Greetings from Germany. American here who is living in Germany for the last 2.5 years and at this point has given up on girls. When I was living in the US I was confident, smooth, interesting, funny. I was a really laid back guy who enjoyed a lot of success at bars and on dates. When I first got here, lets just say there was an adjustment period. Everything I learned and had studied over the years was useless here. Being sexually flirty with girls here is a good way to get slapped and or instantly blocked on your cell phone. One night stands? You know it's a bad sign when the german word for One night stand is "One night stand." In 2.5 years I have never taken a girl home from a bar and averaged at minimum 1 a month while living in the US. The experience I have gotten with girls is that German girls are crazy and are essentially like minefields. It doesn't take much to screw up to the point where they will never talk to you again regardless of the reason and you will never know what that reason was or hear from them again. Language barrier miscommunication? See ya. Cultural misunderstanding? See ya later. Literally unbelievable to the point where I am questioning my identity as a person.

Don't want this to sound like a bash because there are some german bros out there that I would gladly take a bullet for and I hope will be at my wedding, but I shit you not, my experience here has brought my confidence to an all time low. Lower than it has ever been. I have tinder and the problem is that I get tons of likes, tons of girls starting conversations, but no matter whether we speak english or German, something that I am doing here is instantly turning girls off and it is nothing out of the ordinary that i havent done a million times at home. I can in no way figure out what is happening but as soon as I get their number or we make the transition to cell phones, everything instantly goes to shit. I would consider myself as someone who has strong texts game and I have tried not texting, over texting, boring texting, fun texting, flirty texting, absolutely nothing works for me.

Anyone have any experience or any ideas or any stories they can share? Really can't get out of this rut and have lost all approach motivation or motivation in general regarding girls. Should I just take a break? No idea where to go from here but it's making me literally not like this country because I cannot figure out what to do.