Do you guys prefer a direct or indirect approach?

becomesharp · 2025-10-19T22:43:56+00:00

Indirect is smoother and overall more effective, everything else being equal.

But direct is more efficient, builds more confidence, better for inner game, and sometimes is the only approach that makes sense in the context.

Overall you need both to be well rounded and effective.

Think of it like striking vs grappling as a fighter. You can't succeed with only 1 unless youre fighting newbies.

Prestigious_Water336 · 2025-10-19T21:41:09+00:00

Definitely indirect

I always comment about the situation,place, or something happening then I introduce myself.

This makes the interaction feel more organic and natural

Altruistic-Patient-8 · 2025-10-19T22:31:47+00:00

I prefer being direct. Flirting isnt my strong suit.

alanschorsch · 2025-10-20T06:42:11+00:00

If she rejects you for being indirect, she would’ve 100% rejected you if you had been direct. But if she rejects you while direct, it does not mean she would’ve rejected you if you were indirect.

So indirect is better in every single way. Except for the fact that some guys just don’t like the hassle and want to get to the point.

DescriptionRare576 · 2025-10-19T23:40:15+00:00

As a guy, I guess I’m pretty oblivious if a woman is interested in me. I need a direct approach!

epimpstyle · 2025-10-20T11:16:25+00:00

Indirect + situational/observational and if you don’t get the reaction you want, you can simply walk away leaving her with the impression that you’re just a friendly, social guy. That way, you can re-engage later, and the second time you see her, it’s super easy.

Many guys think that being indirect means spending 5–10 minutes talking about the building/street you are supposedly looking for but in reality, it only takes 30 seconds - 1 minute and then a "transition" > done!

Accomplished-Pen7695 · 2025-10-20T03:41:31+00:00

Direct because it’s confident and I don’t want to waste my time or theirs as a man I see it as masculine energy and women feel that

PitifulResponse2835 · 2025-10-20T05:44:59+00:00

Direct. It removes low interested women who I’m talking to. Indirect game takes up too much of my time.

miyass_miyass · 2025-10-20T06:49:13+00:00

In my experience I can only really commit to staying in set and trying for the close consistently when I open direct

I also find I just do way more sets

Foreign-Spring9076 · 2025-10-20T13:43:30+00:00

I prefer direct. I hate wasting time. If we dont bond then we dont bond. Everyone is not meant for everyone lol

VGClementine · 2025-10-21T04:24:09+00:00

I always do a direct approach. Works better

Dandys3107 · 2025-10-22T20:07:12+00:00

Generally you want to implement indirect approach which matches our current social culture and gender dynamics, but depending on the circumstances and the woman you interact with, you can switch towards more direct approach that will suit the vibe more.

Murfdigidy · 2025-10-20T02:58:01+00:00

Direct(ly) to my bed approach

Total_Obligation_371 · 2025-10-20T00:53:53+00:00

It actually doesn't matter the large majority of the time. I've known guys who go direct and do well, and I've known guys who go indirect and do well. I've also done both and it doesn't seem to make a difference as far as conversion rates.

The main thing a girl looks for is if you meet her looks threshold, are not nervous, and have normal general social skills. And then obviously she has to actually be available / not in some type of relationship. If you meet all those standards, the type of approach means next to nothing.

Title	Do you guys prefer a direct or indirect approach?
Author	AscensionInProcess
Upvotes	14
Comments	18
Date	October 19, 2025 9:34 PM UTC (9 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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