOU, not the girls. You're doing this so YOU can be happier, not so girls will like you.

Imagine what your life will look like in 10 years if you don't take action today. For me that was one of the best ways to kick my own ass on a daily basis.

MrLestat · 2015-08-07T15:52:24+00:00

Get up and do it. It's a cheesy line but once you get momentum, the good things will keep piling up.

In addition to this, I will be living on my own in apartment for the first time in a long time, so my finances will be tight.

No time for crap or bullshit then, take some pen and paper and write up a budget. And follow it. Cut spending on unnecessary stuff like sweets and stuff that's not as good. Eat more vegetables, they're cheaper too! And like /u/citystars said, you don't need a gym. Chest push ups, jogging, squats, sit ups, planks,... you can do these at home.

Despite my turn arounds, I am finding myself in front of the TV

So what are you waiting for, turn it off, put on some trainers and go run 1km. Then 1.5km next week. Then 2km. Start small and end big! Do you wanna wake up when you're 40-45, unaccomplished, lazy and with two unplanned kids with a random girl you barely like, because you drunkenly knocked her up at your work's new year's party?

ESSIENblaster · 2015-08-07T17:24:02+00:00

Don't get sucked down the Netflix hole or feel sorry for yourself.. Do something productive instead! Regarding the gym budget check out /r/bodyweightfitness too.

Not2original · 2015-08-07T18:21:24+00:00

You don't need to go to the gym to improve yourself.

Push-ups, crunches, walking and running are all free. A lot of green-way trails have equipment stationed on the side that's free to use.

I'd say to not go the online dating route yet. You still need time to heal from your break-up and get into an established pattern and really invest in yourself. Learn how to be a complete person so you know what you want out of life so that when you do start dating you know how to properly screen your potential mates.

citystars · 2015-08-07T15:38:31+00:00

Make some mutual friends within your work. Easiest way to start out for meeting new people. You don't need a gym to work out either. Get a pull up bar and you can do virtually any work out with that thing. Just stay positive n leave the past behind you.

Vonaviles · 2015-08-07T16:21:34+00:00

Are you sure it ended mutually?

Kim_Jong_illuminati · 2015-08-07T18:16:12+00:00

All the same, it's like everything I knew and thought about women was wrong.

You might want to visit /r/theredpill

JessePinkman88 · 2015-08-08T05:49:15+00:00

Make consistent, small changes. They add up over time.

Eg. If you're trying to lose weight, cut out one snack per week and go for a 5 minute walk. Then in a few weeks, extend the walk to 10 minutes.

If you try to do too much at once, you'll feel overwhelmed and just quit.

If you set yourself small achieveable challenges, you'll look back and see that you've actually made a change. That will motivate you to keep going.

reddiot666 · 2015-08-08T02:20:04+00:00

I hear ya man. Just stay in and watch netflix for the most part. Women in their 30's are a complete nightmare. There's no more "hanging out". It's typically either date to get married, or have children or don't bother with them. And don't try and change their mind or they will try and ruin your life. Just avoid them. I'd date younger if I were you. I'd recommend a French or Spanish college class at the local community college, or art. Something real easy but probably full of hot chicks.

Title	Self-improvement slump
Author	alltrueism
Upvotes	18
Comments	23
Date	August 7, 2015 3:17 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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