[FR] I SUCK AND HERE IS PROOF

HazelnutBreeze · 2012-06-23T03:29:16+00:00

That doesn't mean you suck, you are doing something really brave by trying to meet new people by yourself. It will probably be tough to just join a group by yourself. You should probably go with at least one other person to make it easier to join another group's conversation.

surrealsweatysweater · 2012-06-23T03:23:54+00:00

I thought the tropical storm thing was genius. Perhaps I shouldn't be encouraging you to make lame jokes, but if I were there I would have taken off all of my clothes all at once. But.. No. Bad. Don't do that with other people. At least you tried. Cheers.

_saint · 2012-06-23T04:11:57+00:00

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Anonymous_Upvote · 2012-06-23T09:25:37+00:00

You did something very important. You went out. The only problem you had was losing your edge when you were out because it was probably early (band wasn't set up, so it was probably around 9pm-10pm) and people were not tipsy enough to give an enthusiastic reply to you.

You should've kept talking to those girls even after the tropical storm comment and just laugh about it and continue talking to them. I say stupid shit all the time when I'm out and since most people are drinking, they usually don't really care how stupid it is (well, in Australia, since we're a bunch of alcoholics living in the most dangerous place in the world! haha)

Anyway, I honestly think you did well. I really want to go out tonight, but I'm too lazy to drive 15 minutes to get to surfers and hit the clubs.

wildkilliams · 2012-06-23T05:42:21+00:00

Write a book about your life please.

HumanSockPuppet · 2012-06-23T09:33:33+00:00

This isn't a game of skill or a contest. You're going out and having fun.

The more relevant question is, did you enjoy yourself?

If the answer is no, then figure out a way to enjoy yourself while socializing and do that.

If the answer is yes (and I suspect that it is), then the night was a success, and you have nothing to worry about. Just keep going out, keep having fun, and don't worry about the outcome.

heywood_Jablomey · 2012-06-23T04:10:36+00:00

as long as you think you suck, you will. Confidence can do amazing things

IAmTheOmNom · 2012-06-23T14:13:18+00:00

Those interactions were basically not bad at all.

I suspect that your worst problem was that you didn't feel right about yourself. And projected that in your interactions.

I mean, what was that about running to the toilet? After the third time people probably started to notice that weird guy that runs to the toilet all the time.

Just relax and learn to be comfortable with yourself even in daring situations.

childishgames · 2012-06-23T06:19:42+00:00

I held up my glass and said "Hey guys, cheers!" They were incredibly weirded out.

First off, I think it is in your head that they were weirded out by this. Seems like a pretty normal and friendly thing to do. If they actually WERE weirded out, then it is them who suck, not you.

I approached and said they looked like they were just itching to dance. One of them replied that once the music started she would turn into a hurricane of dance moves. I replied that I would be a TROPICAL STORM of dance moves, which is better because there is less loss of life (I knew it was retarded before I even began to say it but I guess I just couldn't help myself, probably because I secretly hate myself or something). Then I "Cheers"d them as well, they weren't holding drinks so I had them punch my glass. Fantastic.

there is nothing wrong with this interaction at all, unless you were expecting to get laid from it or something. The joke wasn't half bad either... you probably just need to deliver it better.

I think you just need to relax a bit. Since I assume the bar was pretty empty, talk to the bartender, smile, joke around with people around you. In an empty bar, you don't have to constantly be bouncing around from group to group to bathroom to group etc. You approached two sets of random strangers which is more than many could say on a given night.

2012-06-23T10:52:16+00:00

You can certainly write entertainingly, and really, going out and talking to people like you are is a great start. You've got serious potential. This sounds like a mediocre night out at the start of your transformation story to the seriously awesome life-of-the-party dude that you are going to be.

caulking · 2012-06-23T13:32:01+00:00

How did you use that tropical storm line and not get laid?

peachpua · 2012-06-23T14:29:53+00:00

Sarging solo, despite what a lot of people say, is incredibly difficult. It's difficult to the point that I wouldn't suggest it to newcomers since there's a high chance of it shattering their frame/self-esteem and turning them off to pickup altogether.

