Do you make it clear from the beginning that you are looking for FWB’s… or do you wait for her to ask “where is this going?”

JustDynamite · 2022-08-01T09:35:20+00:00

Honestly, I make it clear from the beginning. If you don't and you're not both on the same page it doesn't tend to go well.

MywarUK · 2022-08-01T12:10:11+00:00

From the start, I always say i’m unsure what I want currently but happy to hangout etc and see where it goes. Most time they ask if you wanna be FWB’s.

freespirit1963TJ · 2022-08-01T18:24:09+00:00

I believe it's the best policy to communicate your expectations very early on. Why cause confusion, hard feelings and waste each other's time?

cobraCL · 2022-08-01T14:47:20+00:00

Being transparent would be the most ethical option.

You describe yourself as tender, affectionate and nurturing. Those traits tend to accelerate attachment and due to their inherent intimacy, women could mistake them as signs of something 'deeper' developing.

atomant88 · 2022-08-01T19:46:28+00:00

dont ask/dont tell. let her bring it up. if she doesnt bring it up; great. then shes cool with it being casual. if she brings it up; be honest and respectful with her. no bullshit

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-08-01T10:50:15+00:00

From the beginning. Give women the choice to know what they are getting themselves into. They can take it or leave it. This is not a deduction technique.

2022-08-01T14:24:35+00:00

If she questions you after the first time having sex then yeah tell her what your looking for. Or you can bring it up first, it doesn’t matter as long as its known from the start ..

Delicious_Ad_1853 · 2022-08-01T15:49:09+00:00

As soon as I decide that I don't see exclusivity as a possibility, i put that out there. Hell, I'll even bring it back up repeatedly if I think she's lying to herself about the situation.

I ain't tryin to trick anybody. If they want what I'm offering, great. If not, that's cool too. Wish em well and move on.

BishopBullwinka · 2022-08-01T21:56:13+00:00

Wait til she asks

punkman01 · 2022-08-01T08:49:12+00:00

How about don't start a FWB relationship. You will spend your time lying to yourself that you don't have feelings for the poor woman. I don't see an upside for a FWB just regret.

RemarkableStudio8823 · 2022-08-01T23:33:22+00:00

Do you want real advice or do you want typical morality spill?

Only_Commercial_774 · 2022-08-01T17:46:45+00:00

Doesn’t matter it won’t end good anyways

PiscesPoet · 2022-08-01T21:52:41+00:00

it’s always interesting to see how people reacted heartbreak differently. Why not just cool it on dating for awhile?

thorwawy88888 · 2022-08-01T22:01:07+00:00

Depends bro If you really thinks she is a good girl but you are a 100 sure you don’t want more then sex say it from the beginning cause you might just be dragging her along

Normally I don’t bring it up if she starts talking about be honest

But remember you might think now that you just want sex but if you meet a girl and you start catching feelings It would be sad if you already told her no I would say take one step at the time but be honest if they ask you

Dianabayyebii · 2022-08-02T00:26:23+00:00

Just be upfront and honest. Then they are free to make the decision if that is something they are wanting to participate in. Just be aware, women (and men) can develop deeper feelings at any time, just kind of the territory sexual relationships produce.

Environmental_Lie561 · 2022-08-02T04:57:17+00:00

Tell them before you hook up with them, be up front on the first date.

Title	Do you make it clear from the beginning that you are looking for FWB’s… or do you wait for her to ask “where is this going?”
Author	TuckerTheCuckFucker
Upvotes	23
Comments	32
Date	August 1, 2022 7:25 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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