Seduction is hard. It's hard, because it requires not only skills about what to wear but also discipline to work out and basically a great life so you are happy.

According to seduction theory, unless you have those, you shouldn't even approach women.

But it's hen-egg. You are unhappy because your life sucks, but your efforts to improve it did not work or are very slow.

Then you get injured on the way or gather new psychological trauma, like a death in the family or you get mugged, which fucks with your psyche. And yet again, you go to therapy, something that wants your full attention, while the therapist wastes your time by waddling in your earliest past.

Basically every part of it is a science and wants attention. Even what to wear wants attention. How to work out, how to eat wants attention. Finances want attention. It never ends.

There are people on youtube who talk about clothing styles and create yet another science out of it. Not to mention grooming.

I resent people for pretending that pickup was easy to then add all those elements as requirements.

I often wonder, what the minimally required set of each is to get love, not the most attractive one maybe, but at least something that gets the ball rolling.

That just works even if not all or none of the "requirements" are in place.

What I got was just bláse from women. Now that I got older, I tried to act my age and that also didn't work out.

So my goal is to have someone who fills the void of loneliness and isolation to then grow together.