That being said, you went out, opened sets and internalized the lessons. Next time you'll feel more comfortable, stay in set longer, talk to more people, etc. Baby steps :)

blickar · 2012-06-23T06:03:16+00:00

It was pretty good.

yurps · 2012-06-23T08:41:24+00:00

Dashing and daring. But sometimes, you've seen -- people are intimidated by how bold a single individual seems when they approach a crowd. Even though you exemplified quick wit and perfectly mild enthusiasm, you feel it didn't work. I'm sure you also sensed that intimidation might've been compounded by the male pair's and the female pair's lack of quick wit, respectively, in comparison with your own. Your encounter may've indicated that they weren't good friend material.

Still, I always shoot for the stars. All of them at the same time. And you, for doing the same -- have my respect. Please don't quit that attitude, because I'dve been happy to drink with you.

Brumbee · 2012-06-23T08:54:45+00:00

You got inside your own head. If going out was an accomplishment, then opening two sets once you were in is a win. Just build on that success.

Leelluu · 2012-06-23T13:20:17+00:00

Part of it is about audience. I would have laughed my ass off at the tropical storm / loss of life line. If you have a nerdy sense of humor, don't change it... rock it until you find the girl who laughs with you!

strapro · 2012-06-23T13:57:53+00:00

You did something that most people are terrified to do or only talk about doing. In my book you are golden.

Going out with a wing might help and as long as you both know that you are out to meet new people you shouldn't feel bad for not talking to your friend. (although someone who will completely ditch their friend for some girl seems kinda shitty)

I think I read somewhere in seddit that when you go out you should have a Fight Club kind of mentality. Explect to crash and burn and laugh your ass off about it. Experiment, fuck up and ultimately learn. I think it's a pretty good point of view to have when you are a newbie (much like myself)

Keep on rocking dude.

2012-06-23T14:30:54+00:00

Dude your hilarious, how could the ladies not dig that?

PS.
I'm going to use that hurricane/tropical storm of moves.

2012-06-23T14:55:59+00:00

noice dude. story of my life.

TheNicestMonkey · 2012-06-23T17:09:45+00:00

ne of them replied that once the music started she would turn into a hurricane of dance moves. I replied that I would be a TROPICAL STORM of dance moves, which is better because there is less loss of life.

I'm going to be honest...this is hilarious.

2012-06-23T18:17:21+00:00

We've all been there. You're in the Pain Period and it's a fucking grind that smashes your balls every night.

The only important thing is that you continue doing it. Just know that ~~all~~ a bunch of the other bros in seddit are going out and you're not alone in spirit.

2012-06-24T02:53:03+00:00

Bro, the tropical storm lines was fucking amazing. Here's what you need to do: Calm. The. Fuck. Down......relax.

Mindset: you've been here before, this is the thousandth club you've been in, the thousandth chick you've gamed. You are unaffected by any outcome. You are just having a good time, but a RELAXED good time like you always do.

If you could go back in time, you should wait for the band to set up, as soon as they start playing, walk up, grab BOTH of the girl's hands and walk them to the dance floor. Don't ask. Do it. A "lets do this" will suffice.

Dance with BOTH of them, not just the one you're interested in. Dance with other girls who come onto the dance floor.

During a break, get a drink and kick normal game.

You're problem is all mindset, dude. You are assuming the worst. I bet the guys you did a shot with thought it was funny.

fakesteez · 2012-06-23T09:30:31+00:00

L-O-FUCKING-L

This is great. Keep going at it. Don't forget to post here too ;)

Title	[FR] I SUCK AND HERE IS PROOF
Author	_saint
Upvotes	59
Comments	55
Date	June 23, 2012 2:45 AM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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