Easy time getting laid, hard time finding a girlfriend?

raatdigedi · 2022-10-19T06:49:39+00:00

First world problems

Due-Department-8666 · 2022-10-19T06:17:52+00:00

Ask your neighbor this exact question. She's already turned you down so you're not losing anything. And she would know you pretty well. You'll get a far better answer from her than random internet strangers who know verry little of you.

antonthecad · 2022-10-19T07:39:08+00:00

You're probably giving off player vibe, it's pretty normal if you find it easy to get laid. Women can pick up on it and will probably be worried that you'll stick around. Girls tell me this a lot, they ask probing questions about other girls if they are emotionally invested in you. It's normal.

Canadian-Seductioner · 2022-10-19T12:33:18+00:00

Sounds like your personality isn't really on par with your looks. Girls probably just like you for your looks, but don't think you have much else to offer them. This is just a guess based on what you've told us.

UnifiedField9000 · 2022-10-19T07:57:09+00:00

I have this same issue. If I find a solution I'll let you know lol

Ploikblah · 2022-10-19T13:59:08+00:00

My problem is kinda similar in that I can't get a girlfriend, but I also can't get laid.

2022-10-19T14:50:25+00:00

You probably give off the vibe that you're looking for a good time, not a long time if you catch my drift. Most likely she sees you as a douchebag she's attracted to enough she'd fuck, but she would no way in hell trust you in a committed relationship with her. Bonus points because you're knowingly an accessory to her own infidelity.

If I were to be cheating on my woman (not that I would) and the "other woman" knew, no way in hell I'd trust a homewrecker in a real relationship lol.

It could be a different case for the women you're meeting online, but there may also be a pattern there. Take an honest look at the way you're presenting yourself, and the way you think it comes off onto others. You are the most common denominator in all these scenarios after all.

notaproblem333 · 2022-10-20T07:50:50+00:00

Are you among the bottom 20% earners for your age range? In other words, do you look broke? Depending on your age, women will expect you to dress well and have your own place. In some countries, they will also expect you to own a car.

If you don’t meet these requirements, this would explain why they see you as a fuckboy rather than relationship material.

Club__Paradise · 2022-10-19T10:11:25+00:00

I find it hard to believe this to be honest. Sure, depending on the crowd you hang around there will be girls who are only interested in hookups, but most will want to tie down an attractive guy, especially if they don't think a guy as attractive as you will come around again soon.

I wouldn't call myself an objectively very good looking guy, I've had no problems converting girls who are attracted to me and want hookups into ongoing fwbs or relationships though. If you're more attractive than me it really should theoretically be easier for you. Unless you're hopelessly immature, highly annoying or just doing something weird to turn them off, I'm sure they'll want to tie you down.

Listen to enough girls and you'll realise most of them dream about taming that attractive player and making him all their own.

incognito3107 · 2022-10-19T08:34:21+00:00

Well, problem usually lays in connection. You are kinda "from different world". You will struggle with doing common activities, planning common future, holding plain conversations. Most likely you will turn to different girl spontaneously, sooner or later. You are more the type to "get such experience" rather than to "live life with". I guess you have two ways there. Either find that specific girl that suits your vibe, or come closer to being more of a relatable person.

wannbetheverybest · 2022-10-19T13:50:23+00:00

I have the opposite problem. I get seen as a relationship guy and I want to be like you. A fuck boi

A_Rabid_Doge · 2022-10-19T15:04:20+00:00

What planet are you on lol.

I get laid easily too but 90% of those girls would absolutely follow through and date me if I pursued it.

Gaydame · 2022-10-19T23:31:55+00:00

Sounds like they're picking up on your emotional issues

Virtual_Judgment7147 · 2022-10-20T12:53:22+00:00

Late to the party but, consider this. You think someone on a dating app, is serious about getting into a relationship? Especially apps like Tinder, it’s mostly hook ups.

That’s just one aspect, are you actually providing value to women when they talk to you, like do you provide a sense of stability or have personality.

Getting hook ups vs relationships are two different things and are engaged differently. I don’t know your full story but here is the thing, you will have to change your approach when getting women and where you get them from.

Do this by assessing how you communicate with women, are you just engaging them flirtatiously to get to the hook up, or are you giving vibes that you can be someone that can be taken seriously.

There is also other aspects of this but they aren’t that important to discuss (like financial stability, emotional stability and all of that), but that’s more of a later problem.

This all just comes down to how you approach and present yourself. If you present yourself as some hot sexy boy who can give great hookups, but doesn’t seem like the kind of man to provide anything serious, then most women you talk to are going to assume the former.

Title	Easy time getting laid, hard time finding a girlfriend?
Author	Throwaway9779779
Upvotes	7
Comments	18
Date	October 19, 2022 6:16 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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