Even drugs don't help

themostgianthorse · 2022-06-18T04:17:43+00:00

My advice is to completely disregard pick up or game for now. It’s not doing you any damn good and in fact may be holding you back because you are so in your head.

Make a point to approach 3 people per day (or whatever your schedule organically allows) for any reason. It can be men or women. The only requirement is that you do not know them. Then you will do the same except for specifically for approaching women.

Drugs and alcohol are buffers if used as a crutch. Consider for a moment that your subconscious knows this and with each subsequent drink or line, you actually become less relaxed. You’ve created an internal conflict.

Two other suggestions are:

Join toastmasters. It will not be fun at first but it takes fucking balls. You will be judged and that is the point. You’ll receive feedback on your speaking, body language, etc. everyone there is doing the same thing.
Download the headspace app. You need to learn to observe your thoughts rather than be your thoughts.

Destiny__Arrives · 2022-06-18T03:11:02+00:00

And everybody is talking or dancing with these girls. Its like everyone knows each other and everybody gets a girl but not me. Maybe some people aint built for this.

Real-Edge-9288 · 2022-06-18T09:29:31+00:00

even if you do make it with coke... good luck getting an errection with her 🤣🤣🤣

Calamity__Bane · 2022-06-18T04:02:36+00:00

I find cocaine makes my game worse, as it takes me out of my body and places me in my head (and if anxiety is a problem for you, cocaine will only make it worse, especially if you’re frequently doing a lot). Instead, you should lay off the blow and focus on inhabiting your body more. Read up about state control, and don’t limit yourself to state control within a seductive context, broaden your horizons across the board.

5_7pickup · 2022-06-18T03:48:29+00:00

Very true. If you cant approach then nothing matters.

Just go up to the girls and say hey you seem cool. I wanted to meet you.

MermaidOfScandinavia · 2022-06-18T12:28:23+00:00

Here is a crazy idea. Stop drinking and doing drugs. Seek professional help to talk about all your issues and find someone who knows how to help people with anxiety.

Destiny__Arrives · 2022-06-18T13:31:05+00:00

I will try brother. I've tried day game but i need time to force myself to do it. I know about the 3 second rule and will try to use it.

ResponsibilityKey427 · 2022-06-18T06:02:46+00:00

Tough

whypussyconsumer · 2022-06-18T03:04:15+00:00

Dude... I'm in the same situation as you... But if i know something is that drugs won't help... They never help... Specially cocaine and such... Maybe marijuana could do something... But still mixing it's even worse, try something else..., Like breath deeply and slowly

MillsVI29 · 2022-06-18T03:51:16+00:00

Have you taken a bootcamp or do you have someone to push you to approach?

Lighthero34 · 2022-06-18T04:07:34+00:00

Dude just saysomething

Say hi my name is ___ what's yours

Zestyclose-Big3528 · 2022-06-18T05:23:39+00:00

Think of it like starting out a new exercise when you're out of shape. At first it's going to be awkward, draining and often discouraging. But after awhile it gets better. You just need to start.

Kennymacdougall · 2022-06-18T10:07:29+00:00

Completely forget about Game for now. It's all a bunch of bullshit anyway.

Focus on your finances, mental and physical health right now and stay away from drugs.

Stay strong, brother

conorhuh · 2022-06-18T12:34:34+00:00

Start by approaching guys just to bro out with and chat shit with, then progress to approaching guys who are with girls and include the girls in the convo. And then finally approach just girls

hmntre · 2022-06-18T12:43:01+00:00

bubsjenk · 2022-06-19T04:48:09+00:00

Ight bro. Not sure if you will see my comment. But lemme help you out.

If u can't approach u cant get a girl no matter the money, designer clothes, attractiveness and physical shape.

Exactly. You are only halfway there. Being attractive is not ao women will flock to you because women are passive daters. They dont initiate. As men we cannot be shy. If you dont initiate you will be lonely forever. You must initiate.

Now heres my advice. You need to get rid of the anxiety. There is a phenomenon called systematic desesitization. For example if someone is afraid of dogs being by dogs who are friendly slowly desensitizes them to the fear of dogs. You fear approaching hot girls? Approach hot girls. But keep the stakes low for now. Find a campus or a mall and just simply ask the time. Then when you do that a couple a times try to make some small talk. Remember low stakes.

What i do is i compliment 5heir graphic tee shirts or their boots or their dyed hair. And i ask a question about it. This gets them to talk about themselves and you can build convo from there. And what this slowly teaches you is that women are like men and they dont scream "RAAAAAPE" for talking to them. Now the issue can arise with escalation which comes much later. If you made solid enough banter ask for number or ig depending on how aquainted you are. This allows you to make a second encounter. Hope i helped.

Title	Even drugs don't help
Author	Destiny__Arrives
Upvotes	6
Comments	46
Date	June 18, 2022 2:39 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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